I'm lonely

Maybe good luck for you. Often we do not recognize why things are happening in another way we wanted them to happen. Sometimes after a long period of time we realize that it all was important for our individual learning process.

Well, I am not married and never was. When I was 24 yo. I met some people who told me something about inner fulfillment. Soon I discovered that the true love I was looking for was not outside but inside. All the saints and philosophers said it: "The kingdom of heaven is within."

The love you felt in your relationship - where did you feel it? In your heart, right? And this heart is still inside of you.

 

Don't listen too much to people who are actually not helping you.
Listen to your own heart.
Let all the pain be there. Please....

And find some expression for it. Paint, write, yell, run, shout, poet, hit the wall, slam on your pillow with a newspaper......
The pain has to be processed. Only then you will come over it.

It's a very sad thing when a relationship broke up We all here know that.
I can feel with you.

I hope that - knowing this - your loneliness is become a tiny little bit less....

And you're right: you are awesome.

 

I wish I could help. You're awesome, Jen

It always sucks being alone after a relationship. It sucked me up for awhile, but after a few times I learned to face the future rather than ponder on the past (except for any lessons I may need to learn).

 

So, not long ago, it was the 1st years anniversary of your breakup? Assuming I’ve got that right...that’s a tough date to have to see on the calander, I know that one to be true.

 

Don't give in Jen, there's someone out there waiting for you. . . But you just don't know WHEN she's gonna turn up.

 

Just give the time a little time it will heal you
Stay strong

 

I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years not cause i wanted to but i had to. It honestly sucked soo much but i knew it was for the best cause our way of handling disagreements was terrible and unhealthy. we had amazing times together and those thoughts curl my insides up and make me want to go back to her. However i know that will lead to a terrible mess and unhappiness for both of us again. Happiness is is found when we better ourselves for today. if we reminisce on what we lost we can never get better. But if we slowly make an effort to work on ourselves today doing activities that are fulfilling, like going to the gym or learning a skill working on your dream goals each day and every day, we, slowly but surely, find true happiness. Then new relationships will come as we are happy and happy people are more attractive. There is no instant fix. distractions (drugs PMO, alcohol) just idle our depresive thoughts temporarily but they remain there after the distraction is gone or used up and make us feel shit and guilty so we continue to use the distraction on and on to the bitter end.

 

Meditation using the headspace app works amazing for me to give me a clear head from those thoughts. I don't know how it works but it really helped me carry on with my day. Just accepting that we are powerless over trying to change what has happened. But we can change out lives for the better today. Not drastically but little by little we get better and find happiness. Other things will follow.

 

Ahhhh September reminds me of a youtube channel I'm subscribed to



Don't worry @Jen@8675309 this will be you again some day for sure!