Internet Dating isn't Your Only Option.

SaturnDaytona456

SaturnDaytona456

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Women are very difficult to talk to online, at least for me. Thank God there are a lot who come into my work that I can talk to. I don't struggle in the real world. I swear I would rather ask 100 women for their phone numbers in person than have to mess with sending an online message. They just never reply, and I've been trying for years. Before you go scolding or trying to teach me a lesson, I need you to understand, it's been over a decade. I was on my yearbook back in the day. They replied back then. I was young once. Women online just don't give me the time of day anymore. I can be super forward, super laid back, anywhere in between. Even if I've met them in person and it's just on facebook, they ghost me or ignore me no matter what I do. Don't even get me started on Tinder. I did that for two months and eventually matched with one porn-bot. Then after several more weeks I matched with another bot. I look fine, my profile isn't polarizing or extreme, my female friends (coworkers) checked it over and said everything looks great. It's just like a joke, I had a moment of doubt and forgot how much I bring to the table. I do fine with women in real life, and if you are still reading this and you struggle with online dating all I can tell you is get out there and go talk to them in real life. Face your fear again and again and again and it gets easier. I don't give a damn about quarantine either, there are plenty of people out and about. I was on the town today- even the pawn shops and coffee shops were open. Go hit on cute gals/guys at the grocery store. It's actually not bad advice. I work in liquor and can't wait until Friday when I work again. I'm going to talk to lots of women, and sharpen my social skills. Oh also, go for the most intimidating ones you can find. That will destroy your fear faster.
 
Yeah I think the same bro, I actually paid for tinder one month to just try.

I did get matches but never went on a date. They never replied, I forgot, I think it does not work.
 
Destroyer of PMO said:
Yeah I think the same bro, I actually paid for tinder one month to just try.

I did get matches but never went on a date. They never replied, I forgot, I think it does not work.
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I believe that tinder is perhaps rigged against men, or at least men over a certain age (I am 31) after swiping on hundreds of women of all types I didn't find a single real person to talk to. I could have swiped on 1,000 or more; all body types all ages all levels of attractiveness. At one point I swiped yes to every single woman. Nothing. I believe my profile was top notch, and showed me at my best. Hell yeah dude, talking to girls in real life is so so so much more fun, I mean, it's actually possible haha. I couldn't get a damn conversation let alone a date with that bullshit.
 
SaturnDaytona456 said:
Women are very difficult to talk to online, at least for me. Thank God there are a lot who come into my work that I can talk to. I don't struggle in the real world. I swear I would rather ask 100 women for their phone numbers in person than have to mess with sending an online message. They just never reply, and I've been trying for years. Before you go scolding or trying to teach me a lesson, I need you to understand, it's been over a decade. I was on my yearbook back in the day. They replied back then. I was young once. Women online just don't give me the time of day anymore. I can be super forward, super laid back, anywhere in between. Even if I've met them in person and it's just on facebook, they ghost me or ignore me no matter what I do. Don't even get me started on Tinder. I did that for two months and eventually matched with one porn-bot. Then after several more weeks I matched with another bot. I look fine, my profile isn't polarizing or extreme, my female friends (coworkers) checked it over and said everything looks great. It's just like a joke, I had a moment of doubt and forgot how much I bring to the table. I do fine with women in real life, and if you are still reading this and you struggle with online dating all I can tell you is get out there and go talk to them in real life. Face your fear again and again and again and it gets easier. I don't give a damn about quarantine either, there are plenty of people out and about. I was on the town today- even the pawn shops and coffee shops were open. Go hit on cute gals/guys at the grocery store. It's actually not bad advice. I work in liquor and can't wait until Friday when I work again. I'm going to talk to lots of women, and sharpen my social skills. Oh also, go for the most intimidating ones you can find. That will destroy your fear faster.
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if you want help online, go to a site called good looking loser and ask for feedback on the pics you’re using. They helped me lose my virginity so I refer everyone to them.
 
SaturnDaytona456 said:
Women are very difficult to talk to online, at least for me. Thank God there are a lot who come into my work that I can talk to. I don't struggle in the real world. I swear I would rather ask 100 women for their phone numbers in person than have to mess with sending an online message. They just never reply, and I've been trying for years. Before you go scolding or trying to teach me a lesson, I need you to understand, it's been over a decade. I was on my yearbook back in the day. They replied back then. I was young once. Women online just don't give me the time of day anymore. I can be super forward, super laid back, anywhere in between. Even if I've met them in person and it's just on facebook, they ghost me or ignore me no matter what I do. Don't even get me started on Tinder. I did that for two months and eventually matched with one porn-bot. Then after several more weeks I matched with another bot. I look fine, my profile isn't polarizing or extreme, my female friends (coworkers) checked it over and said everything looks great. It's just like a joke, I had a moment of doubt and forgot how much I bring to the table. I do fine with women in real life, and if you are still reading this and you struggle with online dating all I can tell you is get out there and go talk to them in real life. Face your fear again and again and again and it gets easier. I don't give a damn about quarantine either, there are plenty of people out and about. I was on the town today- even the pawn shops and coffee shops were open. Go hit on cute gals/guys at the grocery store. It's actually not bad advice. I work in liquor and can't wait until Friday when I work again. I'm going to talk to lots of women, and sharpen my social skills. Oh also, go for the most intimidating ones you can find. That will destroy your fear faster.
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You're into game right ? :)
Going beyond one's fear to talk to a girl on the street, for example, is not for everyone. Confronting rejection can hurt a lot of people and it's a process that requires a lot of perseverance. A lot of guys give up because they don't get results.

