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Im the most highly insecure and nervous person on earth. Help!

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Z_the_B, Jun 15, 2014.

  1. Jun 15, 2014 #1
    Z_the_B

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    This is my testimony. I've never talked about this to my parents or to anyone. Heck I didn't even know that the feelings what I had were characterized by Insecurity.
    I am 17 years old and highly insecure. I am not in the best body shape. I was almost a week ago but I fell sick and ruined my diet and exercise and gained some of the weight back and I am feeling so insecure right now about my body that I don't feel like going to college tomorrow and I just hate it when I go out because I feel everybodys eyes on me even if they dont look at me. I am very very conscious about myself. I also don't like the way I walk. I don't like my hairstyle. I don't like the dresses I picked out for myself and the dresses my parents picked out for me. I don't think I am like the rest of the kids. I overthink a lot and I am nervous about everything. When somebody is laughing at probably some joke, I think they are laughing at me.

    I am so insecure that I shiver and tremble and my voice shakes to talk infront of the classroom even if I am not scared deep inside. I don't remember being so scared and abnormal. I am so insecure that I abandoned my crazy, funny and charming personality to a loserish, quiet, depressed teenager, of which PMO contributed to a lot.

    I was the best version of myself a few years ago and now I am a train wreck. I honestly don't believe I need therapy but I need some sense talked into me. We all know about everything on a conscious level but registering it on the subconscious level helps a great deal.
     
    Z_the_B, Jun 15, 2014
    Z_the_B, Jun 15, 2014
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  2. Jun 19, 2014 #2
    Rewired

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    Rocky. Take up a sport. A team one. For real. I was insecure at 17 and hated sports. If I'd known then what I know now about how good they are at building your confidence I'd have spent less time faking period pain and more time falling over making an idiot of myself. I'm 35 now. You've got to learn that making a mistake isn't the end of the world and that you can handle it. Sport is a great way to learn this.

    If you're already playing sports or don't want to, I suggest finding something that scares you and work out little ways to stop it from scaring you. For example, I'm terrified of heights. I went to an indoor climbing gym alone and watched people climb for about an hour. It was scary. A couple of months later I went back and tried climbing with a friend. I was too scared to go the whole way up, and did it all wrong, but it was ok. Now, a year or so later, I'm smashing it. I walk out of that gym like I own the world and can handle anything.

    For sure, quit porn. It teaches us that the men around us believe we're meant to be enthusiastic yet dominated slaves to the dick, we're only as good as we look, and even if we're beautiful we're only good enough to be cum in or on, then forgotten about. It undermines everything else you've got on offer. You're on the right track. Be patient with yourself. I can guarantee you you're not the only insecure person you know.
     
    Rewired, Jun 19, 2014
    Rewired, Jun 19, 2014
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  3. Jun 19, 2014 #3
    aaron92

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    It sounds like you've got some form of social anxiety- maybe you should try swallowing your pride and seeking therapy?
     
    aaron92, Jun 19, 2014
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