Incel success stories

I think I have been there and I am always nearby the INCEL world, let me tell my story:

I was fat when I was a kid and a tennager so I never had a girlfriend at that age so I started with PMO.
Then I got thin, at the age of 20, started a band and dressed like a rock star, I started dating girls more frequently, BUT, I developed bad relationships, very short all of them, I was still shy so they weren't too many, and since then I have problems of erectile dysfunction.
Many of those girls, even one who broke my heart were really beautiful, when I got a little fatter again because I started aging my insecurity came back, and although I frequently ask girls out, I'm not very lucky. The fact that the girls I suddenly could have were so pretty made impossible to me to this day date ugly ones and even when I have the chance on them I simply can't.

 

What counts as a success for you? Multiple short term sexual partners or a long term sexual/romantic relationship? I think it's easy to fall into the trap of 'desperation' (which is a very unattractive quality), especially when you are young. But you are right about porn - the idea that everyone else is sleeping with different people every night is completely wrong.
Try to turn yourself into a desirable person, the sort of person you would like to be with, and ask yourself whether it is just sex you are after or whether you are really after love and romance. This is harder and takes longer to establish, but the rewards are greater.

 

I wonder if i held some of the sentiments and beliefes that incels do when I was active in my porn viewing days?, i realise much of the motivation personally for me regarding porn viewing was a deep seated anger and self loathing infused with isolation and fear but i stopped short at blaming everyone else for my problems. I've not had sex or intimacy for about 12 years now, yet i notice now i'm older (34) i have a more educated view on the world and myself. I believe if i really tried hard i probably could get that trophy girlfriend with flawless looks but, really all i want now is friendship and to see where it goes without the adolescent angry desperation i used to foster when i was a porn addict.

In the 'real world' away from TV, porn and films and media the reality is that women date all kinds of guys from all kinds of different backgrounds who come in all shapes and sizes. You get guys who are successful, fit and healthy going out with plane jane types who are average looking and you get stunning women going out with overweight men who don't fit the mould that society is told to aspire to by the messages in advertising and the media, mainly because if you are able to make someone laugh, make them feel safe, wanted and cherished they wont care how you look or what job you do for a living, there's a difference between 'going out to get laid' and trying to find a meaningful relationship.

It seems to me that incels are actually very shallow people who have a black or white view on the world and all their problems can be fixed ...'as long as everyone else changes except them'.

Life isn't fair to all of us but it's the people that get back up when they are knocked down who become successful.

 

lol if you are planning on waiting for a woman to ask you out on a date then you will be waiting for the rest of your life. i'd say 95% of the time its the man who asks out the woman, that's just the way it is generally in life.

 

Honestly, I think you ill have success eventually if you go to bars and ask women out, so long as you expect to get turned down and rejected 99% of the time. This happens to even the most 'high status' men, only they have the confidence to brush it off and keep asking, until they find success.

Of course there are things you can do to make yourself more attractive. A combination of perseverance and self improvement will pay off.

I would also recommend being open to the idea of love and falling in love, establishing a romantic and emotional connection is important and makes you more attractive than yet another desperate horny dude. You can always decide later if you only want to make the connection a sexual one.