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Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by recoome, Nov 18, 2015.
i dont know. i mean i'm a virgin n am curious about sex...
You could do this i mean is not such a big deal unless you think not about sex but about love.
I've only had sex with girls i loved in my short life. I had sex with two women actually and i am 22. But the feeling to have sex with your love i think is totally different from the material act. Sex is sharing energies and emotion with your partner (and when PMO started having power on me i had less of this energy and sex with my girl wasn't so great as it was).
Now the fact is: would you sacrifice your first time for having sex with a prostitute? You won't have another virginity loss and i think you should deeply thinking about going with a prostitute.
Second fact: sex as a material thing is actually great and if you feel like it's time to have this experience one way or another then i understand your will.
i dont think i want to do it out of love more out of a material act. like my friends use to say that libido decreases with age. i'm already 26. i'm not sure i want to later think 'oh back then i had high libido. i wish i had done with a prostitute then.'
If you choose to do so, I suggest you do it later in your reboot. Commonly, those with an unresolved porn addiction have problems with porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED). That would have a very discouraging and demoralising effect to get limp dick syndrome just when you need to be like the Rock of Gibraltar! A successful reboot will take a few months. When ED is no longer an issue or even a risk, you can revisit the option of using a sex worker or developing a relationship with a real person. I am just thinking of your best interests.
I had the same thought some years ago and regret losing it to someone i never spoke a word to since then. Hell we didn't even speak the same language except $$$. It may seem like a good idea now but i would advise against it. Having your first time with a prostitute doesn't help at all. This memory is one that will stay with me forever and i wish it had been a more pleasant one, rather than the reality. In summary, DONT DO IT! IT'S NOT WORTH IT!!!!
Furthermore, it is possible that you may end up trading one addiction for another. Addiction to prostitution is quite expensive. The emptiness of paid sex is emotionally depressing as well.
Do you really want to open that door? It could become a destructive habit and eventually destroy a real eventual relationship in your life - ask many married guys on here who are addicted to cheating - whether prostitutes, escorts, strippers, massage parlors, sex listings, etc. They regret how their marriages and family and self were destroyed by such alluring addiction, borne out of continued curiosity. Or, it can also remain as a regretful and cheap memory of a void of love that was not satisfied within you, necessitating all the addictions that come still when we seek out love in all the wrong places. It's easier to not open a door at the start than to try to shut it again once it's been swung wide open. After all, how did opening the door to PMO work out for you?
no visit to a sex worker
this life wont get darker
over here i'll come
hope life gets soon better
Tell me, what is the differences between porn and prostitution? Beside one is real human and the other is just digital, i see no difference at all. Both are not your "real" partner, both are degrading women and see them only as plaything, both may cause addiction, and both can also ruin your future relationship. If you are resisting fapping to porn but go to prostitution, I say it is the same as if you fap but you dont want to use your own hand.
I fully agree with @JoeinMD
And would strongly advise against this. If you are a person of values and integrity, you will regret it all your life. And if you have an addiction to PMO, then this is a form of escalating behavior that may become even more addictive. Think also that this is often a horrendous form of exploitation of women.
Why rent somebody else's body? Much better to seek intimacy with a real person in a committed relationship.
I was a virgin at 19. I looked up a girl who does it for money, on the internet. She was beautiful. When I came there, I found out her photo was fake, she is actually older and has wrong tits. I was shy to say I don't like you, I'm out. So I spent the time with her. I could get it up, but I was losing erection while fucking, probably because it wasn't so fast and hard like with a hand.
I don't regret it. I'd rather have funny story about first sex, then being a virgin fapper.
My warning is that these women are not a good alternative for a long-term girlfriend if you haven't got much money.
Also the question is if you dare to ask a prostitute for sex, why not some other girl (with a little more indirect talking in the beginning)? If she is drunk, you might Get lucky.
If you are going to pay for sex you might as well just jerk off and save yourself the money. You're only substituting one bad habit for another, and it defeats a lot of the purpose of NoFap if you are releasing your sexual energy on something convenient like a prostitute. Anyone can hire a prostitute.. I think part of the idea is that NoFap drives you to actually embrace that healthy rewards in life are hard to achieve and it gives you that much needed push to work for things. Go out and ask a girl for her number, what's the worst that is going to happen to you... she says no?
Think about how you would feel confessing this sort of adventure to the future love of your life. Or concealing it from her, for that matter. Unless you're a heartless prick, then go for it.
Sex like that would just be as good as pmo. IT'S NOT WORTH IT! Afterwards you will be just as lonely. If you HAVE TO I would try online dating. Also there is nothing wrong with waiting till marriage, I wish I had though I am glad I only have had sex with one woman, my wife and mother of my children.
i thought about this too i havnt done it but sometimes Im tempted because I just want to know that I know how to do it when I do actually meet a girl
I visited prostitutes twice and I can tell you it is not worth it! It will lead you to another more addictive addiction worse than porn.
Since I visited prostitutes, I have not been the same. Intense urges to visit hookers arise in reboot occasionally. Handling these thoughts is tough. It is like another addiction.
Also, it undermines your ideal values, devoid of love, promoting prostitution and degrading women.
Thanks. There was a time when I felt like a prostitute. Like my sex drive was too high. I even paid a guy once to let me give him a hand job. I wish it hadn't occurred.
I won't be visiting a prostitute.
I agree with all of this.
So, you already know how to do it. It's wired into your brain, that's not a problem. But if you're worried, I could recommend some books that are extremely useful. You'll be miles ahead of most guys and women will thank you for it. I always get complimented.
I had a terrible time losing my virginity. Actually, it sucked. I was with a girl that I didn't really like, but I just wanted to get laid so bad. I don't regret it, but I do regret not going after the several girls that would have been better for me.
I don't know you so I don't know the root of your problem, but I do know what mine was. I was terribly lonely, I didn't have self esteem, I kept trying to be someone I wasn't (because I didn't think I was cool as I was) and that undermined my self esteem as well. I was also ashamed because my friends would talk about girls and then I would feel ashamed. It was a terrible place to be in. Horrible. For some people the early 20s is great but for others it's miserable. For me it was miserable.
I have gone down the road of seeing prostitutes on 3 occasions. One time was only OK and the other 2 were terrible. I'm not proud of them.
What I wish someone would have told me is how to talk to women. I got on these dating websites and learned all this PUA bullcrap that made things worse. I thought that you had to be a jerk to meet girls because they seemed to go for those guys. And the immature girls do, but that wasn't me, so it never worked.
How to talk to women.
1) learn interesting things that YOU like. Do you like photography, art, cooking, playing games, sports, music.
2) build your time doing things you like with people you like. Don't let fear stop you if you need to make new friends.
3) find people who like you.
4) find a girl who you like talking to. (notice that it's lower on the list of priorities)
5) tell her you think she's cute, but don't attach yourself to her response. If she likes you, she will get closer to you in some way. Maybe make fun of you, maybe saying or doing something nice.
5) If it feels right, the sex will take care of itself in due time. It make take a couple weeks, months, or maybe just a few days. Every one is different.
Don't go down the road of pros. It's not that great.
Just think about this. If you decided to go ahead with seeing a prostitute: In the future when you meet a nice girl - you either A. tell her that once you had sex with a hooker, or B. you have to keep a secret from her your entire life. Now, most quality women with self esteem would run for the hills if they found out their boyfriend did something like that. And if you don't tell her that's going to gnaw at you in the back of your mind for your entire life.