Introduction and start of a solution...

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Adam9969, Jul 17, 2018.

  1. Adam9969

    Adam9969 Fapstronaut

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    Hi,

    I’m Adam, despite being outwardly confident I have always been very insecure and nervous about my looks - probably why I’ve become a fairly muscular, Marine, MMA fighter and part time doorman to compensate for my internal insecurities.

    With regards to women I have always been worried that I could not attract them and then not perform in bed - this meant that I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 21 despite lots of offers and even attempts where I couldn’t get it up no doubt from excessive porn and masturbation.

    Now I avoid sexual contact unless I have some blue pills and am regularly watching more and more niche porn transwomen the lot! I have made a decision to try and stop, reset and get the confidence and sex life I deserve. When I look back at my past girlfriends they are all very good looking so I must have something appealing I just don’t know why I am so underconfident and put myself down.

    Thanks

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  2. TheProcedure

    TheProcedure Fapstronaut

    Man very relatable. Funny you say that, i feel that way sometimes. I really think it's all the porn that makes me so insecure because of the conscious or unconscious shame and guilt that comes with it. it makes me second guess myself around women, gives me self-doubt. it sucks. that's why i'm determined too to end it. Stay strong on your journey A. Let's do this.

    One day at a time.
     
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  3. Adam9969

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    Cheers buddy day 2 almost down and feeling determined to carry on and sort myself out - it’s at the point now where I wouldn’t even try have sex without taking a blue pill and I then just usually think about fantasies rather than the girl I’m with - all stops now tho
     
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  4. TheProcedure

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    Love the resolve man! And i hear you, more reason to beat this thing.
     
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  5. Yes. It most certainly is one day at a time. I love your positive energy and wish you the best of luck. I believe half or more of the battle is being surrounded by upbeat people, even if it's over the internet. Every time I read something inspirational or uplifting I can't but nod and smile.
     
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  6. TheProcedure

    TheProcedure Fapstronaut

    super true ! That's what helps makes this site so awesome too
     
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  7. Hey Adam, I can relate to your post as well. Well instead of being outwardly confident I act as a laid back guy who find the humor in little things, but I get nervous about my looks too. Going on 26 I still haven't lost my virginity because I've never felt attractive enough or in the best shape I could possibly be. I put myself down a lot and I never can really figure out why I do so, even while in therapy. I wish you the best on your reset and hope you gain the best in confidence and I must give props for being a Marine and an MMA fighter, I can only imagine what kind of battles you have fought to get where you're at today. I also hope I didn't overstep my bounds by giving props.
     
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  8. Adam9969

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    Thanks buddy we are all in this together let’s make them changes and be the men we know we can be
     
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  9. Adam9969

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    Day 6 now and I think I’ve hit the flatline that has been mentioned
     
  10. Ride it out the best you can brother! You got this!
     
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