Increased female attraction to you with NoFap

Have you noticed an increased female attraction to you after you NoFap for a period of time?

  • Yes

    Votes: 60 77.9%

  • No

    Votes: 17 22.1%
  • Total voters
    77
Burrich1

Burrich1

Fapstronaut
Hey everyone,

If your single, (or even if you aren’t), I couldn’t help but notice there are some stories of more girls taking notice of you after you successfully NoFap for a period of time. Personally, I think this is an awesome benefit of NoFap, and has been a huge motivating factor for me not to break my streak. I’m interested to see if this is something only a few people experience or if it is widespread.

Feel free to share a story of an “ego boost” you may have received. Maybe you were cold approached by someone you didn’t know or a conversation turned an unexpected way. Maybe you received an unexpected compliment from someone you didn’t know and have never had that happen before. Anything like that.

I hope having having stories like this collectively in a thread will inspire someone not to relapse. I will share a few shortly.
 
I've noticed that significantly. There was a girl at work I asked out a while back, but decided she didn't want to pursue it after a few dates. I didn't push and let it go. Just today she contacts me out of nowhere after seeing me yesterday. We planned a day long road trip Saturday with just the two of us. Granted, I'm only about a week and a half in, but I think the nofap coupled with the gym time I maintain has made a huge difference.

From my perspective, adding weights in the gym and a concerted effort on clothing will make the difference for girls to notice you. I had another girl (married) IM me at work and tell me how good I looked when she saw me walking in. Just like Burrich1 said, it is very motivating not to break the streak. I'm never going back.
 
So about 14 days into my nofap, (and at this time I was no PMO) I was at the club, and kind of being a recluse. I was Just sitting and absorbed with my phone and enjoying the music. I wasn't really paying attention to anyone but I was kind of facing the dance floor and the prettiest girl there, probably 2 levels above anyone else, dances over to me. She puts her hand over my phone, laughs, and asks me how I can be paying attention to it when all this other stuff is going on. We ended up talking for a half an hour that night, and I've run into her a bunch of times since then. We always talk and hang whenever we see each other now. And it turns out, she is actually pretty shy. I never would have guessed that after the first night we talked and she approached me.
 
I love these posts. I can´t really understand how female attraction on NoFap works. There are times that I can go MONTHS without any girl noticing me. Then weeks where ALL of them want a piece of me. Let me explain. Women at work checking me out all the time, my boss straight up saying in front of everyone that wants to fuck me (jockingly, but still). Sometimes it seems like women can FEEL your presence. The best example is when I'm commuting, I'm on the subway among hundreds of other dudes, and women outside notice me right away, like if they already know I'm there. It's very weird because sometimes the next day I can be just invisible to them. What I can say is NoFap has a huge part on this, but there must be something else.

One thing I'd like to point out is that a lot us could not go through long streaks without working out. I personally find easier to burn that energy urges give you if I work out a lot. Naturally, people and you will start to notice these changes on your body since you become more attractive.
 
I gave it a No, but since it could be a little "hypocritical" of me I will elaborate on it.
There were times (in some streaks) when I would just shine above and all (read:quite a lot) woman would be just hugging, wanting to hang out, talking out of nowhere and just generally be somewhat a magnet for them.
The woman I am currently married to, is something like a 8 or maybe even 10 and I met her in one of my first streaks and she pretty much approached me.
But then there were times when my presence was like a nuisance to ALL (read:most of them) woman. It's like they would change the lanes just so they didn't had anything to do with me.
There is some truth to it, but I think if you want that attractiveness you basically have to go to another level of the game. And I think each one has that, but we waste it on 1)on a tissue, 2)behaving too needy 3) not taking care of ourselves and our shit.
That's about it!
Basically I suck at all of them so that's why I don't have it! :D
 
For me it was going to the gym that started changing things. Ever since putting on a little muscle I started walking around more confident. I'm sure girls realise this.
 
Im female and when partner stops emptying his balls out for a few days I am much more sexually drawn to him. He radiates virility. And he continues to after sleeping with me too until he wanks and thats when he seems flat and less appealing to me. I can tell just by his aura when he walks in the room.

When he makes me O, I feel vibrant and radiate sexuality and get gawped at and seem to attract men. But if I haven't been aroused in a while I loose my vibrancy (and my sexual responsiveness) and it doesnt happen so much. Also if I MO myself by porn or fantasising and use that to cause O instead of focussing on my own arousal by touch, I seem to lose my vibrancy. If I MO by touch alone in a trantric & spiritual way (ie. with massage, connecting with my body, not pure direct clit stim) my vibrancy stays high. If I M myself in this way without letting myself O (edging), my vibrancy also stays high.
 
