Discovered my husband has been using incognito on his phone. He claims it’s just to look up sex/relationship advice, looking toward the completion of his 90 day reboot. Why should I believe this? Other than the fact I really would rather not blow up my marriage especially for my kids. I ask him to reinstall accountability software. He refuses. Says it “was not helping before.” He originally agreed to it but deleted it several weeks ago when I left town after he lied to me again. He maintains he still hasn’t looked at porn, masturbated nor has he done anything wrong. Ps- Incognito was the screen I discovered right before I found multiple chat windows open with girls. While he posed as a women to solicit sexual conversations and cybersex. In a “girls only” 13+ chatroom. So I’m triggered as hell. Even if what he says at the moment is true— why deny me the comfort of installing accountability software? Broken trust takes a while to rebuild. Especially with lies and hiding things along the way. He says he doesn’t deserve for me to be unhappy about this. Btw I thought it would be obvious but I have now included “no incognito” to my boundaries. He’s blaming my discontent on being sick this week and disappointed about weekend plans falling through (related to being contagious). Yes it’s been an awful week but not being able to trust my spouse is the enraging cherry on top. Don’t know what to do. Apparently whether I trust him or not is only my problem.