Im done with pmo im done

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by IggyIshness, Oct 22, 2016.

  1. IggyIshness

    IggyIshness Fapstronaut

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    welcome to 2016 2017. Masturbation is instant gratification? Its free its right there its easy its fun. I feel retarded after relapsing today. i cannot take this anymore. I feel so guilty. i feel like i ruined my life and its no going back im dead. Did any successfull people masturbate? any geniuses or anything? So if saying if you dont masturbate you are really smart and yuou will be smart and have potential but if you dont ur a loser forever. Is this really true? i want to be a pro athlete and i cant let this take me over. Any thoughts?
     
  2. zippytime

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    Take it a day at a time. Be strong. Keep in mind your goals and try to keep focused on them. But if you do relapse. Don't beat yourself up. It's a learning process.

    Reward yourself for the days you have achieved with things you like. (Not pmo obvs) I believe it affects the brain and thought patterns as do many. But being a genius and being a pro athlete are very different. Many athletes are not clever many geniuses are not athletes.

    Be what you want to be. Keep it first and formost in your mind visualise the person who you know you can be.
     
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  3. Alex Bee

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    You need to occupy your time with other things in mind. Proactively take more steps to make your quality of life a little better. Maybe exercise for a few minutes, eat healthier, anything that can possibly improve any aspect of your life. Adopt the marathon mindset for NoFap, you can't rush success, you need to take it a day at a time, and remember to resilient and never give up. Without this mindset, I wouldn't make it to 105 days.
     
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  4. Deadlihood

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    Yes, is your avatar a photo of a lizard eating a smaller lizard? If so, why? And if not, why not? Please respond.
     
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  5. FapsPerSecond

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    you know what you did wrong? you went ahead and did a relapse without contacting us here for help and now you chose to do that. anyway.....your urges fooled you well into PMO/MO and then you went ahead willingly(what if PMO was the devil himself o_O ..would u give up yourself just like that cuz he gave u temporary gratifcation?).that there shows you are very bad at self control and that can be solved if you put your mind to it.I was just like you...might be worst but ill give my story short....i was addicted to masturbation id say, watched porn almost every damn day until i came across nofap benefits i was like "wait..im lacking some of those benefits..i NEED IT!" so i started my counters and boy....that was hard. i relapse 3 times and on the last one which was only 8 days..i recorded the experience into my brain and used that as motivation+the benefits i want to achieve....right now im on 22 days lol and its a breeze, i have no doubt of reaching 90 days.You do know...that stopping MO gives u alot more energy right? if not then now you do so keep that in thought.Bro i know u got that mind saying "booooy i wanna hit up some porn to see some chicks get banged" so what id advise you to do is to get that brain of yours distracted by some other stuff like games, exercising (perfect/best option because exercising has ALOT of benefits) flexing with friends ect. If you gonna start over....when the urges tackle you (aka Demons), try your best to get your mind distracted and eventually that hard on will eventually leave OR just remind yourself that after masturbation all you get is a short feeling of pleasure then a shadow of depression and a whole lot of negativity...Good Luck
     
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  6. Denzel889

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    @IggyIshness you were talking all the time here in forums: "Suffer the pain of discipline or suffer the pain of regret." You should thought about that before you relapsed and jerk off and you should have thought about the consequences earlier
     
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    @IggyIshness Are you really done with pmo? Or is this just another excusse or something that is temporary and will vanish as soon as a new opportunity to do pmo will come? You have to be determined and have goals and you must have tactics set up. You are very active on forums I see but you are not making any progress so far because you aren't clear to yourself, and from your words I can see that you only say words taken from others but these words don't have any effect (positive) on you. You must be who you really are and you must have a clear goal and to be determined that you will quit pmo forever and don't get back to it again. Don't give up. Let yourself search your own soul. Be aware of your minds. Don't take any steps before knowing what they bring
     
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  9. Pizzicata

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    That an answer. I could not make better.
    I see so many guy tell "now it s over" sometimes just after relapse.

    Please stop the big words and make make acts.
     
