Is getting massages a bad idea as a reward for no pmo?

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boyrose

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Is this a bad idea?

Getting a professional massage (not hoping for a happy ending) as a reward for every 10 consecutive days of nofap I put together. The massage is a treat I would give myself as a reward for not only sticking to nofap, but also sticking to other goals at the same time: good diet, weight training, reading, etc.

I was just wondering if the stimulation of a massage while practicing nofap is a major trigger for an eventual relapse.
 
Massages as a means of ongoing health especially through the chiropractor, is just fine. It is a professional thing and helps with strained muscles, muscle knots, relaxation, and can be almost like meditation, etc. Nothing wrong with that as a reward for yourself for staying on the straight and narrow. Now if you're getting an erection or have some sexual fantasy as part of it, avoid it, besides a professional massage therapist will give you the boot anyway if anything like that happens.
 
Robindale said:
Massages as a means of ongoing health especially through the chiropractor, is just fine. It is a professional thing and helps with strained muscles, muscle knots, relaxation, and can be almost like meditation, etc. Nothing wrong with that as a reward for yourself for staying on the straight and narrow. Now if you're getting an erection or have some sexual fantasy as part of it, avoid it, besides a professional massage therapist will give you the boot anyway if anything like that happens.
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Then I better keep my undies on I guess just in case
 
boyrose said:
Is this a bad idea?

Getting a professional massage (not hoping for a happy ending) as a reward for every 10 consecutive days of nofap I put together. The massage is a treat I would give myself as a reward for not only sticking to nofap, but also sticking to other goals at the same time: good diet, weight training, reading, etc.

I was just wondering if the stimulation of a massage while practicing nofap is a major trigger for an eventual relapse.
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It's easy to not to end up with another form of addiction - just find a male specialist.
 
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boyrose said:
(not hoping for a happy ending)
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When you say this it all sounds like one big excuse for the chance of a sexual act. "Guys, this better not be one of those places where they give happy endings! It would really be a shame if this would ruin my streak!"
 
PeterGrip said:
When you say this it all sounds like one big excuse for the chance of a sexual act. "Guys, this better not be one of those places where they give happy endings! It would really be a shame if this would ruin my streak!"
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Guys like me dont get happy endings. I'm a porn addict remember?
 
Avoiding PMO is all about temperance - learning the habit of self restraint. Our addiction is largely about dopamine surges. If you can temperately go to professional massages and you’re not turned on by them, it might be ok. I also recommend finding a well trained therapist that will truly alleviate muscle soreness and not just provide relaxation. And definitely keep your underwear on.
 
I think it's fine, there's plenty of masseuses' that aren't attractive, or go to a masseur (assuming you're straight) if you're really worried about it.

I also assume you mean a reputable place.
 
boyrose said:
Is this a bad idea?

Getting a professional massage (not hoping for a happy ending) as a reward for every 10 consecutive days of nofap I put together. The massage is a treat I would give myself as a reward for not only sticking to nofap, but also sticking to other goals at the same time: good diet, weight training, reading, etc.

I was just wondering if the stimulation of a massage while practicing nofap is a major trigger for an eventual relapse.
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I think it would be risky for a recovering addict only at 14 days, as it readily feeds fantasy. The addict self is constantly seeking P substitutes wherever it can grasp them, and we easily fool ourselves. However, not unlike a male doctor, you can arrange for a male to give a professional massage. That's what you're really looking for, right? Or, is it? Such questions might uncover your mixed motives here. We seldom have a pure motive in life, so don't let the addict slip in his needy agenda with what seems like a good intention, like congress slipping in all its wretched pork on p. 1200 of a massive spending bill. The addict-self is often acting underneath in the shadows. Call him out, shed a spotlight on his lurking, and you will know. BTW, the last statement is a general recovery tool for calling the addict out every time you first sense his lurkings (shed a spotlight on him, as if you have caught him), separating his sick motivations from your recovering noble self and purer goals.
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boyrose said:
Is this a bad idea?

Getting a professional massage (not hoping for a happy ending) as a reward for every 10 consecutive days of nofap I put together. The massage is a treat I would give myself as a reward for not only sticking to nofap, but also sticking to other goals at the same time: good diet, weight training, reading, etc.

I was just wondering if the stimulation of a massage while practicing nofap is a major trigger for an eventual relapse.
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Massage is fine as long as it is not related to any kind of erotic stuff but is medical and serious. If you are into women then maybe go to a male to massage you or vice versa. Enjoy.
 
I'm only a bit older than you. What should I do if I were in your place?
The only possibility for me to have massage is because of blessures, or it should be my own lady who gives me the massage.
Else: certainly not for me.
Why should I let a total stranger coming so close to my body?

If you need affection, get a dog, cat, genua pig, rabbit or other pets that you can cuddle.
Build intimicy with your family.
Start taking care for other needy people.
So much possibilities to get your natural reward.
 
boyrose said:
Is this a bad idea?

Getting a professional massage (not hoping for a happy ending) as a reward for every 10 consecutive days of nofap I put together. The massage is a treat I would give myself as a reward for not only sticking to nofap, but also sticking to other goals at the same time: good diet, weight training, reading, etc.

I was just wondering if the stimulation of a massage while practicing nofap is a major trigger for an eventual relapse.
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Depends who you are, but I love 'em and I get 'em when i can afford 'em.

It's not a particular turnon for me.

In fact, at this one Russian place, on my back, the lady kept "brushing" my banana, which sprung to life, as it will when a woman does that.

"You want finish? Finish?" she asked.

"No, thank you."

That's not why I'm there. And I have this pride thing where "I'm not at the point in my life where I have to pay to have someone do that."
 
it all depends on the massage. Chinese message with your undies on is not triggering.
But if u want to take the risk, take it off and it will only be a matter of time until u relapse.
 
Honestly I once had a few hours to kill. My idea was to replace the time with some activity that would keep me busy. Not only did I schedule a massage I scheduled a facial and some other therapies. It was painful. Healthy. Not sexual arousing in the least. Massages don't have to be enjoyable to be helpful.
 
boyrose said:
Is this a bad idea?

Getting a professional massage (not hoping for a happy ending) as a reward for every 10 consecutive days of nofap I put together. The massage is a treat I would give myself as a reward for not only sticking to nofap, but also sticking to other goals at the same time: good diet, weight training, reading, etc.

I was just wondering if the stimulation of a massage while practicing nofap is a major trigger for an eventual relapse.
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Why don't you go 90 days - a reboot, and then be eligible for the reward, if you want or even need it then.

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i did similar, i did 100 days and rewarded myself with a massage at a AMP knowing full well it may leaad to more..
well it did.since then ive been MO increasingly and back looking at porn daily
ive set myself on a journey down the rabbit hole and am finding it harder to get back on track so please be careful where it may lead
human touch can be intoxicating
 
I’d say it’s perfectly fine to treat for a message. I got a few back a few years ago. I know some places mostly give you the option to go full nudity or not. The thing was my first massage I wasn’t comfortable in doing so. My second Stone massage, I did go Nudist. It was more anticipating for me because I have watched some “Hap Fap” vids at the time. It was also a Woman. But I knew she had no intention and I didn’t either. It was very relaxing although I believe I got sick after my nerves were shocked.


Just relax and don’t think about it. Your not in Thailand where it’s a normal thing and most of the videos you see online are all set up and fake. Real actors as you see on videos they have the same lines. Not any more emotion of being excited to do so. It’s really an illusion.
 
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