I'm ugly

LOL, you sound like a five-years-younger version of me. Guess what, someone thinks you're adorable. In high school, I was 5'10", pale, skinny, awkward, and a bit funny-looking, and about 3 girls and a boy had crushes on me that I know of. I'm not bragging because I'm not super proud of this, but it's evidence that everyone is someone's "type." Maybe some girl's checking you out but is too nervous to talk to you. You can't easily control things like height and facial attractiveness, but if you don't like being skinny, you can bulk up. And it goes without saying that you can control your attitude. Confidence is attractive, etc.

 

Well, I remember back in middle school I first noticed something that puzzled me back then and made more and more sense in future years. I still see evidence of it now. Anyway, back in middle school there was this chubby guy with black woman pouty lips and way too much hair gel if you ask me... yet he was one of the "popular" kids and got tons of respect from guys and tons of attention from girls and a date for every school dance or whatever.

Anyway, what I realized later after learning more about some of my own strengths and weaknesses and contemplating that memory is that it's not how you look so much as how you act. Obviously good genes are free starting advantages, I'm not preaching that they don't matter at all. I'm just saying you can get as far as you want with just who you actually are. This guy was not photogenic. It was how he acted. He walked slowly with his head held high, spoke confidently, laughed a lot. He was true to himself, didn't let people mess with him or seek anyone's approval. I realized that's what made him attractive to others.

So give that a try. Just think good thoughts about yourself and practice confident body language and speech. There is a solid amount of neuroscience research that backs up the idea that how you act determines how you'll feel. Also of course as I'm sure you know, how you feel can determine how you act, that's probably what's going on with you. So try to change up the game, play the part of a confident stud, but do it in your own way and appreciate yourself.

 

I think we all were insecure about our looks in high school. I was there too. But I never noticed that girls had a crush on me. You're still young. Facial features change when you get older so don't worry about it. There is not much you can do except for getting a hair cut that fits your face.
If you're to skinny work out. You won't transform over night but if you stick with it your body will change.

 

I'd be quite surprised if someone from school has a crush on me as I don't think any of the guys in my year group are gay hahaha, no girls at my school. Also I'm sure you aren't ugly, the more you tell yourself that the more you will believe it, I'm sure you're beautiful inside and out so start telling yourself that, and don't worry about what you can't change.
Also 5'10 isn't small if that's what you're worrying about, 5'10 is average and I don't think many people care about how tall you are unless you are on the extremes. I'm 5'10 and a half, nearly 5'11 and I'm taller or the same as most people.

 

There is nothing wrong with 5' 10". It is better to be skinny than to have morbid obesity. I have had a lot of black people tell me they wish they were white. So, the fact it bothers you, leads me to believe that your face isn't as ugly as all that.

Those that only want to talk to alleged jaw-dropping guys are very shallow. Why would you even want such vacuous mates?

 

You're white, 5'10 and you said about 4 girls had a crush on you. You also said that your sisters are beautiful, so you might be good-looking too, but you don't seem to be aware of that or you're insecure. Don't worry everyone was insecure at some time. Even I can get insecure at times. The tip is to improve yourself, or be lucky with what you have.

5'10 is considered SUPER TALL in Asian countries like here (I'm 5'6 and a half, and I'm 16!!!) Men on average are about 165cm/5'5 and women here can be as short as Ariana Grande. The global male average height is 173cm/5'8.
My 5'3 cousin will always be like "Why are you so freaking tall!?" and I'll be like "Dude, I'm super short—in western countries people can be like 6'4 or something"
If you ever moved here, people will always be around/willing to be around you, at least for the sake of curiosity for knowing how it feels like being with a white, esp. if you have blond/red hair and eyes which are not dark brown.
Everyone will look at you, and you'd probably have more people having a crush on you.
You may be what some people dream to be.

 

Well, there you go, dude.

 

I used to think the way that you do, hell I still do sometimes, however I have learned to accept the way that I look. How do I do it? I simply tell myself that its not my fault how I look (to an extent) and then focus on how great I am in many other ways.

The sad thing about self criticism in this context is that its selfish. If you really, and I mean genuinely cared about what someone else thought about your appearance you would take significant strides to change it to accommodate their tastes, however you are only concerned with wallowing in your own self pity, which doesn't help anyone and only causes harm to yourself.

As for my opinion of you, I believe you are likely pretty damn hot, whether you are male or female. All of the things you mentioned sound attractive in a way, I mean a person's face is the primary means by which others view (and judge) them so if you have an ugly face (not saying you do) then even with a rocking hot body many people will avert their gaze. What to do about it? Well I know of a fellow that has a face only a mother could love, however he has everything going for him. A nice bod, great personality (he's funny as all hell I might add), intelligent, strong (he recovered from cancer and has a good outlook on life), and he has a really suave voice. I'm sure he will find the woman of his dreams, because hell he's likely the man of her dreams, so there you go.

 

I've found that a lot of the time, people who worry excessively about being ugly look a lot better than they think they do, and people who consider themselves really good looking aren't as good looking as they think are (not always the case, but I've it noticed a lot). There's also the fact you're a teenager, which is a terrible age to be. Slowly but surely you'll become more comfortable in your own skin as you grow up and gain more life experience.

Don't worry about not getting much attention from women; most guys don't have women fawning over them all the time. We might get that impression from the media (seeing rock stars and celebrities with thousands of women throwing themselves at them), but that's not the norm... in reality most guys aren't pursued very often. I think I've been chatted up by a woman maybe 4 or 5 times in my entire life. You've got to play to your strengths, focus on your good qualities, and try and be as confident as you can.

 

I use to be 6'5" and 98 pounds till I was 18 where I got a job and spent my money on food and weight gain powder. I am 200 pounds now and people still say am skinny

 

Self pity is the worse thing you can do to yourself and you are doing it . Being ugly , being handsome its just in the mind . .how you look just matters for a couple of minutes after that all matters is how you behave.

 

I'm sorry that you feel you are unattractive, let me assure you that everyone is made exactly as they are supposed to be. Your features-- your body-- is not something that is here for purely aesthetic purposes. It is there to function and preserve the beauty of an intricate mind. My advice would be to stop comparing yourself to others. Pornography and other media often encourage negative feelings about the self. It is okay to feel the way you do and you can acknowledge that. Just, when you start judging yourself, try to simply correct the thoughts in a self-soothing sort of way. You do not have to push out the bad, merely give yourself the possibility to appreciate yourself. Let yourself know that it is okay to be in your skin, that you ARE beautiful and that you are worthy of love and affection.

 

You're ugliness stems from your lack of self-confidence. You are ugly because you think you are ugly and that is the biggest turn off of all. Build your self-confidence and learn that the ugliness is your mental preconception and not a fact.

 

When I was dating, my friend had trouble talking to girls because he believed that he was going to say something wrong or do something wrong. You have to realize that when you feel nervous, you will act nervous. When you feel good, you perform well. Trust me I've been in your shoes, I don't know how I changed myself out of it but it had something to do with changing my perspective.

 

I don't think simply "being confident" is enough to really win over a girl, I have seen guys with incredibly low confidence (to the point of desperation) get good girls, whereas I have also seen guys with lots of confidence falter. There are many things that go into attraction and such, most I would imagine can't be changed (such as the females or males point of view, the situation, genetics, etc.) but some things definitely can. If I were you (I'm talking about @Bluffy) I would focus on working on just improving yourself in the ways that YOU want to, then you can at least love yourself at the end of the day.