Insane unexpected day in the hospital and how it has changed my reboot goals

Day 7 of rebooting, bank holiday Monday, 6am.. I am woken by my wife in the bedroom screaming for me. She's writing around on the floor gripping her stomach in agony. I've never seen her in so much pain. I get her to take a couple of deep breaths and describe the pain to me. I suspect appendicitis or something similar (I have friends who have described their experience with that and it's similar) and call an ambulance (I don't have a driving license).

It feels like hours before they arrive, trying to keep her calm, and the number of questions they were asking me over the phone and things seemed to be endless. We get her to the hospital and I'm left in a waiting room for a while, very anxious. A long day of testing and waiting follows. Thanks to the bank holiday the hospital is busy and staff are short, so we're there pretty much all day, trying to manage her pain with the right painkillers inbetween the different tests becoming available.

Long story short they diagnosed an ovarian cyst. They operate tonight. I had to leave because visiting hours were over, so can't I see her again until tomorrow morning after her operation.

It's amazing what a crisis like that can show you just how much you love someone, and it's also interesting how it can re-frame things and change your priorities. I'm optimistic because she's in good hands and it's not life-threatening, but also the interesting thing is that I looked up ovarian cyst after the diagnosis and it listed some issues that have plagued her, and our love life, for a long time, including pain during sex.

A lot of the time I would use porn to see satisfying, dramatic sex, as we couldn't have that IRL since it hurt her. This is likely to have been the reason why and this could fix that, which is brilliant.

But the other thing is, whether that's true or not, it's highly likely that the doctors are going to advise no sex for 6 weeks or whatever after the operation. Which I guess puts me as PMO rather than just PM.

After the stress of today I really thought I was going to end up coming home and resetting my counter to calm the stress and anxiety of an insanely rough day, especially since my wife had been walking around in a hospital gown with her butt showing all day, having me help her to sit down to pee, lots of intimate and personal things like that, which, once you are past the illness part, can be triggers. But instead I've doubled down, and I feel stronger with it. The worry and panic of the morning felt almost like a release of a lot of bottled up stress, our relationship got stronger, our future sexual health looks brighter, and fate has potentially turned my PM reboot into full PMO, which will probably do me a whole lot of good.

Has anybody else ever had a major panic like this turn into something optimistic, or affect their reboot in a positive way?

 

Thanks for all the replies, guys! Here's the update.

We're both back home now. We got back yesterday. They operated on her at about 9pm Monday night, found a 7cm cyst which had twisted her ovary all the way around, which is why she was in so much pain. She's safe and sound now, just sore from being operated on.

In regards to reboot goals - It does say we need to go 2-4 weeks without sex, so my goal sort of becomes PMO instead of just PM now, at least for a little while, which should do me some good. But that being said if she wants to give me a hj/bj then I'm not going to turn that down, especially with my birthday next month lol! Nice thing is that the reboot should have me sensitive enough that she can do that for me without it taking forever now.

 

Thank you, my friend! <3