I'm very angry and disappointed in nofap

Sorry for the late reply but that was a wonderfully positive post! Thank you for saying those things, especially when many begin to lose their focus and forget the impact they have in the world. Congratulations on 232 days!

 

I don't have any superpowers yet either, but I'm not concerned. I know I can't go back. Sometimes I feel pretty lousy and pretty raw with my emotions. Life might not ever feel better. Life away from porn might feel lousy, but it is a more real life than coming home and edging until 2 am every morning. Any time away from porn is a blessing for me. I am getting married in December, and I don't want porn to be present, destroying that bond.

There are many sexual addiction support groups. Some may even avoid the internet at times or entirely during the recovery process.

 

Total respect to you. Reality, in the end, is always better than that stupid fantasy world. You will be a good husband.

 

>why is my life not correcting itself in all facets of existence after I quit wanking
You've got to continue to improve yourself, get in shape and you dont even need to be confident yo get girls. The negative mindset you're developing is toxic and will drag you down. Nofap is like building the outside frame of a jigsaw puzzle, you have a solid base to start from but unless you figure out and place the rest of the pieces you will never have the complete picture. 99% of people who complete nofap continue to work on themselves after they beat pmo addiction

 

I don't think NoFap should be about obtaining all of these "sick benefits" whatsoever. NoFap is about coming back down to reality in a stable state without the terrible handcuffs of PMO addiction around your wrists. The "benefits" are not the goal, but only things that you attain in your life when there is not the obstacle of porn holding you down. You don't gain things by doing NoFap, you lose things. That's the point. The benefits are the replacements for the things you lose and let go of. They can be great, mediocre, or not noticeable. Does't make a difference in the long run. Being free from porn and masturbation addiction is the goal, not the glamorous goodies that some people are able to attain while renouncing it.

 

If asked about superpowers during the earlier reboot, I'd probably laugh but if I think about it, you kindda get "superpowers". If I compare myself today with "the version" of me on 31.12.2018, I'd say NoFap did wonders for me. It enabled me to transform myself from chronically fatigue, depressed, anxious, lazy binge masturbator with zero self-esteem on the verge of committing suicide to someone who's written 25 pages long growth journal over course of the year, exercises 2-3 hours per day, meditates, pray, takes cold showers and learns new things about himself and life every day… I'd say abstention is THE BEST GIFT I HAVE EVER GIVEN TO MYSELF. It has probably been the most difficult, painful, uncomfortable journey I ever took, but well worth all the suffering. I'm still very much work in progress but there would be NO progress without NoFap.

 

Fenix Rising that is an amazing and encouraging testimony. Thank you for sharing.

 

More power to you and congratulations!

 

Well said. Maybe women aren't responding to you because you're doing something wrong. Instead of being angry, try to figure out what you're doing wrong and adjust

 

Agreed!

 

If you have not had a life changing experience on Nofap then there are two options.

1. You change other aspects of your life using the time, energy and focus you are not wasting on pmo.

2. You go back to pmo.

question: I am wondering if anyone has experienced increased energy, time, focus, happiness, relationship quality, success with women, motivation through pmo? Please let me know.

 

First of all I will say that the end goal of NoFap is not to get a girlfriend but to improve yourself!

Quitting porn is not a universal solution to all your problems, but you should be proud you did it and made it as far as you say. If you were sincerely able to abstain from looking at porn or touching yourself for over a year (which is very difficult), then you can fix any other problems you might have. For me, it's video game and internet addiction/laziness.

And if you've been asking girls out, that's fantastic. Next time a girl says no, ask yourself why you think she declined? And be honest with yourself. Is there some way you can improve your approach? And don't think about using some formula to talk to them, be honest and say what you're really thinking. To become hateful and negative is to shoot yourself in the foot, because women are turned off by negativity more than anything else. And don't dwell on rejection, brush yourself off and maintain some dignity instead of letting it depress you.

Good luck my friend. I'm with you all the way.

 

It's been a mixed bag to be honest. Some very dark periods full of depression, anxieties, physical withdrawals mixed with slow progress. I noticed so moderate increase in energy levels after 3-4 moths of monk mode, but still mixed with down days. It wasn't until 5-6 months that I noticed more constant improvement in my mood, focus (lift of brain fog) and energy levels. But things still continue to improve.

 

I am wondering also if anyone has used pmo to gain these benefits. Some people say that they did not gain any benefits by Nofap and are frustrated. My question is, has anyone engaged in frequent and intense pmo as a life changing strategy. Has anyone experience increased energy, focus, clarity, power etc as a result of engaging in pmo? It seems to me that pmo is only a thief and gives no benefit.

 

good question. For those who think they got benefits they likely would quit the nofap site. I see young guys claim this and leave. But I think that’s due to them having too high expectations and not knowing how to manage failure and repetitive failures.

 

The graphic in your profile picture is excellent and very useful

 

I have learned so much from this thread by all the wisdom pointing out the advantages of nofap and what it is actually about, that I think it is a good thing that you asked the wuestion

 

NoFap does not work instant magic. You stopped Porn and Masturbation, but did you use this time to realise you can make changes in your life? NoFap cures an evil addiction and helps you come to terms with being a better person and making changes. If you don't bother thinking about these things, you haven't opened yourself to NoFap enough.

 

I think one should look at the PMO history of a person engaging in NoFap, to understand this better. Abstention has totally different meaning for someone who used to practice PMO once or twice a week from someone who developed years or decades long serious addictive compulsive behavior. I fall in the unfortunate group of daily binge masturbators and I can say for myself that this behavior nearly destroyed me mentally and also affected my health in a very negative way. It did help me self-medicate depression/anxiety to some degree at the beginning but over the years of abuse PMO has become equal or even bigger problem than preexisting depression/anxiety. Stopping PMO addiction has had very beneficial consequences for me. But I can understand that if someone used to PMO just to spice up his sex life or for occasional fun without having problems with compulsion, he might not see benefits from NoFap. Just my 2 cents.