I've twice gone 2 months of nofap and attracted some girls. But I wonder if this is actually good in a certain way? Once I relapsed, I seemed to lose my glow. So does that suggest my energy is more important than who I am to many girls?! That makes me question about humanity and human nature since then. And during that period, one girl even pressed her boob against my arm!!! (Note that I'm from a more conservative country than the USA). I do enjoy the quality of a nofap life but have a few concerns about this. Like one above said his boss want to fuck him. That doesn't sound quite positive to me. I think nofap shouldn't be the Holy Grail.
Just a reminder
 
@Wayfindertw I think you have got this whole thing twisted. Attraction in most cases is natural, primal and animalistic. Let's face it, we are almost the same way as animals, a civilized species, if you will.
But underneath of all the morals, ethos, rules, civilizations and whatnot, lies a human with primal needs and senses which basically have stayed the same since the first days. It's the survival instinct and that goes the same about "passing the genes" and if you have the best genes, you are the one the women flock too.
Forget about all that, hollywood crap about love and feelings and all that. It's just the way the things have always been and probably will be.
 
Wayfindertw said:
I've twice gone 2 months of nofap and attracted some girls. But I wonder if this is actually good in a certain way? Once I relapsed, I seemed to lose my glow. So does that suggest my energy is more important than who I am to many girls?! That makes me question about humanity and human nature since then. And during that period, one girl even pressed her boob against my arm!!! (Note that I'm from a more conservative country than the USA). I do enjoy the quality of a nofap life but have a few concerns about this. Like one above said his boss want to fuck him. That doesn't sound quite positive to me. I think nofap shouldn't be the Holy Grail.
Just a reminder
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Remember, we evolved without pornography. (Even if you don’t believe in evolution, I would hope that you would still admit that pornography has been around for far less of human history than it has been, and we weren’t created so that thru porn use, the real you is brought out). Our physical state when we use porn is not our natural state, but something we have changed about ourselves. Your “glow” is part of who you are. When you take that away, that is taking away part of who you are.

Plus, I see that your young. I don’t know how long you have been using P for, but if it has been for a significant portion of your adolescence, maybe you have never developed coping skills to deal with a girls more natural behavior around you withhin your society. Plus I don’t know if she knew you back when you tapped to porn or not, and noticed a change. That could have had an impact of her perception of you. Perhaps unconsciously. Hard to say with cultural differences, and this is just random speculation.

Anyway, my point is that who you are when you don’t fap to porn is the real natural you. Who you are when you use P is just a shell of you.
 
I don't really think there is a rigth or wrong answer to this.

It is really up to yourself how you use the extra time and benefits from nofap. If you are home all day and don't do shit with your life except nofap, ofcours they won't notice you.

But if you go outside, do stuff that help you to improve, the will see it. At the same time your brain will be better, which will increase how you feel.
I myself have seen it. But that is because I have done other stuff to improve my life. I don't sit home all day. I talk to girls (which increase my experience - which they notice), I am more focused and motivated at work and I workout. All these things that make you improve your life, make you feel better. When you feel better your confidence increase. When your confidence increase, the girls notice you more.

It can also be that they have actually noticed you before, but because so many people don't have confidence to actually look at the girls and become aware they are attracted to you, you think there is no girl that are.
 
I remember one day after a relapse, I had a jaded yet determined demeanour, and it seemed like many girls in a shopping centre were looking at me.. strange.

Then this last streak a girl drives past me as I walk through a car park, looks at me says "let's f***" then continues driving... Something like that has never happened to me before Nofap btw.

I can say withdrawals and energy are very up and down in every streak I've had. So maybe that has something to do with some days being invisible, and others much more attractive than when I was a fapper.
 
sounds just like placebo lmao

it may just be the fact that you're flat lining so much that you not longer look at women much or ignore them, which turn, can make women to pay you more attention

even when I'm not flatlining, i always ignore women
 
Vocês devem traduzir está mensagem, sou brasileiro, não sei escrever em inglês, apenas falar um pouco.

Trago alguns casos... Na faculdade, uma das garotas que era casada, em meio a um lanche coletivo da turma disse para todos ouvirem "você deveria colocar uma máscara de gente feia"... Uma piada com o sentido de que para ela eu seria MUITO bonito, fiquei extremamente sem graça hahaha. Mas algo assim nunca acontece se estou em PMO.

Outro caso mais recente, estava em meu trabalho de finanças em um mercado comunitário, estava voluntariamente atendendo clientes no balcão, e um casal chegou com sua criança, a mulher era extremamente sexy e atraente, ela começou a me encarar de forma extremamente intimidadora na frente do marido, e até me dirigindo suas palavras de forma a puxar assuntos aleatórios. Fiquei muito desconfortável porque o marido dela foi muito simpático, era realmente um bom homem.

Tive vários outros casos de grande magnetismo de mulheres, na verdade já consegui duas namoradas em nofap.

Atualmente estou praticando uma atividade mental de rompimento de conexão com pessoas antigas, antigas namoradas, antigas ficantes, mesmo aquelas que não possuo nenhum rancor etc, me despeço delas para sempre em minha mente e rompo internamente qualquer coisa que ainda esteja latente nas minhas emoções. O resultado desta prática é incrível, pois parece abrir um portal para novas pessoas em minha vida de forma muito mais fluída.

Desde já um abraço do Brasil
 
I wonder if it's more likely that the attention was always there, but without brainfog etc, you're more alert to notice it?
 
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