Is fantasizing a relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by EpimetheusX, Jun 20, 2020.

  1. EpimetheusX

    EpimetheusX Fapstronaut

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    I’m on my 3rd week of no PMO, but I keep fantasizing - not for long periods of times. Even if I don’t feel a dopamine rush, would it still count as a relapse?
     
  2. Quitterrr

    Quitterrr Fapstronaut

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    Fantasizing isn't a relapse, but it can cause urges that lead to relapse, so be careful
     
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  3. PerseveranceToday

    PerseveranceToday Fapstronaut

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    This site has a search function my friend.
     
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  4. If you are on Monk Mode, it's a reset not a relapse. If you are on Hard Mode, it's not even a reset.
     
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  5. EpimetheusX

    EpimetheusX Fapstronaut

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    I know, I just like to be interactive with others
     
  6. r8js

    r8js Fapstronaut

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    Its not relapse but fantasy is not supposed to be entertained.......if its there let it by, carry on ur next productive things......
     
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  7. RogerFM

    RogerFM Fapstronaut

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    Monk mode?
     
  8. Monk Mode means NoPMO, NoFantasizing, ABSOLUTELY NOEDGING, and basically other things on how you can focus on the present, like a monk who has control over his body, mind and soul.
     
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  9. RogerFM

    RogerFM Fapstronaut

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    Hmmm. I'll try it. Probably need to cut a lot of time in discord or stupid online relationships that don't actually add anything meaningful, just make the bad, more bearable. Oh well, if only there was a way to improve without the initial pain lol. Alas, we dont live in such a world.
     
  10. I love pain. Oh, I love it.
     
  11. Sobretension

    Sobretension Fapstronaut

    No. But if I were u I would try my best to stop them or get them out of my head asap. If you have, lets say, a pron flashback, and u consciously keep on going with that in mind, I would personally say that that is really close to a relapse.
     
  12. I don't think so, but you want to avoid fantasizing because that's how a lot of relapses start. You have to understand that sexual thoughts, while harmless and normal on their own, can cause problems for people who struggle with PMO.
     
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  13. Sobretension

    Sobretension Fapstronaut

    I forgot about this, but fantasizing about a real partner or gf, and fantasizing about pron are 2 separate things.
    If you fantasize in a genuine way, with kissing, cuddling and feeling your partner, then I would say it's ok. Don't do it all the time tho. Hell, if you can you can even have sex during nofap
    If you fantasize about pron, cut it inmediately.
     
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  14. pump20

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    Well, as long as you don't masturbate like hump on an object over the fantasies. When I have the fantasies, I don't masturbate. That goes out for semen retention too.
     
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  15. Mr. Kruger

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    It's not a relapse, but it's definitely slowing down your reboot because you are hindering your brain from rewiring properly. A PMO addict fantasizing is like a recovering alcoholic smelling a bottle of vodka.
     
  16. It'd be a reset if you were doing a monk-mode-style challenge and had decided that fantasizing was off the menu. But the fact you're asking the question means you sense you shouldn't be doing it.
     
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  17. padajdeszczu

    padajdeszczu New Fapstronaut

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    Transmute it into strength. Don't be scared of urges and fantasies. If i got urges, I always think about my crushes how I'd love to smash them. Then I realise they wouldn't wan't shameful loser who's fapping. Thought of being a loser for the rest of my life scares me, later im angry that we have been fooled by society that PMO is good and healthy for you. It degenerates you into animal. Believe in soul brother, it grows with resistance. Keep your pride.
     
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  18. Imma take this good advice too!
     

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