I'm new and Need Advice... [IMPORTANT!]

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What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?

 

Bro, you HAVE to read this: https://www.NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-to-NoFap-read-this-important.91505/

it explains why you feel depressed and worse during nofap, and its totally normal and can happen! just fight it through man and if you need any support, even just friendly support to lean on, you can count on me.

I know you say its not flatlining, but trust me, I have been through what you have been through and just acknowleding this, has helped me after watching this video and got the support from numerous members on this forum

 

Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips to help you along your journey.

 

No problems, I'm glad it helped. IMO that is exactly the issue, physical part of not touching yourself or the visual part of not looking at porn is one of the steps of nofap but I think (IMO again) one of the most important things to succeed with this journey is to focus on the mental part, and that is to DENY any sexual thoughts you have.

I was at the gym today, I had 2 girls beside me, laughing and squatting, I did not even pay half a second looking at them, it was like they did not exist in my eyes because I was determined I would not benefit anything from simply looking. So one of them decides to ask me if the machine is available and I looked at her and said yes, then I turned away, because I personally don't think I am in the stage of communicating with girls without relapsing at this moment (on day 3) and I think it is important not to rush things, even if beautiful girls approach you.

Hope this brings some insight and remember, this is my personal view on the aspect and as many says, everyone has their own nofap journey but if someone would have said that keeping sexual thoughts while NoFap is good, I would disagree every single time (at least with the mindset I have now)

 

Touching yourself is still connecting yourself to touching yourself while unclothed. Caffeine in some people can make a back situation worse. Being jumpy and jittery can cause some to act without thinking.

 

Caffeine in and of itself is not necessarily bad and it may not be bad for YOU. If it becomes a problem then consider cutting back or changing when you drink it or cutting it out of the life.

I would think resting your hand on your penis would be more of an issue than caffine.

 

I think lots of us have 'missed porn' after we've tried to give it up. That's just messed up thinking. Porn does not miss us back. It's poison that robs us of joy, spontaneity, relationships, emotions, and time.

You have to make the big decision of whether you quit porn so you can have more sex or if you want to go to a higher level and get your life back so you can function and live out the life you were created to have. Good for you for asking the critical questions at your age.

 

I wish I could answer you. Everyone is different. Because you are young and have not done it for very long, chances are that may be long enough but to give you definitive a timeline is something you will have to wait and see.

 

Hope you make it brother, to get the woman you want, you need to be the man she deserves, so if you focus on your mental shape, your weaknesses and strengths during this nofap experience, I think that would help the process of succeeding with women

goodluck