Internet addiction in general

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Merry Terry, Dec 2, 2019 at 11:31 AM.

  1. Merry Terry

    Merry Terry Fapstronaut

    4 weeks into nofap, I'm experiencing more and more that the fatigue and self-hatred I would feel after PM, I'm also feeling when I spend time on my phone or my computer surfing randomly - like checking Facebook, checking news sites, googling a movie I've seen to see what other people thought of it, whatever, stuff I don't really need but do to distract myself. The feeling I get is similar, but it's much more subtle, so I didn't feel it so much when I was still regularly doing PM. It's like I'm getting off the hard drugs, only to realise my underlying addiction to the soft stuff. Does anybody recognise this?

    So now I'm thinking, when I've finished my 90 Days No PM Challenge, I wanna do a 90 Days No Useless Internet. Is this a route that other people have followed before me? How did you experience it?
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  2. Optimum Fortitude

    Optimum Fortitude Fapstronaut

    Seems like the natural route to me. I also feel like my mind is being "sucked in" by my smartlhone whenever I'm doing stuff on it.

    I bought a dumbphone with a new sim card. Starting today I've critically reduced my phone use. I left my smartphone at home. It felt so liberating.

    I will keeo doing this. The next step is to give up watch TV shows.
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  3. PlanetsCollide

    PlanetsCollide Fapstronaut

    I don't know if I would call my use of youtube and addiction, but there are days where I barely watch any movies or shows and just watch random videos for easily 2-3 hours straight (mostly about pc parts/setup and motorcycles). It would be pretty hard for me to completely stop watching them, I don't think it's an unhealthy habit but I could surely use my time better
  4. Informius

    Informius Fapstronaut

    This really resonates with me, I think you have described my feelings towards this pretty good!
    Let me know when you post other stuff about this or start to tackle this problem, i would be interested
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  5. Asgardian36

    Asgardian36 Fapstronaut

    i'm telling you from experience, man. Unless we are actively making our day better each day, by doing productive/useful being effective at work or accomplishing a valuable task, we are just fucking our time with doing some useless shit, like watching movies and playing games n stuff.

    Break addictive patterns, are you a lazy person? Start doing shit...start small. Make progress, feel the Joy of accomplishment.
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  6. Blues017

    Blues017 Fapstronaut

    I can relate, and that 90 Days No Useless Internet Challenge sounds very interesting.
    I spend too much time doing that, especially on youtube. It's not that I'm watching completely useless content, but I'm usually doing it when I should be working on something else.
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  7. Finalito

    Finalito Fapstronaut

    Hey bro,
    I literally opened NoFap just now to post a very similar post and found your thread.
    I understand your problem 100%. Exactly the same is happening to me. I'm avoiding PMO successfully but at the same time I'm wasting my time on YouTube or Facebook etc. It's a nightmare and I'm not happy about it. It feels as a slightly less extreme version of PMO in my opinion.
    I tried fighting this but I always somehow end up with my smartphone in my hands...
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  8. Merry Terry

    Merry Terry Fapstronaut

    I’m happy that so many people relate. I really do think that for me and many other people, what draws us to mindlessly be on our phone or the internet, is the same as what draws us to PM. It’s less harmfull and perhaps less addictive - for me at least - but still the same poison. I’m gonna set up a challenge one of these days, maybe start with 7 days, then building up from there.
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  9. Finalito

    Finalito Fapstronaut

    It is a form of addiction.
    It drives me mad, in a way.
    I find this as an excuse for not doing things - I think even if I just sat and meditated it would be more useful than wasting time online. Like literally doing nothing would be better.
    It's especially bad when I know that I should be doing different things but I choose to waste time instead.
    Well, at least it's not PMO. I'm happy to reach day 17 today :)
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  10. Mithras

    Mithras Fapstronaut

    Great thread, I'm going through the same shit...It's like I always need to find a substitute to fill my emptiness and escaping from reality. Once you stop PMO for a few weeks/months you start to see the big picture and how your brain is wired to get instant gratification by any means. It can be social media, drugs, video games, youtube, basically all kinds of distractions. Compulsive behaviours maintain us in a state of lethargy.
    I think that all this is the result of an original trauma, some things that we can't (or we don't want to) overcome in our life because it implies a radical change which our actual ego might not survive, then the ego is basically doing everything to keep us away from getting deeper in reflection to find out how to fix our issues.
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  11. Merry Terry

    Merry Terry Fapstronaut

    That last part about the ego trying to stop us from changing is fascinating, @Mithras. I’m gonna think about that.

    I already have an idea for a week long challenge / experiment, I’ll try and post that soon

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