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  1. _Ambrose_

    _Ambrose_ Fapstronaut

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    Hello,

    my name is dmart.
    I am a 25 year old Catholic who was first exposed to porn probably around 10 or 11 years old, I have been consuming ever since.

    I am looking forward to finding community here and kicking this habit to the best of my ability, and with the aid of Christ, whom I often for get to rely on.

    I will admit that I am not the best Catholic, I do attend mass every Sunday and on Holy Days of Obligation. I frequent confession, at least once a week if I'm able too.

    But I do struggle with prayer and keeping my nose out of places that put me into near occasion of sin.

    I would very much enjoy meeting all of you, and finding some good friends along the way that I can rely on when it comes to nofap and spiritual aid.

    I look forward to talking to you guys.
    it's a pleasure to meet you and if anyone wants to know anything further please feel free to ask!
     
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  2. CPilot

    CPilot Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! You have come to the right place. There are many people here who struggle with the same temptations that you are fighting. We are here to help each other with the fight and to offer insight into the ingredients of success.

    Like you, I started committing this sin at a young age. Twelve years old, in my case. I have no excuses, I knew even then that was I was doing was sinful although it was some years later that I had to admit to myself that lusting after pornographic images was equivalent to adultery, just as Our Lord taught. Despite that knowledge, I committed this sin for far, far too long. You are wise to commence the fight now. I can look back and see that my addiction had some very insidious effects that changed my attitude, my demeanor and my life in negative ways.

    Congratulations on your decision to start the fight and I look forward to learning from you and helping where I can.
     
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  3. _Ambrose_

    _Ambrose_ Fapstronaut

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    Thank you
    I really want to kick this.
    I've been saying that for ages and ages, but i feel that i was lying to myself everytime i've said it. Knowing that i would only get a day or two in before I couldn't help myself and go back to those sites or go back to those people I know who were more than willing to send lewds.
    It's been a struggle and Im really tired of feeling like I can't love people or feel things for people without mixing it up with lust.
     
  4. CPilot

    CPilot Fapstronaut

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    I completely understand what you are feeling. Over the great expanse of time it took me to get to this level of strength, I frequently became despondent over my attempts to quit. If I was really serious about it, why wasn't I more successful? Was I just weak? Could God really forgive me given the sheer number of times I committed this sin? I have a host of good reasons to avoid porn, why didn't I do it sooner?

    I am an analytical person but I can also be lazy about doing analysis. So for years, I just leapt to one conclusion after another in answer to the questions in my first paragraph. Finally, I gave some thought as to what mistakes were consistent with each of my failures after a serious attempt to quit (there were many attempts that were simply half-hearted). When I finally did the work, I identified four consistent failings:

    1) I became complacent about my commitment to daily, heartfelt, prayer/conversation with the Father. While on earth, Christ called on the Father regularly for help, how can I expect to succeed by doing less? (2) I relaxed my vow not to allow my eyes and my mind to dwell on any salacious image or person. I have learned I will always be vulnerable, I cannot play with fire and expect to win. (3) I allowed myself to feel self-pity over any matter, small or large, that wasn't what I wanted it to be and I self-comforted. The older I get, the more prominent this causal factor becomes. When younger, perhaps it was just pure hormones that drove me but today I can see that feeling sorry for myself is an enabler of addictive behavior. (4) When I knew I was in a particularly vulnerable state, I did not move my device (in my case a laptop) to an inconvenient location (garage, car, etc.) and I didn't follow my vow to use it only in the presence of others. A dream without action is just a dream. Practical steps like this one are basic necessities to avoid impulsive mistakes.

    In my case, all of these were dangerous and ever-present mistakes. However, if I had to point to the most important one, it would be the first. Failing to pray with the heart each day is the greatest precipice of them all but following through with regular prayer with Our Precious Lord, feeling as if He is standing right next to me (because He is standing next to all of us and waiting patiently) leads to success in this matter and so many others.

    I hope this long post is helpful to you. I am praying for your success, please pray for mine.
     
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