I'm Cured!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by lucky007, Apr 21, 2016.

  1. lucky007

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    I'm so happy! I'm 100% cured!

    To recap, I'm a 36 year old healthy male who had a long history of years of jerking off.

    Because I grew up without a father, or any older brothers, I never had anyone to tell me that jerking off was so bad for you and that over time it would make having sex with real women more difficult.

    I wound up here because I wanted to get out of the rut of jerking off and started having sex with real women, and once I did start seeking out sexual partners I found that my "tool" wouldn't stay hard and I couldn't feel much pleasure or reach a climax.

    So how did I fix my situation?

    1. I stopped jerking off and only had actual sex with a real woman to find sexual release. Sexual release with a real woman is completely fulfilling and leaves me fully satisfied unlike with jerking off there is no end and it keeps haunting me to do it again even if I just jerked 10 minutes ago. At this point, I don't even have the desire to jerk off because sexual plesure with real women overrides pleasuring myself.

    2. When I was having problems going soft, I kept pushing myself to keep having sex even though I was embarrassed. I almost gave up but I kept pushing. I feel this is important to mention. I stuck with receiving oral sex for a while to "prime the pump".

    3. I started eating watermelon! Researchers say that watermelon contains citrulline which relaxes and dilates blood vessels much like V*** and other drugs meant to treat erectile dysfunction.

    4. I started using lube. Lube makes the world of difference! Lube makes a vagina feel so slick, wet, and moist.

    So putting all 4 of those things together over about a 2 month period I now have a sex life and my penis is fully recovered and I stay rock hard.

    My penis even looks different because real sex just fills it up swollen with blood and I now have a big vein the size of a straw going down the side of my penis!

    In closing, I wish you all the best and I'm glad I found this place so I didn't have to go through this completely alone.
     
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  2. iRebootMyself

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    Glad to hear that, keep going!
     
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  3. IGY

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    Clearly you are happy, but are you cured? When was the last time you looked at porn and/or masturbated? :rolleyes:
     
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  4. Alex10s

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    Good job.
     
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  5. lucky007

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    Hi. Just to backtrack, I personally was never addicted to porn. Maybe that is because I'm 36 and I didn't grow up with the internet like younger guys today.

    The problem was I was jerking off on my own private time. I was addicted to jerking off without the porn just fantasizing about women in my own head.

    Fast forward, all this jerking off caused me to develop erectile dysfunction which landed me here to this forum.

    As far as the last time I have actively seeked out porn was months ago, and since my penis is now working as it should, I haven't had the desire to jerk, nor have I, which is at least a month in and half and that's comming from jerking off 4-5 days a week sometimes 2 times a day.

    I have basically swapped one addiction for another more powerful one, but the sex with real women is natural, more meaningful, and leaves me feeling fulfilled, genuinely happy and more confident in myself.
     
  6. IGY

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    Well, you are heading in the right direction. But it really isn't that long ago you were rubbing away like your life depended on it! :oops: I would be very cautious in declaring (even to yourself) that you are cured! Many people relapse after much, much longer periods of abstinence than this. You cannot afford to be complacent. Keep your strategies close by. Don't lapse man.
     
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  7. fapsy

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  8. fapsy

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    So it took you 2 months to recover? Sounds alot like my situation. This is encouraging even though everyone is different. I don't feel addicted to porn either. Even though I used it. I was more addicted to masturbating. Was easy to quit porn, not mo.good stuff
     
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    "The problem was I was jerking off on my own private time. I was addicted to jerking off without the porn just fantasizing about women in my own head."


    @ lucky007 : Sounds similar to my situation, I don't think I was every addicted to hard core P, however I have been jerking and Ming all along from childhood and that is something which I am still not able to stop. I don't to watch P to MO all I need is to see a woman outside the whom who is slightly dressed provocative and my brain does the rest of the job and fires up the MO part.
    My question to you is how did you get rid of jerking off ? Did you quit the jerking off through a hard reboot by absolute celibacy and then after some period of cleanness you started this relationship with woman, or did you inter in the real relationship which helped satisfy you and during the process you didn't have to go back to jerking since you were satiated. I am just trying to see if entering a marital relationship might help because apparently I am hooked up with it and have never had any relationship and seeing most comments people suggesting that I have to get rid of this first before I decide to enter marry , but that day is not coming for me and I jerk off here and there despite all the effort that I am putting.
     
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  10. fapsy

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    For myself I attempted hard mode knowing my wife would want to have sex at some point. So we came to the agreement to have sex over a few day span each month since we are trying for kids. The rest of the month is hard mode. I'm only at day 37 right now of no porn or mo. Still have weak erections. Still have pe when we had sex. But still early in my 90 day attempt.
     
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  11. lucky007

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    Yep, we sound the same. I would see women in the streets in either yoga tights or sexy high heels (I have a foot fetish) and that's all it would take to set me off. It was so bad I would jerk off in my car as I couldn't even wait to get home. My problem was that bad!

    I did try to reboot/hardmode, but I could only go about 2 weeks until I would cave in and jerk off. Then from all the jerking, I gave myself erectile dysfunction.

