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I'm starting to fap frequently now.. Help appreciated

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by grapey011, Jul 24, 2018.

  1. grapey011

    grapey011 Fapstronaut

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    If preferred, you can just read the first and last paragraph :>
    I would usually just do it once or twice a week at most, but that has not been the case in recent weeks. I fap about 2-4 times a day since last week some time and it really is taking time from my life.

    I didn't just want to write about the outcome, I also want to add the cause and other factors in here. I'm sure the main trigger for all this is the Doujinshi I recently started reading. I'm sure it started with a manga I read last week called Saikin Kono Sekai wa Watashi Dake no Mono ni Narimashita.
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    It is an adult manga if anything, a lot of masturbation and skin exposure shown. What I liked about it was the actual plot!
    Another trigger was a newly found fetish I found in existing doujinshi... so atm I feel lost in an abyss of high school students thighs, skirts and boobs... the Japanese fetishes has reached me. (side note: I prefer to read a Doujinshi with a long story/plot. I dislike watching porn because I can't get attracted to it. With a plot I can love the characters and appreciate the story and art revolving around it, that is the thing that really interests me.)

    Anyway I'm planning to start a reboot and try to get my life back on track. My main reason for posting this is to looks for opinions and advice for what I should do and such.
     
  2. Stop reading that manga and stop lying to yourself. You can find excellent plots and stories in books without such quasi-porn exposure.
     
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  3. Reading is very powerful with your imagination. It will bebhard but do your best to stay away from those things that trigger you.
    We are pulling for you
     
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  4. Dr.Shilo

    Dr.Shilo Fapstronaut

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    Pornography is not just images. Pornography is defined as both pictures AND explicit descriptions that are meant to stimulate sexual emotions or drives. What you're reading is pornography is it's triggering your sexual drive. So just like garymayor said, stop lying to yourself and find a good book. Might I suggest Count of Monte Cristo, Brothers Karamazov, or some other book that engages your mind but also helps you connect with the characters.

    Another thing I think is important for you to recognize is that by connecting emotionally and sexually to characters who are not at all realistic you will always be disappointed with real relationships as women are not perfect physically, emotionally, or socially. They have issues just as we do. Don't allow these written materials to skew your idea of what a woman or a normal relationship is.
     
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  5. JJackson

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    Get stuff like this out of your life. Even if you have good intentions to read that its clearly not on your side in this fight so drop it for a while. Anything thats not helping needs to go, doesn't matter if the intent isn't to feed the addiction it'll just lead to it weather you want it or not.

    Also just imo I feel continuing to MO but avoiding P barley helps you. I went 77 days doing that among other streaks and I felt like shit the whole time. During the recent months I've stayed clean of everything and had EXTREMELY noticeable improvement starting as early as day 38 or so. Felt better in the 1st 40 days than I did the entire 77.

    All MO does is continue to give you dopamine but not as much as you want but you're also not really getting clean so its just a lose lose situation. Your lust gets a bit of what it wants from MO and your soul gets a bit of what it wants from avoiding P but neither are getting the full thing. Case in point, I felt better after the full relapse of day 78 than I did the whole 77 days.

    You can't play games with this addiction, you gotta give it all or nothing. At 1st you'll relapse a lot more when you try to drop everything but soon enough you'll be able to fight it and actually see real improvement.

    Just my opinion though.

    Good luck either way and stay strong!
     
    Last edited: Jul 25, 2018
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  6. Same shit is happening to me to! but only thing is to pray it helps, this battle can't be dealt by yourself!
     
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  7. hollyman

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    hmmm i was interesting.and fapping a lot with doujinshi, hentai etc im anime addict until now

    U know back then the legendary doujin site is still free (now u must paid)and u can immagine how im addicted to this



    U already know the cause...to be honest im angry reading your post, its just like u wana eat, u know that u need food,but instead you go to fukin computer and play some batle royal while wondering why im hungry...its so silly


    Mind u one thing, you get older while porn stay forever.

    People are grow up, but porn stay the same

    U wana be 30 years old single male fap and reading doujinshi while ur friend are all married and having kids???

    Believe me u wont realize the time flow, if u continue porn and fap especially doujinshi


    And one day you wake up and realize this..its already too late...reality will hit u hard


    How to beat it?

    Install anti porn on your laptop / pc like blue coat,,,find a hoby !!! Simmiloar to your porn addiction

    If u like jappanese instead reading doujin you can join aikido, kendo, karate or learn jappanesse language etc


    Find a hobby!!!
     
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