Immunity to attraction?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Fractured Mindset, Jan 18, 2020.

  1. Fractured Mindset

    Fractured Mindset Fapstronaut

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    I'm coming up on the one year anniversary of my first ever rejection (I think it'll be this Wednesday), and I've been thinking back on what happened afterward.
    I finally got over it during the summer, which is about when I joined nofap. meanwhile, I spent half the summer not getting enough hours at my job and practically doing nothing but walking the dog- to the second half working an insane amount of hours and preparing to move.
    As of my first semester at a University, I had a few false alarms but for the first time in a very long time managed to NOT develop any attractions of any kinds to any women- either work or school- and this new semester is shaping up to be the exact same thing.
    I had a prediction as well- that this new era of my life would begin with me having to turn down women's requests until I found another one I wanted who would be too good and to complicated for me. The reality is I'm not finding any women that interesting and no women are interested in me like that at all.

    Basically, what I want to ask is: after one rejection, have I managed to develop an immunity to physical attractions that dogged me through my years of porn addiction?
     
  2. dogeatdog

    dogeatdog Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Hey man, as a connoisseur of rejection I highly doubt that one rejection will do that to you. However, it did take me around 5 years to get over the first time I was rejected (granted I was 12). Maybe you just don't find that women around you attractive?
     
  3. Fractured Mindset

    Fractured Mindset Fapstronaut

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    I do see some pretty attractive women around me, it's just gotten more difficult for me to get really interested.
     
  4. dogeatdog

    dogeatdog Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    By "interested", how do you mean? If you mean romantically, I personally rarely will be interested in a woman based purely off of how they look. You tried talking and getting to know some of these attractive women because that shou
     
  5. Fractured Mindset

    Fractured Mindset Fapstronaut

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    I mean most of my past attractions were a strong physical interest and sexual cravings.

    I also don't get many opportunities to really connect with people these days
     
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  6. Dexter Moran

    Dexter Moran Fapstronaut

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    Hi FM,
    when I was your age rejection had no effect on me. I just went out and tried again. However after thirty years and countless rejections, matters are very different.
    The last time I tried to initiate romance was four years ago. The object of my desire said she just wanted to be friends. This was without doubt the worst thing she could've said to me.
    I in turn said no to her proposal. I could have stayed in touch. In the hope she would change her mind. But they never do!
    Don't be too distressed about your current lack of interest in girls. It will return. Concentrate on your studies for now.
     
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  7. Fractured Mindset

    Fractured Mindset Fapstronaut

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    Yep, that's about all I've got to do these days.
     
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  8. gingeralan

    gingeralan Fapstronaut

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    I’m bad at rejection too. Stays with me for ages! It’s not easy, but just try and power through, as PMO desensitises your sexual arousal doing more rejections will help reduce the impact on you.

    don’t give up
     
  9. Fractured Mindset

    Fractured Mindset Fapstronaut

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    The thing is- I can be very antisocial. I also feel like my nofap run has actually decreased my sexual arousal more than my pmo habits did.
    I'm not giving up on trying again- but I feel like it's going to be a couple years before I find another woman worth pursuing.
     
  10. Fullyawake

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    I go crazy thinking of all the women out there, potentially finding love with others while I’m trying to find someone. Someone who should’ve been mine already being snatched up. It’s what depression is made of.
     

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