I'm stuck in a relapse cycle and I REALLY need help

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Leaflet, Oct 16, 2021.

  1. Leaflet

    Leaflet New Fapstronaut

    I have been trying to do NoFap for a long time. My best record was 47 days. On average, i could last a week, even longer. But since 2 months ago, I'm stuck in a relapse cycle where I relapse every 2-3 days. It's like my power is gone. I don't know what to do.

    So how do i get out of this relapse cycle of mine?
  2. Change5454

    Change5454 Fapstronaut

    I’m pretty new to all of this and never even made it close to that long. That being said, what has helped me drastically is paying attention to how I bounce back after a relapse rather than counting the days. I have problems with binging, so when I fuck up I just tend to throw in the towel and go all in. Now I’m focused on how to bounce back quicker as opposed to strictly counting the days.
  3. haasvf2

    haasvf2 Fapstronaut

    I get the all In relapse, I am right now wrestling with that. I watched bikini videos that gave me dopamine surges and now I want that all in. I am lifting weights and on this forum, this is distracting me.
  4. MindfulWarrior

    MindfulWarrior Fapstronaut

    I've been there, acceptance and patience. When I'm in a rut like this I tend to despair and be really stiff, I thought I had to have more willpower, make promises to myself or whatever. It fired back I think because by doing that I created more tension in me, more negative energy. So I think acceptance is crucial, you are not messed up, you are acting this way because of conditioning to porn, this is normal, so if you mess up and relapse, don't loath yourself, be understanding and try to do better because in the end you're doing this because you want to feel better, you want to care for yourself, not because you're punishing yourself. And accept the fact that you may relapse, that's okay. This will decrease the tension in you, go easy.

    Which brings to the only crucial question in this entire journey: Why do you want PMO to no longer be a part of your life?

    When you are tempted to relapse don't become tense and nervous, relax, be okay about this desire to PMO, and ask yourself a few questions:

    How will I feel right after this session?
    How have I felt every time I used PMO?
    How does being in the PMO loop make me feel in life in general?
    Think about some rock bottom times.

    There is no record to beat, no streak to reach, it's nice to have milestones, that's all they are: nice, pats on the back. Just do this for yourself because it's for you and only you.
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  5. GetInMyFace

    GetInMyFace Fapstronaut

    It is possible by simply deleting all of it and see it for what it is.
    Just dont watch it again and u free forever, simple
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