I found out Feb 10, 2017 that my husband was having phone sex with a woman he had known for years in another state while he was on the road for work. He called me in the middle of my full on melt down because I had discovered it 10 minutes before his call. The next day at 6:30 in the morning he called and all he said was, "I masturbate so much "PORN" I don't have enough feeling to have sex with you, enough embarrassing shit for one day" and hung up. I have been dealing with it ever since, he remained on the road with work only coming home a couple times a month. Most attempts at sex were epic failures because of PIED. I knew there was not any way to work on things with us with him on the road. In November, he lost his job and has been home ever since. I have to say I was grateful he had lost his job and would be able to be here with me so we could get things back on track. The opposite has happened, because he is home all day he will watch up to 3-4 hours of porn a day. I have confronted him multiple times and get anything from "give me time", "to I will try" to "Leave me the Hell alone, we need to divorce." I don't want a divorce but I don't know how to go on like this either. We started with a counselor, he made it 3 visits before bailing out this week. I've done so much reading that I feel now I have a good understanding of his behavior. But he will not even have the conversation with me to explain that a lot of what he is experiencing is a result of the PMO....... so here I am...... looking for words of wisdom because I know this change has to come from within him.