INCREASED URGES TO PMO SINCE BECOMING SEXUALLY ACTIVE

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  1. Deysonn

    Deysonn Fapstronaut

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    Hello Guys

    Looking for some advice. I just reset my counter this morning. PMOed after just over six months of staying clean.

    I have become sexually active in the last few months and have found since getting back in the game so to speak that I struggling now more than ever with urges. When I was going full hard mode it was like I had no urges what so ever. Now it is very different.

    When I reflect I notice the same pattern from a previous relationship and streak. Basically I was good doing hard mode. Got a GF, became sexually active. Struggled with urges again. Started with PMO again. Then I fully relapsed after the relationship ended.

    Any advice on managing this would be great!

    Thank and best regards,
     
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  2. DeeJ4y

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    It is the chaser effect. I think that you should just focus more to not PMO since I do not think that there is a cure for it. From going 6 months I think that you know your way around nofap and how to stay clean. Stay strong and God bless you!
     
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  3. lococontigo

    lococontigo Fapstronaut

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    I don't saying it's right thing to do, but I would pay some hookers for every 10th day I stay clean.
    It's better than PMO.

    Okay that's terrible I know.
     
  4. This is the story of my life.
    (Okay, not my whole life. For much of my adult life I was just a jerk-off porn addict with a daily habit and went years without having sex)
    But, after doing NoFap for reals and really breaking free of the addiction (got rid of all the porn, over a year without looking at porn and 300+ days of hardcode with only minor slips) . . . I finally got a girlfriend! :cool:
    A lot of guys say that getting a girlfriend and regular sex will fix everything, but it has been the opposite for me. I find myself lusting after women. When I have time alone from her I get urges to masturbate and, most distressing of all, every time I have an orgasm from sex, I get the chaser effect for the next 5 days or so and have deep, deep cravings to masturbate! :eek:
     
  5. lococontigo

    lococontigo Fapstronaut

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    What you think? Are cravings from sex/orgasm or cravings for masturbation?
    I don't think cravings are bad if you have girlfriend.
     
  6. When I have orgasms from sex, I crave more orgasms. And, as an addict - that means I crave masturbation.
    Craving an orgasm with my girlfriend isn't so bad - but I would rather be desiring of love and intimacy - not wanting to make love with her so that I can get my rocks off.
     
  7. Deysonn

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    You are probably right, the reality is that we will have sexual urges, that is normal and is not something to cure. What we have to do is learn to save that sexual energy for our partners. We know we can get a quick fix from PMO but we also know that is not the healthy thing to do.
     
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  8. Deysonn

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    Lol! I do not think I could ever do that. Too many risk and then I would imagine sex with hooker would lack the intimacy of of sex with someone you care for. I suspect it would only fuel you sexual addiction. I say this because I find we can turn real sex into porn of sorts. It is like we can pornify sex. So instead of being in the moment and enjoy the touching and kissing and holding etc. I would have found myself just trying to watch the intercourse, so it is like I am watching myself penetrate a woman instead of being fully engaged in the experience. I think being with a hooker may encourage this.

    I had to learn not to pornify sex.
     
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  9. Deysonn

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    It is really a balancing act, have you ever pornified sex like I mentioned above in my earlier post? How has masturbation affected the sex for you? I find it negatively impacts the experience for me. I felt a bit numb this weekend when I had sex. Maybe I was feeling guilty also.
     
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