The Man with The Plan
New Fapstronaut
I forgot how to make my own journal through this website. So I'll just post this publicly for now. I decided to cancel my account to this site a few months ago because my views no longer aligned with the NoFap philosophy and to be honest, it still quite doesn't. I believe that PMO is ok if you choose a bachelor kind of lifestyle and even then, it should still be done in moderation (which means once or twice a week on average). However, the reason why I'm back on this website is because I like the benefits of journaling. I pretty much stopped journaling to get my thoughts out but now I want to as I like to write and I don't mind people seeing my journal because maybe it might help someone in some way but I realize that everyone has their own journey so anything I say shouldn't necessarily be followed as I'm on my own journey or my own path.
It's also important to note, that my relationship to porn is healthy. However, I still believe porn may get in the way of dating, relationships, marriages etc. In fact, I'll go as far as to say that any vice may get in the way of those things especially if it's hidden from your partner as that can take a hit to your self confidence I think (probably due to shame). Which is why I'm back on the forum at least for now because I'm active in the dating world at the moment and I'm not quite sure why but I think it has to do with it being Summer time haha. I have a feeling that's when women want to date and meet people (and in the winter too... although, temperature wise, there isn't really a "winter" where I live lol).
I'm currently seeing a woman that I'm sexually attracted to which is good for both of us as we both value sexual attraction or sex quite highly. So far, I've only seen her once as we just started dating. I'm a very transparent person, so I let women know everything about me including my vice which is porn. Most women don't seem to care at first and may even relate until you let them know that you watched it (post 2nd date) because then they think "so he'll rather watch porn than have sex with me?" and some women that I've dated express this to me too (maybe not in those exact words however). The sad but truth answer for me is yes, I'll rather watch porn. However, this current woman I'm seeing excites me like how porn does. If I want to keep dating her, I definitely have to put the porn down so I could reserve all my sexual energy and vitality for her. I told her this too and she thinks it's a good idea. I PMO'd one last time the day after the date (2 days ago) mainly because we did sexual things that night but I didn't orgasm as I was trying not to. I told her all of this as well and she seemed very understanding. We had an incredible first date and next, we plan on going to Top Golf. Side note: I was on 6 days without porn whilst on the first date with her, I think that's important to note. I really like this woman and the communication between us is high too. So far so good. I wouldn't mind if things work out with this woman because that's how much I like her so far.
It's also important to note, that my relationship to porn is healthy. However, I still believe porn may get in the way of dating, relationships, marriages etc. In fact, I'll go as far as to say that any vice may get in the way of those things especially if it's hidden from your partner as that can take a hit to your self confidence I think (probably due to shame). Which is why I'm back on the forum at least for now because I'm active in the dating world at the moment and I'm not quite sure why but I think it has to do with it being Summer time haha. I have a feeling that's when women want to date and meet people (and in the winter too... although, temperature wise, there isn't really a "winter" where I live lol).
I'm currently seeing a woman that I'm sexually attracted to which is good for both of us as we both value sexual attraction or sex quite highly. So far, I've only seen her once as we just started dating. I'm a very transparent person, so I let women know everything about me including my vice which is porn. Most women don't seem to care at first and may even relate until you let them know that you watched it (post 2nd date) because then they think "so he'll rather watch porn than have sex with me?" and some women that I've dated express this to me too (maybe not in those exact words however). The sad but truth answer for me is yes, I'll rather watch porn. However, this current woman I'm seeing excites me like how porn does. If I want to keep dating her, I definitely have to put the porn down so I could reserve all my sexual energy and vitality for her. I told her this too and she thinks it's a good idea. I PMO'd one last time the day after the date (2 days ago) mainly because we did sexual things that night but I didn't orgasm as I was trying not to. I told her all of this as well and she seemed very understanding. We had an incredible first date and next, we plan on going to Top Golf. Side note: I was on 6 days without porn whilst on the first date with her, I think that's important to note. I really like this woman and the communication between us is high too. So far so good. I wouldn't mind if things work out with this woman because that's how much I like her so far.
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