In a Dilemma...Need Help

Hey man,

Congrats on 76 days first of all! My longest was 60 days of no PMO, and I felt like a god. Good on ya!

First of all, how cool is it that this girl asked you out, and is so hot for you that she wants to have sex right away?! Just think about that for a second. That's awesome man

In the end, its totally your call. I mean personally, I don't think its all too healthy to retain semen in for a long time, and 76 days is quite long. If you're into this girl, and want to have sex, I'd say go for it. Just because you ejaculate doesn't mean your progress is doomed. Just continue not watching porn and masturbating and let the girl pleasure you instead. That could be a new goal perhaps?

On the other hand, if you're pretty strict on continuing your streak, just be straight up with her. You can tell her "Hey we just met, and I don't want to move things too fast. I've worked really hard to manage my celibacy, and feel a bit nervous about making quick decisions on ending my streak." If you like the girl, you can say "I think you're a cool girl and would like to continue seeing you and just take it slow, are you up for that?".

When girls are into you, they naturally want to move things fast. Just maintain your position and keep doing your thing. You're in the power seat my friend, not her. If she doesn't respect your answer, then she's going to be problematic in the future, and might be better off letting this one go.

Hope that helps!

 

There you go man! You're almost there anyways. She could defs wait haha. Let me know how the talk goes.

 

Yeah bro you are crushing it! These are the kind of stories that inspire us guys who aren't as many days along or who wonder why we shouldn't just rub one out like we've done 100s of times before and be done with it.

I understand your dilemma but also realize that if you don't physically man up to this woman and fast, she will likely lose interest. The so called window of attraction is a real thing. Now obviously that doesn't mean you have to stick your D into her or even release with her but you do need to engage her in some kind of activity that gets her off. Fingering or going down on her or whatever. At the point she associates you with orgasms, you've bought yourself a lot more time before PIV or at least, it should hold her off till you hit your 90 days. Your only risk there is getting as turned on as she is and enjoying the one of a kind torture of blue balls.

As the great Corey Wayne says, "women who like you make it easy for you." In this case she's maybe making it a bit TOO easy but as long as you're giving her some pleasure through other means I think you're OK. Good luck!

 

There you go man!! I love stories like this. Good job.

 

Exactly. You are a different type of man than she typically meets, and a challenge to her in that you've not already given in to her beauty. That is intriguing to her and gives you the power. Showing your willingness to stand your ground won big points with her, now you just need to maintain that frame while also regularly affirming to her, physically, that you find her attractive. Don't be afraid to let her feel your hardness through your pants when you're hugging her or whatever. Knowing she's having that effect on you will make her all more drawn to you and make her feel good about herself too (even the hot ones have insecurities). All the best as you enjoy the benefits of your recent good choices, and keep us posted!

 

Hey dude that’s great stuff, I was really wondering if having sex and only sex takes away some or all the good energy you get from staying away from porn and fapping?

This is the first time for me doing this and that makes me wonder

 

She is testing you. women like men that do what they say they will do. At this moment she trying everything she can to make you fail, if that happen she will know that you are weak and she can do what ever she please with you, what will make her loose interest in you and maybe dump you.
The best you can do is keep pursuing your goal of 90 days an then yes have sex with her, she will be happy that you did and respect you as a man, her level of attraction for you will go up.
Another thing to point out is that YOU decided that you wanted to end you celibacy with her and not the other way around, man leads, women follows. Good luck!

 

Have sex with her. Or fuck her but don’t bust. Sexing and having the discipline to not let yourself bust is the next level from just not having sex. Plus it gets in her head making her thirstier just like now when she saying she wants to break ur celibacy. Do you have a goal at end of your semen retention? Cuz if it’s just for sake of it, you shouldn’t just punish yourself...we don’t live forever. Have sex with her but try not to bust. And if you do, don’t move to feeling shame. Men are supposed to be spraying seed on women. Not their damn stomach and that’s why we on this journey.

 

Yea so your solution to the shit test is to never have sex with the woman. That will really make her be into you forever? Say you’re celibate and a woman wants to end it...just never have sex with her and you’ll win and she’ll be attracted to you... Ya That makes no sense cuz ummmm women want to fuck.

 

In my opinion only have sex if it makes huge sense to you, casual sex is the same mechanical sex.

If she's already arrived wanting to take away your celibacy, I like to think she's testing you, to see if you're really determined in your goal or if you're going to throw it all away for a few minutes of sex.

Sex for me is an exchange of energy, if you believe you are a good person go ahead.

Gandhi slept with naked women to prove his chastity.

 

Man...go and have some fun with her. Carry on like this and there is a good chance she will get bored with you and move on. Then you'll be on here whining about how you had a chance to sleep with a really hot girl but you blew it.
Life rarely hands you a golden chance to do something which will be a lot of fun. Just my opinion, but you should take it.

 

That wasn’t to you XD. Bro practise your semen retention regardless of if you have sex or not for max discipline.