    For me, going without sex, trying to reboot, but everyday being subjected to sexual images, and seeing women dressed sexually provocative everyday I just couldn't continue the reboot process especially since I have no desire to repress my own sexually.

    I just snapped and broke out of my old mold and pursued women sexually to replace jerking off. I feel "re-wired" as now I no longer lust after women in the street as I once did and sexual images no longer affect me as I'm having real sex with women who leave me completely drained. They say there is some kind of hormone that is released during sex that makes you feel fully satisfied that isn't released when you pleasure yourself.

    Anyway, if I were you I wouldn't jump into a relationship just to get sex and fix your issue. You need to find an outlet to where you can get easy no strings attached sex so you can enjoy yourself and work on your issue at the same time.

    Best of luck... Hope this helps...
     
  12. Hanging by a thread

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    Hi, how long did it take for you to stop lusting after women in the streets and in sexual images? Also, aren't you just picking up one habbit and dropping another?.. Such as giving up jerking off to have casual sex to satisfy sexual urge? Wouldn't you then have issues later if you hot into a relationship because you would be addicted to casual sex with multiple partners? The sex addiction mightcremain but just be in different form?.. Maybe full reboot to rewire the dopamine need is best then to band aid it with a different sex objective? Glad you are better though about not objectifying women in the street, especially since there's so many that sometimes dress suggestively, especially in he summer. Im amazed you were able to turn off that side effect so easily, good for you.
     
  13. BlackKnight

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    Do you have any tips on getting a penis bigger?
     
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  14. lucky007

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    If I knew how to make a penis bigger I would be rich.

    That said, you can create an optical illusion that your penis is bigger by shaving your balls and pubic hair.
     
  15. lucky007

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    Hi. Once I started having real sex, my desire to lust after women in the street just evaporated. I mean, the moment I ejaculated inside of a real woman, the pleasure was so good, and I was so relieved, I no longer had the strong desire to lust after women in the street or be overwhelmed by sexual images because I was actually having real sex.

    Yes, I have swapped one addiction for another, but my addiction to sex with real women makes me happy, it's natural, and I feel more alive and normal. In fact, for each lay with a hot woman, my confidence goes UP just a notch.

    For me, I'm definitely doing the right thing opposed to jerking off for hours on end damaging my self-esteem, confidence and penis sensitivity.

    My lack of penis sensitivity was truly frightening! I had some beautiful women in dog style position and couldn't feel a thing and couldn't remain hard. My self-esteem took a major hit when I was unable to use my penis for sexual purposes.

    As far as relationships, been there and done it... Not for me any time soon.
     
  16. Hanging by a thread

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    Was wondering if the side effects to pmo'ing is low self esteem, anger, objectifying and if those thing disappear with time not pmo'ing. I'm sure it's somewhat alleviated. How does the low self esteem and anger manifest from pmo? Shame? Watching other males perform and feeling inadequate in comparison? Or chemically imbalance? My be definitely exhibits anger and low self esteem. I'm sure a lot of that was post porn but porn just added fuel to the fire.
     
  17. lfromcr

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    You said, "More powerful one" Yea, man. If you were being honest in the quote above, be careful out there. That "more powerful one" has it's own pitfalls. For starters:

    -Later, when you're ready to settle down, it may be more difficult to stay faithful.

    -A good woman may never want to settle down with someone who has advanced to a sex addiction or is still just objectifying women.

    -Men who feel real good about their sex addictions at 36 y/o, don't know what to do with themselves later when their junk doesn't work as well, especially if their definition of manhood is based on sex.

    -And while you may not have been able to keep it up with PMO, it sound like the sexually transmitted diseases out there will make your s*it fall right off… (or of course kill you.)

    So be careful. No need to trade one addiction for an even more destructive one.

    There are other definitions of manhood besides virility. Maybe that's the next stage in your growth.
     
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  18. Hanging by a thread

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    This is all so true, I think it's going back to the original problem, which is addiction and problem is addiction progresses, you will not be able to ever be satisfied with one women or the same women if you've programmed yourself to be a machine who's purpose is to ejaculate. And so it escelates because your brain can no longer be satisfied by the same thing or person. It's similar to chemical substances because you've damaged your brain chemistry, go to your brain on porn to see the video. So years down the line you might need to do go to greater lengths for that high, transexual, animals and so on so forth to continue getting the dopamine boost. Don't say that woukd never happen to you because uoi never thiught this would and it did. Addiction is no joke, it will burn you at ebery chance. Becareful opening that Pandora's box. Addiction is addiction, there's no such thing as being ok with drinking just the light stuff so it ain't so bad, that's the addiction talking to you, eventually desentization settles in as it does with porn and you get yourself deeper in that rabbit hole.
     
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  19. im_alive

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    Well said dude - this is serious stuff we are trying to beat.
     
  20. lfromcr

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    Yea, even the pornographers admit the 'light stuff' is just a gateway to the heavier stuff.

    In fact, they count on it.
     
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