I'm An Ideal Man, Is NOFAP The Last Hurdle In Overcoming My Anxiety?

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  1. J-CAT

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    Tomorrow is my 21st birthday and I'm incredibly proud of my journey in becoming a stronger man so far. I'm vegetarian, I eat healthily, I care for others, I give to charity, I exercise regularly, I study hard and I have good friends and family in my life.

    However, I still suffer from considerable general anxiety and social anxiety. It is nothing like how it was years ago, when I would lock myself in the school toilets to be away from others. Now I enjoy meeting strangers, going out with friends and speaking on stage. Still, at times I feel quite incapacitated in some of these social situations because of my anxiety. I've become much better at dealing with the thoughts, through meditation and active awareness, but to an extent they are still there.

    Now I'm ready to tackle NOFAP head-on. I've been on and off this programme for more than two years, always having relapsed after a short time. The most I previously managed was three weeks, more than a year ago. Now my streak has started afresh and I'm on my fourth day of NOFAP. I feel that this time I WILL succeed. I've been fapping since I was around twelve, I never watched porn for long times because I knew it wasn't good and I wanted the dopamine reward asap, which meant masturbating quickly. Still, I could go with masturbating to porn 2-3 times a day. I believe my masturbation/porn problem linked into social anxiety by providing me with temporary relief, giving me no need to address my underlying fears. Without being hooked up to porn I can achieve address those underlying fears and become a superman.

    Will NOFAP make me the ideal man? I have everything, now I want my energy BACK from pmo to work HARDER and STRIVE to be a better me.
     
  2. b bones

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    J-CAT great post, and I believe you will succeed! I'm a similar age and i'm in a similar boat. I can tell with confidence NoFap WILL help with social anxiety. obviously its not a cure all, but you will make leaps and bounds. You will get your energy back as well which will make you more productive. You go this J-CAT!
     
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  3. V4x

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    i have anxiety and NoFap didn't help me dealing with it at all. i recognize that pmo is a problem for me and i want to stop but i didn't gain any super powers or a great relief yet (i'm on 4 days with 3 relapses) but if you are feeling good and you are seeing the changes you definitely keep going and be the ideal man. stay strong bro
     
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  4. J-CAT

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    Thanks b bones. I feel a lot more energetic and even when I haven't had much sleep I now have the capacity to be productive from the start to the end of my day, NOFAP is even giving me the energy to be more proactive in social situations!
     
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  5. J-CAT

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    Thanks V4x; I'm rooting for you to reach your NOFAP goal. You mentioned that NOFAP hasn't helped you overcome your anxiety, but I believe NOFAP does indeed have the capacity to HELP us overcome our anxiety. For some people, NOFAP will open the path to the cure of anxiety but isn't the cure itself. Before NOFAP, we used PMO as a way to forget our emotional pain and fears, but forgetting doesn't fix the pain/fears, the emotional patterns which create these negative disturbances in our psyche still exist under the surface of our consciousness and eventually the pain/fears re-emerge. Whilst no NoFap we can actually address the seeds of anxiety in our consciousness since we're not obsessed about covering them over with soil (which is the self-destructive habit of PMO). Our consciousness becomes raw and malleable whilst on a NOFAP streak. My recommendation is to read books and listen to speakers who can help with withering the seeds of anxiety in our psyche, whilst on NOFAP.

    I recommend:
    - Stoic philosophy; the most prominent ancient advocates of this philosophy were: the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, the Roman statesmen Seneca and the once-slave Epictetus. Try starting with 'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius which is written in a simple way and isn't very long, you can easily find a free pdf of the work online.
    - Elliot Hulse's YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/user/elliottsaidwhat/videos)

    ^Let me know if you'd like more recommendations! Combine philosophy with NOFAP and witness the change!!!
     
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