Is flatline endless? There is something wrong with nofap!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by The-Pharaoh, Jul 19, 2021.

  1. The-Pharaoh

    The-Pharaoh Fapstronaut

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    Iam almost on nofap for more that 7 months I sometimes mastrubate but I didn't watch any porn... I don't know what's right, but what I can tell most or all people on NoFap steaks (includes me) they never overtake flatline forever, it comes and goes .. For me it's funny.. Sometimes It comes and goes in the same day.. Iam married and if I feel I want to have sex.. If I did not make it immediately I lose the desire.. Like if I waited for a 1 hour or half hour.. I can't have erection with my wife..most of the time I get the erection but I lose it.. I don't know what's going on but after NoFap I didn't have real normal days.. When I was faping I didn't face any problem with erection.. The problem only comes when I stop watching for like 2 or 3 days but if iam faping daily (once a day) my sexual life was perfect there was not any problem with erection.. However I want to be normal person who has sex only without faping... What shall I do? Iam thinking about fap again (once a day) to overtake my endless flatline
     
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  2. ReelToReal

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    I too am challenged with this. Sorry to hear that you (and your wife) are also dealing with the losing wood situation. Will follow this thread to see if others have some real and concrete answers to this perplexing situation.
     
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  3. The-Pharaoh

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    I think abandon of sexual activity for long
    I feel if the faping is not normal, nofap is also not normal.. How?
    If u follow this statement u will understand "use it or you will lose it AND too much is als too bad"
    So we don't have to abandon all sexual activities even watching a little porn will not harm, but too much will be the main dangerous thing
     
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  4. capablex100

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    You won't like this answer but I think you just need to be more patient. It will take longer than even 7 months to deprogram your brain from something you have done your whole life. Some people have success with completely stopping sexual activity like mentioned above, aka going fully without PMO. I know that's difficult in a marriage but it may help you. Also remember that there are many intimate activities you can do without an erection. "Sex" should not just be about penetration. Maybe try to stop having intercourse for a while and just focus on building intimacy with your wife in other ways, be it just kissing/cuddling or using your mouth on her. Focus on her pleasure and your connection with her.
     
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  5. Aram124

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    Recovery cvan take up to 5 years don't do any pro. Try to do what capablex100 said. Also check with your doc for ed.
     
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  6. Anonymous86

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    5 years?? Where'd you hear that? It's at max, 2 years!
     
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  7. I will have 3 years this September where I'm crawling out slowly from deep PAWS without counting 4 years on and off nofap with ACUTE withdrawals.
     
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  8. Anonymous86

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    Jees, I'm sorry to hear...
     
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  9. Krisso87

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    im the same the nofap journey presents new obstacles monthly , im 8 and a half months , and lusting is still huge looking at women , after this long your WHY you quit becomes less strong , your mind tricks you and wants a reward etc, try remember how far youve come and realise this will take 2 years minimum specially a 20+ yearer addict like i was . its a person of a thing , sometimes the mental boredom is crazy and i just wanna find a hooker , but the one thing that 100% doesnt make me relapse if i ever get close is the imagined feeling of huge shame id feel after , the thhought of restarting my counter and going all the way back is impossible to fathom . and the thought of losing my wife and daughter are reason enough to stay true . the thing is those of us who have been addicted since very young like 12 years old we have no idea what its like to be a true honest man so we must trust the process and it will lead the way, im finding things are revealed along the wya , just keep your self care going well , meditaion exerciese diet and lately ive been doing fasting both intermittent and extended with super results . i get the same with the flatline , my pecker is in a world of its own lol alive one minute dead the next , ahh well i did this to myself i can undo it .
    keep on going brother
     
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  10. Aram124

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    I said 5 years because I personally think that's long enough for even the most addicted people to be completly rebooted from addiction.
     
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  11. ReelToReal

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    I can appreciate your challenge. No failing offers so much. Especially a D that works!!!
     
  12. FarBeyondDriven

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    Thats just normal life. You feel horny only when you feel horny. Not like when you are addicted and feel urges 24/7.

    You want to force yourself to sex and thats the issue. Its completely normal to not feel like doing it. Tell your wife "No!" Be assertive.
     
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  13. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Im reaching to 5 years and still not completely healed. Im many times better than when I started in 2017 but Im still not ok. I think I was the worse case. Started M very early like 7yo or younger, added paper magazines, than internet P when it arrived. I did it like this for 25 years maybe :( multiple Os a day... I believed masturbation was healthy, really. Thats what Ive heard from all sides. My dick was DEAD with woman...so yeah.. will take many years for me, possibly never really fully healed.
     

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