In search for truth (sexual fantasies)

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  1. Tamás

    Tamás Fapstronaut

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    Hello boys and girls

    Yesterday I posted on a forum asking people who lost their virginity to a prostitute, because I've been thinking about it for a long time (couple of years). There was this one guy, who said he did it, and he was more comfortable with girls after, and he was also into experimenting with guys, and hence invited me too. Earlier I only tried watching gay porn like 2 times, but I couldn't watch more than a couple of seconds, so it wasn't really my thing.

    But as this guy invited me, the following morning I was fantasizing having a threesome with girl and a bisexual guy, and it felt so good. I had a huge urge to open some gay porn and do something new.

    But as I cooled down (I managed to resist), it occurred to me that this could also be a temptation back to porn, like a withdrawal symptom.

    I'm a 25 year old virgin btw. I was a geek growing up, staying in my room, not much social/sexual confidence. Having fallen behind in this area of life became a huge burden by now. Often I think if I visited a prostitute, this weight would fall off from my chest and I would feel that much lighter.

    But then there's another way: building up my confidence from scratch by trying either online dating or starting to approach girls on the street.

    So my question to you:
    - would you say my fantasies are true (trying out men), or is it just luring me back
    - and what do you think about having the first time with a prostitute?
     
  2. Okay first of all, what do you mean by "invited you"? Invited you to what? If you're saying that someone here invited you to watch gay porn, that should be reported.

    No no no. You're looking for answers in the wrong place. That's like someone thinking they can fix their anxiety by doing a ton of drugs to mellow out. You're not fixing anything, you're slapping a bandaid on it. And it's a dirty bandaid that will probably give you an infection that will make the problem even worse than it was in the first place. (I don't mean a literal infection, but obviously that's a risk as well, with prostitutes.)

    Idiotic, stupid, such a terrible terrible idea. I cannot stress this enough. Serious question here: does sex mean nothing to you? What does sex mean to you? If sex means anything more to you than simple physical pleasure, and I sure hope it does, then why would you want to give away such a precious, special thing to some random whore who doesnt give a crap about you and just wants your money? If you were dating a girl who didn't give a crap about you and only wanted you for your money, would you have sex with her or would you dump her ass? Would you give a girl like that your virginity, or would you recognize that you deserve better than that?

    No clue. I don't think anyone can tell you if you're bisexual or not with only this much information. All I can say is, there are plenty of things that turn me on like crazy when I'm PMOing or fantasizing, but I would never want to do them in real life. But if you're a little bi, who cares? It doesn't really have to be a big deal. If you only want to be with women, but you're sort of attracted to guys to, there's nothing wrong with that. You can still just choose to be with girls.
     
  3. Tamás

    Tamás Fapstronaut

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    No, it was a different forum, not here on nofap fortunately. It was an invitation to mutual masturbation.

    This is what's holding me back. Like going to a hooker isn't just a single thing so to say, but it may set me on a different path.

    Thank you very much for your answer.
     
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  4. Youre welcome. I would rrcommend you do the hard work of actually getting to the bottom of whatwver issue youre struggling with. There's nothing bad about being a virgin, so that's not the "problem" that needs to be fixed. There's a different problem, and you need to figure out what it is and address that. Perhaps the problem is that you care too much about what other people think, or that you place too much value in sex, or that you don't feel like enough of a man because you're a virgin, etc. I can't tell you what the root of the issue is, but the best choice would be to figure that out instead of covering it up with a dirty bandaid.
     
  5. ukbritishbloke

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    It's a really bad idea. If you do it, you'll come back here asking us if you can ever forgive yourself and move on from the terrible experience.

    So save yourself the trouble, and don't do it in the first place.
     
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  6. I agree with the others here. It is a very bad idea.
     
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  7. Dude you already know the answer to these questions...and its 'Yes/yes' as in 'yes, these are stupid questions and better just drop the ideas completely'.
     
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  8. Tamás

    Tamás Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys,

    First of all, I appreciate the time you spend on reading about and replying to my stuff.

    It made me think about why I'd so such a thing.
    What I came up with is that in the recent past there were plenty of girls I would've wanted to talk to. But I didn't talk to any of them. I basically let myself down as a man. I assume I want to cover this failure by having sex anyway. To kind of cheat myself into success thinking this is what I need to get things going with girls.
     
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  9. Sounds like good reflection. So really, this issue is that you think that virginity makes you less of a man, and that you feel bad about yourself for not being more confident with girls. So that's what needs to be worked on and fixed. Not the virginity. Your virginity is perfectly fine as it is, it doesn't need a quick fix.
     
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