I'm trying to win my ex back - My letter for her

Telling her wasn’t the problem so stop acting like it was.

I told my wife about my problem and I’m in therapy. If you asked my wife if she wished she’d never found out she’d say no. She does wish this problem never existed and it hurts her every single day, but telling her was the first decent thing I did. Lying to her every day, gaslighting her, and effectively forcing her into a relationship with someone she didn’t know was the problem.

She would’ve found out about your problem eventually so the ONLY saving grace you have is that you told her before she did. She’s not stupid. She has cut you out so she can focus on her own recovery. I know this is hard but you can’t change this. She isn’t your property. If my wife leaves (which is still a strong possibility) there’s nothing I can do about it. I just have to keep moving forward with my own recovery. When you recover from this problem you’re going to be so much better than the man you were going into it, and there is a good chance she will see that. If not, when you’re ready, somebody else will.