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I'm in my lowest and I don't know what to do

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by King Tut 23, May 13, 2020.

  1. King Tut 23

    King Tut 23 Fapstronaut

    I'm really ashamed about what I'm gonna write right now and I just wanna ask you please don't laugh at me and give me some advice please.
    I decided to stop PMO at the beggining of quarantine, knowing that it would be harder to quit PMO during these times because I spend all day at home and it's difficult to resist urges. However, I didn't started well, I was relapsing almost everyday until I searched for advice, tips, etc. At the beggining of May I did my longest streak during quarantine: 7 days (it's not so much but I try my best). The problem is that when I relapsed at the 8th day, I started relapsing everyday again. I have masturbated 7 times in the last 8 days. I really don't know what to do, I tried almost every tip and I can't resist those damn urges. The worst about that is how I masturbated today. I searched on google "Ways to masturbate" and I saw one that consisted in putting your finger inside your anus and massage the prostate. I did it. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME??? I honestly can't see myself in the mirror, I'm f*cking nasty.
    WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP THIS MADNESS AND ACHIEVE LONGER STREAKS?
     
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  2. King Tut 23

    King Tut 23 Fapstronaut

    I repeat: I'm ashamed of this I don't know what happened to me today
     
  3. First of all dont be ashamed. We all do stupid things in our lives. And the part that you did today many people did worse and wayyyy worsee. And you mentioned that your longest streak was 8 days. Let me tell you that i participated at this website for 3 years (i was 14) and my longest streak was only 11 days. It also depends on your age and the amount of Testosterone in your body. If its too high you would likely struggle to resist and the challenge would be harder. And forget about what you did today just for real dont be ashamed of yourself because i knew people who done worser like Bdsm and cbt(these things are seriously dangerous and can cause infertility!!!) Please dont search these things that i mentioned but to be only examples that what you did was way easier than these things

    Just take a deep breath and a shower today. And i reccomend that you start tomorrow a fresh new begining
     
  4. King Tut 23

    King Tut 23 Fapstronaut

    Man, your post really made my day. I was worried and a bit sad and tt has calmed me down for real. Thank you so much
     
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  5. Free your mind

    Free your mind Fapstronaut

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    Come on man, I did that and much worse things. And I don't think that I'm at the bottom. Don't worry, just try to keep up with abstaining and you will be fine.
     
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  6. Spiderwaffle

    Spiderwaffle Fapstronaut

    It's just that people aren't speaking about these things in the public, you don't wanna know what other people do in their rooms, for example what fcked up things some girls dream about or do when noone watches, it's just human nature. There are dudes jerking off to animal porn, child porn, gore scenes, these are the ones who seriously need help, and now compare that to stimulating your anus. Tbh, I once did that too while under the shower. I didn't really like it, but anyway, it just is a thing some people try out.

    Always think about that there are thousands of people here struggling the same way than you. This is hard. Harder than stopping smoking, harder than many other addictions... but always remember that in comparison to many other people around the world you try it. You're fighting, that's what counts, fuck the numbers. Making the decision on fighting against porn addiction and destructive habits is a step ahead of so many other guys out there that chose to be a passive part of the world.

    However, you want longer streaks? Try setting a "day goal". Often if the addiction is hardcoded into your brain, it's hard to tell it you will "never again" do it again as your brain can't handle infinity, especially not for things it "likes". So why don't you tell yourself to go for 10 days and set a reward for reaching that goal? Like ordering something you want but only opening up the package on day 10, whatever motivates you. I don't know what you like but this can work! After that, try to get as many days as possible, if you relapse, don't feel bad. You've fulfilled your goal. Then you could go for 2 weeks, than 3 weeks and so on...!
     
  7. King Tut 23

    King Tut 23 Fapstronaut

    Thank you for your replies they are helping me :)
     
  8. enchiridion_outlaw

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    I know this is an old post, but for the record I have recently developed a habit of doing this and have done it a few times in the last month and not so long ago and am also quite ashamed. And I agree, whatever you are doing I am sure that are countless amounts of people who are doing or have done the same.
    These things always get worse before they get better. All you can do is focus on the moment and try to stay sober now in this moment. I have found some resources from the SAA website quite helpful. I know that 12-step isn't for everyone but even if you are not interested in 2-step their literature and resources could still be of use especially regarding shame and the addictive "bubble".
     
  9. FoundTheFreedom

    FoundTheFreedom Fapstronaut

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    What is SAA? Is there a link to that program and the literature and resources therein? Thanks. Send the link to my private mail here.
     

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