Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Deleted Account, Jan 24, 2019.

  1. Hi, I'm a 22 y/o girl
    I'm late to introduce myself I took time to check the site and see other posts
    So I'm glad to be here I know that I will have the support from y'all ♡
    So I've been really addicted for the last 3 years though it all started since high school..
    I was sexually abused when I was a child i was thinking a lot about it,
    and somehow it led me to watch porn.
    My life is really ruined by it.
    I feel like i just want to be alone all the time so i can watch porn vid or masturbate
    I tried a lot to get rid of it many times (the longest period anout a month ) but i end up coming back to it even worse than before.
    This time I'm determined to quit it forever thats why I'm here with you all. ♡
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  2. Aware

    Aware Fapstronaut

    Welcome. You;ve take the first two most important steps.

    1) Acknowledge this problem and agree with negative impact it has on your life
    2) Reach out to help.

    I am in no way qualified to talk about the sexual abuse. I am sorry that happened. Plenty of sex abuse victims have taken steps to mitigate the impact of that trauma, you can too. Please Please Please reach out to a professional for that (therapist that specializes in sexual abuse ). This is not the place for that. Keep us updated when you make an appt to see a therapist and let us know how that goes. There is no shame in seeking out help. This will give you the power over your trauma vs the trauma having power over you.

    Regarding the masturbation, you;ve found the perfect spot.

    Most of the research on porn addiction is centered around men.

    Do you know what causes your urge to masturbate? I know the answer for men, but not for woman. It could be very different.
    Have you googled for more info on this. It is likely similar to men in that all based on bio-chemistry in your brain.

    But please know this.

    - The urges you have to masturbate are not bad
    - You are certainly not bad because of urges
    - You can beat this. but first step is educate yourself on the biochemistry, dopamine, etc
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  3. Landser

    Landser Fapstronaut

    Welcome to the forums. My life was destroyed by porn aswell. We will give you all the support that we can :)
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