I'm dissapointed. 7 months and PIED not cured

Yea, that's what I meant, at the end of the day the body is a whole one, and trying to fix something on the surface without having solved the inside won't result successful, besides of NoFap what else have you tried so far to overcome PIED?

 

28-12= 16. The major part of your life. And after 7 mounths (...) you try with porn. Are you serious? Sorry, but it's very hilarious.
You're 28: start thinking about your future.

 

Try with porn is a wrong method, if you think your problem is caused by it.
You'll don't fix your problem by this way.
consult a doctor to check if there isn't physical problem.

 

Seven months is great. But, a handjob is masturbation with someone else's hand. Thus, your penis is still trained in the tighter feeling of a hand grip, as opposed to a vagina. Hence, you will not really recover "from PIED" in this way. You may be recovering from P and the urge to jerk yourself off - that's great, too! But, recovering from PIED is all about retraining your brain not to be addicted by manual sensations on you penis, but to be ready to engage (after 90-day abstinence) in vaginal sex. That's the point! Plus, you only reached 70 days. Typically, as instructed on this site, a normal reboot is at least 90 days, and sometimes longer for some guys still. Plus, the 90 days is needs to be "hardmode," where one is completely celibate (no P, no M, no O via regular sex) for 90 days. That is what is meant by reboot.

.

 

Yeah I think two years is about right for a reboot good enough to bring your dick up to full glory. In the meantime, sure, check with the doctor for any other things and eat as healthily as you can. You go as hardcore as you can with the reboot: No girlfriend then you can try total abstinence that includes no looking at girls whatsoever. That's what I did. I wouldn't look at adverts with hot chicks or anything and skipped sex scenes in movies.

Well now I'm married and things are looking up (sounds like a pun). The only sex I have is with her and I don't even bother to masturbate. The idea of the training is to have your dick work when the time comes and not reacting in little ways to the slew of stimuli that is hurled at you from... Girls walking around in skimpy clothes all day (I live in Spain so this one is massive), Sex or just hot chicks on tv, obviously no porn, NO FLIRTING, and no... (whatever else you do)

My dick is reserved for my wife, and that seems to have been a key factor in re-boning up my dick.

As a side note, you might try tapping and hypnosis to help get through trauma and heal the past. It SEEMED to help me but I can't be sure.

 

The addiction turns sex into something toxic. We do the reboot to turn sex back into something that indeed is good for us. In the thrall of addiction we are all drooling madmen and have to do what it takes to break free of the demon.

If you have a GF then by all means have sex with her but only her... no fantasies, no porn, no wanking, no checking out chicks on Insta... nothing. Teach yourself that YOU are the boss... not the crappy addiction.

 

I was raped by a male cousin at around 10 years of age for a long time. He seduced and intimidated me

The hurting child within




8 Jul 2020
Details
It's not that whether it happened or not that I know the answer. The real question is whether I come out and stop hurting alone or I could continue living two separate lives like I've always done. It's so painful when the person who is supposed to protect you becomes your worst nightmare.

Zel,I don't want to drag you into this whirlpool of emotions, I don't want you to drown in order for you to help me. I'm proposing something some sort of an exercise,I want you to try and use detachment. Do not think of this like a real story I want you to treat this like a horror novel
Or a movie where you pity and identify with the main character but with some distance. it's only happening on the screen

I don't have a full or even some recollection of the event. I have some fractured memory fragments, I can remember him telling me that I was better than all the girls he's been with and I can also recall some veiled threats and intimidation tactics..."No one will believe you....How can you tell father about something so dirty?"...."I'm the only one who protects you from the big boys in school"...I wish I could say that he forced himself on me in order to be free to be a victim. I think he worked on my mind over a long period of time...he cajoled,seduced and even begged me. I must have pitied him and gave in. It was so painful that's all I can remember and some night,I don't know if it was the first time or not but he pulled down my trousers crying. He must have been in some deep pain too.

My mind is blocking me I'll write more when I can. Thank you for being so understanding..You don't make feel ashamed, you give me what I lacked all this year's.... acceptance and non judgement. You are a warrior too and Thanks again


Yours
The neglected edwin

 

Man, that's hard. It matters little that your memory is vague because the event is imprinted on your emotional memory, which is a totally different part of the brain. If you permit me to make a suggestion: Go to trauma therapy of some kind. These things tend to get repressed and manifest in many harmful ways (such as sex addiction) including illness. When it comes to releasing the trauma by yourself, look at tapping exercises becasue as woo-woo as they sound, they can actually be of some use for cases like this. Another thing is to create a password protected journal in which you speak to your young self from the point of view of the strong adult male you are today. Write to him as a trusted advisor and give him the support he needs. You can start by believing him. Sometimes meditation or even hypnosis can help. YouTube is full of "let go of the past/trauma" type guided meditations. Some of them are rather good. You can but try, right?

Take care, bro

 

Wow...I am crying

Thanks

 

me too

 

What's up drkarim?

 

I think your story should have its own thread. This way more people can find it and it isn't taking anything away from the original topic from @majo2.

 

Im not sober for 7 months yet but I have this problem

 

Hi guys

I am really surprised why no one talks or even mentions the physical part, 3-5 months is enough to reboot and bring back all of your sensativity.

intense edging causes pelvic floor disfunction, so you have start pelvic floor rehabilitation along with nofap.
All of this squeezing and releasing of your pelvic floor and repeating to prolong the pleasure causes the pelvic floor muscle to became weak, tight and hyper-contracted, there fore causing ED, or partial ED that improves or fades in certain position.

A part from edging and masterbation your pelvic floor can get weakened by other factors like your posture eg. Anterior or posterior pelvic tilt or clenching your pelvic/ass in response of stress, your pelvic floor muscle should be relaxed all day by releasing all the tensions down there thru deep breathing or awareness.

 

if you rarely take sildenafil, it's ok, but remember that it is also psychologically addictive, and after some time you may feel that you can't cope without it. And in the worst case, as in my case, the pills no longer work. I've hit rock bottom

 

For some, 7 months just isn't enough recovery time. I wasn't near fully recovered when I hit 7 months of total abstinence.
My goal is to hit the 1 year mark, with knowledge that I might need a full 2 years to recover... That's just my situation. Sucks. But it is what it is.

 

This may end up being what does it for me as well. Especially chronically engaging in the PMO loop for more than a decade.

My body just needs a complete reset and that means abstaining for a while. But then I do worry that I will have performance anxiety when it's time... if I'm able to determine when that time is.

All in all. I have a lot of work to do and I'll definitely be watching this thread. Hope OP worked it out.