Interity

Do you feel that because you've looked at porn and still struggle you don't have integrity?

I was planning to apply for this job today and one of the requirements of the position is to demonstrate 'integrity in everything you do'. Sometimes I feel because I've looked at porn and still struggle I don't have integrity and therefore shouldn't apply for the job. I got excited when I saw the job advertised because it's the kind of job I would love to have but this issue of integrity bothers me. On the other hand, the fact that I am on NoFap and am trying to turn my life around maybe shows I have integrity. Maybe the company wants someone who conducts themselves in an appropriate way and is honest since it's a customer service role in a pharmacy/drug store.

What does everyone think?

 

I 100% agree. I feel the same way. pornography makes me think very low of my self. even p-subs do now, meaning just looking at photo's and not videos. no more for me. and feeling better already.

 

This question was actually really thought-provoking for me. When I think of integrity, I consider it to be moral consistency. I've always thought of morality as very personal, and I think it can be because we have ethics and law to determine what is and isn't acceptable as a society.

That being said, I think the morality of pornography (and different forms of sex) in general isn't universal, so I don't think there's one right or wrong answer here. I personally don't see porn as inherently wrong – even though it can generate problems – so I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it unless you're using pornography that was produced without consent of the subject or unless you aren't disclosing your porn use to your SO. Just because you aren't proud of everything you do doesn't mean you lack integrity. I mean, I've watched trashy TV and have eaten entire cartons of Oreos at a time; I'm not proud of it, but I don't think that says much about my integrity or moral character.

However, if pornography is against your personal morals and you don't condone others using it but use it yourself anyway without remorse, I can see how that would be violating integrity. Then, it's a double standard.

All that more philosophical stuff aside, I wouldn't pass up applying for a job you really want because of that integrity thing even if you feel looking at porn is a violation of your personal integrity. That side of morality probably won't come into play in a customer service job unless you are at the level where you'd watch porn at work or be fantasizing about the customers. In fact, I think the fact that you even considered this a reason to not apply for the job shows a great deal of self-awareness, honesty, and integrity, and I think those are makings of a great employee.