Overcoming my fear of talking to girls is for me the decision that changed my life. but you have to be patient and be ready to fail.
 
Shivy490 said:
You're into game right ? :)
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I just started reading the book "The Game" by Strauss, but I'm not too far into it. What have you learned? I am VERY discouraged today, but have been better overall since starting my current streak. Flatline is beating me to a piss today. In any case, I would be interested in your story because I'm new to it. Please tell me all you can.
 
SaturnDaytona456 said:
I just started reading the book "The Game" by Strauss, but I'm not too far into it. What have you learned? I am VERY discouraged today, but have been better overall since starting my current streak. Flatline is beating me to a piss today. In any case, I would be interested in your story because I'm new to it. Please tell me all you can.
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Hey man.

Yes sure. My main advice and what i learned is : Stop reading books.

Don't become a knowledge collector. The content itself is not the result. The result is what happens when you take action. The more books you read, the more scared you'll be of taking action.
To be honest with you, I started reading books when I knew I could talk to attractive girls. I'm not talking about one girl a week, I'm talking about 30-40 girls I approached on the street a week. I started reading books after 1 year of intensive daily practice.
You'll learn through practice. That's how it works. There's no magic pill.

You are telling me you're discouraged but how many girls have you approached this year?
That's the problem. You want to get better with girls but you don't take action probably because you're scared. That's normal. Fear won't go away by reading books. Fear diminishes by taking action. But fear will always be there, always.
You can start absorbing as much information as you want as long as you really decide to change your life and take action every day. Otherwise, it is useless and will only bring you suffering and frustration.

(After the quarantine of course)

Good luck buddy :)
 
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I don't like dating sites very much. I have had almost zero luck with them and it's really hard to guess if you'd be attracted to someone just based off of pictures and profiles. Unfortunately, while the pandemic is happening, it pretty much is the only option...
 
SaturnDaytona456 said:
Women are very difficult to talk to online, at least for me. Thank God there are a lot who come into my work that I can talk to. I don't struggle in the real world. I swear I would rather ask 100 women for their phone numbers in person than have to mess with sending an online message. They just never reply, and I've been trying for years. Before you go scolding or trying to teach me a lesson, I need you to understand, it's been over a decade. I was on my yearbook back in the day. They replied back then. I was young once. Women online just don't give me the time of day anymore. I can be super forward, super laid back, anywhere in between. Even if I've met them in person and it's just on facebook, they ghost me or ignore me no matter what I do. Don't even get me started on Tinder. I did that for two months and eventually matched with one porn-bot. Then after several more weeks I matched with another bot. I look fine, my profile isn't polarizing or extreme, my female friends (coworkers) checked it over and said everything looks great. It's just like a joke, I had a moment of doubt and forgot how much I bring to the table. I do fine with women in real life, and if you are still reading this and you struggle with online dating all I can tell you is get out there and go talk to them in real life. Face your fear again and again and again and it gets easier. I don't give a damn about quarantine either, there are plenty of people out and about. I was on the town today- even the pawn shops and coffee shops were open. Go hit on cute gals/guys at the grocery store. It's actually not bad advice. I work in liquor and can't wait until Friday when I work again. I'm going to talk to lots of women, and sharpen my social skills. Oh also, go for the most intimidating ones you can find. That will destroy your fear faster.
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What you seem to be missing out on is that its the exact same for females. Getting laid is not a problem for them (me neither) but finding true love is as much hard work for them as it is for us. They struggle as much as men do. Only with different things. Thats why bachelor etc exists. For both sexes. We all long for love and alot of people are ready to do whatever it takes to get it. And if you can get tv time while doing it. Even better!
 
Shivy490 said:
Yes sure. My main advice and what i learned is : Stop reading books.
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Hey dude, thanks for the suggestion. I don't think I'll read much more after I finish the game, two will have been enough books for me I think. I agree that real world attempts are what matter. To answer your question, I have made 11 attempts in the last five years which I understand is my main problem. I understand that I need to make a lot more attempts and not take the rejection so personally when it happens. I need to figure out how to deal with rejection better, because it seems to take too big of a bite out of me. I just posted this thread a couple hours ago, please give me more insight if you don't mind. https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/need-help-coping-with-rejection.274645/
 
Shivy490 said:
You'll learn through practice. That's how it works. There's no magic pill.
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I am dedicated to making lots of attempts. I am making as many as I possibly can at this point, almost every day at my job. I am new to putting myself out there and I have lots of questions- how do you deal with rejection? I am worried that too much rejection is getting the best of me. It has to be better to try and fail than to preserve my ego by not asking at all. I don't know who to talk to about this so any advice would be noted, I guess I don't know where else to turn.
 
The way I see it... Internet dating is like playing FIFA on your laptop. You will never experience what it feels to have the patchy grass underneath your cleats, the orgasm wyou blast a rocket off your left laces, the thrill and satisfaction of a perfectly executed chest trap and threading the awesome assist etc. feel like.
 
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