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I'm a virgin

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Armoured_Soap_Dish, Jul 26, 2017.

  1. Armoured_Soap_Dish

    Armoured_Soap_Dish Fapstronaut

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    I have a few questions for you all.

    Should I just look to having sexual intercourse via the quickest way e.g hire a hooker and lose my virginity before beginning nofap?

    Or should I go and try to find a girlfriend and lose my virginity that way?

    The reason why I ask is because I researched into local escorts in my area and found a few. I texted them and a few replied back. This got me super aroused and I broke my 12 day steak. My first ever NoFap streak.

    I'm now on phase 2 day 1 of my new nofap streak I've deleted the hookers numbers and I'm not sure what to do.

    I sill have tinder so maybe should I still use that?

    Also can you masturbate to ejaculation during nofap without porn? Is this allowed?

    I say this because there have been times where I haven't been able to sleep because of my aroused state.

    I'm new and this was my first post. Thanks folks!

    STAY STRONG NEVER GIVE IN
     
  2. The Consigliere

    The Consigliere Fapstronaut

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    I would try and actually build a relationship with a woman all the way up to sex. I just don't believe in the use of hookers or escorts and I never will. That's what I suggest. I would delete those texts with those escorts, get out there and just mert new women. Don't make it your intentions to jump right into their pants. Actually befriend them and work your way from there. This is coming from one virgin to another.
     
  3. gvtrhg

    gvtrhg Fapstronaut

    It's not necessary to be a virgin before beginning NoFap. I'm a virgin. But you shouldn't look to using an escort service over a real relationship, especially for your first time. It's just an unnecessary option you don't have to take.

    Losing your virginity is an option but also not necessary before beginning NoFap.

    No, you cannot masturbate without porn. Have you read the rules yet? They are in this downloadable pdf.

    Keep strong through your aroused state! There are many others like you! There is also a panic button mobile app you can look into for inspiration if you'd like to.
     
  4. Drew140

    Drew140 Guest

    No hookers or Tinder. Learn how to interact with real women.
     
  5. franco216

    franco216 Fapstronaut

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    What exactly is your motivation behind losing your viginity? Why is that an attainable goal for you?

    Regarding the challenge: I think, for me, doing a challenge where I only abstain from porn but still allow myself to masturbate and have orgasms would make sense. I realized, however, that abstaining from PMO altogether doesn't make my challenge anymore difficult. I am much more addicted to the consumption of porn than to the actual masturbation/orgasm. So regardless of how other people to it: if abstinence from PMO seems to big of a challenge to you, sure, try abstinence from porn alone and see where it gets you!
     
  6. Armoured_Soap_Dish

    Armoured_Soap_Dish Fapstronaut

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    Holy Kek you people are so wonderful and brilliant I wish I could thank all of you in person. Such great and sound advice I'm so pleased I'm now part of this community.

    I genuinely was expecting a Yahoo style answers situation where I was going to get trolled but you wonderful people have all given me such sound advice. Thank you to each one of of you for taking the time write that.
     
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  7. Armoured_Soap_Dish

    Armoured_Soap_Dish Fapstronaut

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    I hope I'm using this thread correctly I'm new to this. I have another question. Sorry.

    I have met this sexy woman on Tinder and she has been the cause for one of my masturbation orgasm relapses recently. You see I feel as though I just want to hook up with her and have sex for the first time. She's an older woman 13 years older than me I'm 20. For some reason only older ladies turn me on.

    Should I meet her and have sex "unlikely" or delete this trigger and move on and find a real gf?

    Also didn't you virgin guys sometimes feel that you needed to get laid before starting nofap?

    Is one of your goals to get laid? Or do you prefer to abstain until you are free of the addiction then get laid?

    STAY STRONG
     
  8. Slothman

    Slothman Fapstronaut

    @Armoured_Soap_Dish Yo Brother, Do NOT use hookers here's why:
    First of all YOU will remember that ALL of your life, and you will despise the feeling of giving your virginity to a slut.

    Second Tinder is hard okay, it's tricky it may work or it may depress you, after you swipe right 2000 girls and get no reply that shit gets to you when you're a virgin and hell even if you're not.

    Third Start NoFap with virginity and all, like who cares, you may start feeling betters and build some confidence eventually getting a girlfriend and having the best time of your life.

    I lost my virginity with a random girl in a party, it was not cool, i didn't feel anything that great and it left a void inside of me.
    Either way just find the special one dude.
    It's never too late to start, is always too late to wait.
     
  9. bh358

    bh358 Fapstronaut

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    Hey from someone that has used hookers I would advise not to. I lost my virginity to a friends with benefits at 28 and I am glad I did. I used a hooker when I was younger but just got a blow job. Sex with a hooker is barely better then masturbation if its good (but can be worse) and is a form of porn. Most porn is just hookers doing it in front of camera. Seeing a hooker is porn for your own private entertainment.

    Sex with hooker where they doing it just for money (sure they might like sex too, but they don't lie to yourself they are only doing it with you for money) doesn't even remotely compare to one night stand where the woman is doing it cause they find you physically attracted.. And one night stands don't even come close to sex when in a relationship. I honestly don't understand the hookup culture cause I would choose relationship sex any day or time over a random hookup.

    I don't see anything wrong with random hookup for losing virginity though. I just saying for me personally nothing compares to relationship sex (by relationship I mean its not just some random person). Its natural to be curious what sex will be like but if you do it with a hooker you don't get the proper experience. You still feel what its like to have your penis inside a vagina but it is very meaningless sex and you basically just masturbating into a person who is selling their body for money. Often times after seeing a hooker I felt I should of just masturbated.
     
  10. Drew140

    Drew140 Guest

    Do not use a hooker
     
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  11. Well we would probably all lie, if we said no.
    But it´s not our top priority. (Or at least it should not be)
    Priority is to get our lives straight.
    Not just to abstain from PMO but also to get our emotions back, our willpower, our self esteem, our financial success, healthy relationships, not just with girls but everyone, a social life, and so much more.

    Oh and this tinder girl you were talking about. I would not advise you to try and have sex with her. This puts you under too much pressure to perform, and we will soon have another thread called: "Tried to lose my virginity but could not get it up".
    And even if you do manage to get it up and fuck her, what´s the point? Especially for someone, who has used porn for long times, the first time sex isn´t really pleasurable. You will need to have some kind of committed relationship, where you can fully appreciate sex.
    Sex in porn is all about perfect looking bodies, and crazy positions and sex practices, etc... It´s made to look good for the camera.
    That is not what´s pleasurable in real life. Your partner does not look perfect. Missionary is perfectly okay for starting out. And the stimulation from a vagina is much less, than your deathgrip masturbation hand. But the feeling of being so close to someone, feeling them, smelling them, tasting them, is so much better than anything porn has to offer.
    But you have to get used to it. And this can only be done by regular (s)exercise.
    Good luck on this journey.
     

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