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  10. Denzel889

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    *applause*
     
  11. tattleen7

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    You Have To Be Hard On Yourself,It is Not Easy.First Week Is Going To be The Toughest,You Have Got To Be Tougher.There Shall be No Peeking,P-subs,Touching,Edging Etc.Be Disciplined Make A Routine,Exercise,Read A book,Talk To Someone You Love,Lie Down In The Nature,Just Don't Give yourself time to be bored and lead To PMO.Saying That You Are Done With PMO And Applying It In Real Scenario Are Way Too Different I Have Been Saying That For 5 months Longest I Have Gone Is 32 Days.If you Want To Be An Athlete You Will Need Proper Mindset Which PMO Steals It Makes you Lousy,Anxious.Listen What is The Point of Jerking Off To Pixels?
    Add A Counter For Motivation,I Am Here If you Need To Talk Good Luck,Peace!
     
  12. Jessica8a8

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    Hey guys so im day 56 and i am really happy about it . My life had been great , even if i had some breakouts with crying and all that kind of stuff bc of a personal problem, i am promising myself to be optimistic and i know that i can do it! Keep going guys it is hard at first , then you get used to it! Keep your mind busy write an essay do the things you love and you will definetly with faith and stretch quit masturbating! Come on ! You CAN DO IT! thank you for all the support it rlly helped !!! Good luck and God bless! Have a very nice day !
     
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  13. Joe peasci

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    Hey man, ur so young, I can guarantee that 99% of the guys in ur school pmo.. Imagine the level of attraction ull get from girls' perspective if u were successful in 90 days.. Ur posture we ll become straighter and ull stand out.. I think that a lot of guys don't realize how much girls are attracted to posture.. I think that if u having loving supportive parents u should tell them.. This porn thing is the most taken for granted thing between parents and teens.. U will be one of the first brave people to start a revolution of kids telling their parents.. They will help get u a counsellor and having a counsellor will make relapsing less encouraging.. If u don't want to take this approach, then continue on ur own. On ur own, every time u are convinced u want to relapse, at the very least, THE VERY LEAST, say to urself: "I'm convinced I'm going to relapse right now, but if I don't wat impact will that have on the next time I feel like relapsing" a lot of people don't realize that getting past that one high intensity urge, is more than getting past an urge,,, it sets a standard for the next time.
     
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  14. Joe peasci

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    When people say theyre going to quit, the only thing that they should be referring to which I don't think they do is that every time I am convinced, I'm going to become unconvinced.. Train ur mind to create this trend of going from convinced to unconvinced of relapsing. Ultimately people in addiction can't control becoming convinced of relapsing so don't feel shame that relapsing is the only option in front of u..
    This morning, was one of my weaker moments and I got to the point were I was convinced to MO but I became interested in becoming unconvinced because the impact on mental strength is profound. I say weaker moments because, I'm pretty well into my reboot and I just engaged in a fantasy for too long..

    Side note: I know this convinced to unconvinced thing is counter-intuitive because u might say "u weren't really convinced then if u were able to not relapse" the truth is that u can become unconvinced in this state of mind.. However a lot of time, it's a battle of going from unconvinced to convinced and vice versa and all u need to do is pick unconvinced. Although I have had times were I was fully convinced, but I still recognize that even though my mind has been stolen from me by addiction, there's some wiggle room even if it might not seem like it. If there is anything we all mean by mental strength, its the ability to have control over an uncontrolled mind to the extent that u don't act according to the uncontrolled mind s wishes. Bonaparte said "courage is not having the strength to keep on but keeping on when u don't have the strength"
     
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  15. IggyIshness

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    Im not really sure why i put that picture tjere, does it matter?
     
  16. Denzel889

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    The big lizard is you and the small one pmo remember?
     
  17. IggyIshness

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    Yea why
     
  18. FapsPerSecond

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    ummm maybe he's saying that you (the big lizard) submits (urges) easily for what u desire (PMO) lol
     
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  19. Deadlihood

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    @FapsPerSecond is probably my favorite username on this forum so far. Nice.
     
  20. Denzel889

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    Yup and I still think he doesn't get it! :D
     
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