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I'm so tired of this consuming my life....I need change/help/something.

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Thisguyneedshelp, Jul 28, 2017.

  1. Jul 28, 2017 #1
    Thisguyneedshelp

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    I am currently 28 years old, have been PMO ever since I can remember. For the past several years now I have been trying to do noFap to very little success. I can barely even get aroused/hard to porn anymore either. I can think of a handful of times in the past few years where I have had morning wood or could get really aroused and hard to porn but the VAST majority of the time it is nonexistant and leads to me feeling even worse or like im broke and cant be fixed. The only thing that has kept my head up is remembering those few times here and there where my erection was good to porn and thinking to myself that maybe it is all in my head/pied and that I could overcome this. I recently relapsed again yesterday/today after a 2.5 week streak and it was (of course) awful and further reinforced my depression and thoughts that maybe i cant be fixed. I barely got aroused at all and came within a few seconds. I need to hear from your all's experience and I think I need an accountability partner to keep me motivated.
     
    Thisguyneedshelp, Jul 28, 2017
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  2. Jul 28, 2017 #2
    DBug

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    First of all: I know how you feel. I've been there and so have many others.

    The thought that maybe you can't be fixed is not an option. You just don't go there understood? It'll make you nothing but resentful, bitter and angry. It's like digging your own grave.

    Also you need to give yourself some credit! 2.5 weeks is a-fucking-mazing! I'd kill to get that far again! (Well maybe not kill but I'd gladl punch somebody if it would help.) Sure it's not enough but it's a huge achievement! Congrats man I pull my hat (or however that phrase goes).

    Also you may want to consider telling a good friend about it. He probably won't fully understand you - how could he? - but telling someone irl kinda grounds the whole thing in reality! It makes it more real in a way. And that in return gives you new angles of attack!
    Also you may wanna see an addiction therapist or sexologist (with psychology background). The latter helps me a lot!

    Best!
     
    DBug, Jul 28, 2017
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  3. Jul 29, 2017 #3
    LouDog

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    Quitting porn is not like quitting smoking...or maybe it is.

    First off, give yourself credit, 2 1/2 weeks is a good long time! Especially quitting something like this.

    Something my therapist once told me (when I tried that route) set goals for yourself. Start small. Give yourself credit! Don't be scared to feel good about making it farther than you have with this.

    I've been down the depression road. Self loathing, almost to the point of suicidal.

    Take your victories where you get them.

    They can strengthen you for bigger ones.
     
    LouDog, Jul 29, 2017
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