Is it advisable to share the fact that I am addicted to porn to my parents ?

Using porn and addicted to porn are two different things, you should figure out that important distinction.
Addiction is life consuming, compulsive use. You do the addictive behaviors, instead of work, school, food or anything else.
Use is when you use and lack of activity for few days does not create stress.

On this forum people are typically divided in to two categories, addicts and not addicts. With no room for normal use, so be careful, make sure you understand what your use pattern is.

I do not know how old you are but hyper-sexuality at young age is normal and it does not mean addiction.

 

It can only work in your favor. If your mother is going to take any steps, they will be geared towards helping you recover / minimizing your consumption, which you will later appreciate. She would not ask if she would not care. Use this parental resource now while you still have it. At an early age the brain is especially susceptible, so it's especially critical to take proper action. The possible benefits from telling your mom far outweigh all the superficial negatives.

 

I would say that given the fact you are already here then you are aware of your own problems, I don't think telling your parents will help you here. It's not the same as having a partner with whom you share a sexual relationship that is affected by your porn use.

If you feel you need an accountability partner then this is fine, but I wouldn't use a parent for this.

As for changing your password, just tell them it's recommended for security reasons.

 

Do your parents love you? Do you have a good relationship with them? As a parent, if my child was struggling with anything, I would move mountains to help them! I absolutely would want to know. I would want them to know that they could tell me anything and I would do whatever it took to help them.

 

This depends on what type of parents you have and how you feel about it.
Are your parents supportive on the decisions you make in life? If yes, then tell them about your PMO addiction so they can try their best to help you fight it. But if your parents are strict and tough on you then I don’t think it’s a good idea.

You can use their mentality of being tough as a motivator to push yourself to fight through your PMO addiction. Because in the long run your going to be the only one fighting the addiction. You won’t depend on your parents once your an adult. You would become more independent instead of dependent.

So I suggest NO don’t let your parents know. If you want to prove to everyone that you can change your life, you have to prove it to yourself first. Peoples opinions will follow and they will notice something different about you throughout this journey. For now don’t let anyone know and always stay consistent with NoFap. As in go for 90 days first. Because things will change in your life for the better. You will get a lot of positive benefits. Don’t take my word for it tho. Tons of people are experiencing it.

Not saying it’s going to be easy, but hey it’s worth it.

 

As kid, I wish I had spoken to my dad about my masturbation habit. I am sure he would have tried his best to be helpful, but we just were not that kind of family to share such secrets. Now, as a father, I hope that if my son had such a problem, he could freely speak to me. I would not want him feeling that he had a shameful secret that he could not confide in me about. Speaking to a person that you trust is important. When you articulate something that is a problem, you are giving it a release and helping yourself. Try your best for a few weeks to see how you progress. If you don't, consider opening up. Good luck. I think you will do well no matter what you choose.

 

Once you tell them, its out, you can't take it back, you're a porn / masturbation addict. What do you want them to do for you ? "come on son, don't masturbate today, no playing with your pee pee, do your school work". Up to you man but I say no way!

 

How old is your son? For him to trust you with such sensitive/private information, he would need to feel comfortable with subjects relating to sex. You can lay the groundwork for this by being the one that has given him his sex education from young. Then, you would be his go to person if and when he has further questions or has a problem he needs help with.

In general, I would say yes. I did not do this as an adolescent and a young adult and I regret it now. Your mum and dad can help you a lot with this. For example, you could hand over your internet devices before you go to bed and get them back when you are up, showered and dressed. They can also give you encouragement, especially when you relapse.

 

I should have said I have 2 sons - one 19 and one 17. But as a lifelong masturbator and long held in the grip of porn, I have kept an eye on them. Seems that the majority of their time is spent gaming and whenever I need to enter their rooms they get ticked if I am interrupting as they are gaming online and speaking to their co player. I must admit, and I am glad you raised this with me, that my wife has been the more inquisitive and open one, and shame is not a thing with her, so they are comfortable speaking with her. She's Japanese, so they may have an advantage there. I'm old stock east coast, very different.

 

I fully understand your reply. I also doubt I would have had the courage (or is it respect?) to tell my mom or dad about my habits. But now I am a parent. I watched my father pass away, and knew that secrets and lies about his behaviour and the behaviour of others in his family contributed to the sadness surrounding his death. No, I honestly wish he would have peeked in the door and said exactly what you said above. My secret would have been acknowledged. Just thinking about how his doing that may have altered my life - my entire life, I am not kidding - fills me with regret right now. It is case by case, obviously, and it is his call, but based on my experience I would ask: What is the worst that could happen?

 

My mum was my go to also. She gave me my sex education and is not embarrassed to talk about sex. She knows of my problems in recent years. But even with such as open dialogue I felt unable to reveal my secret as a teenager. My fear was that my dad would get to know and that stopped me from complete honesty with her. It is not too late to open up some kind of dialogue with your boys. For example, that if they were gay/bi/trans, you would embrace them just the same.

 

Absolutely. It's funny that we have mentioned that we are not worried at all about their sexuality, but when it comes to masturbation, we have been mainly silent. I am guilty of it, it but seems to me that when people are still quiet about PMO and porn going on the year 2020, it's sort of ridiculous.

 

No.

 

No respect is to not reveal a shameful secret to your parents who are before our time of porn. OP must be a young kid.

 

I am not shy to say I am well over 50 years old. I can't speak for everyone, but I'd like to urge any young person who is having a hard time dealing with this problem to at least consider discussing it with his parents. It shows great maturity. Parents are generally loving and respectful and would do anything to help. This "time of porn" as someone has put it has been around a long time now (porn helped pave the road to high speed internet). So parents today are pretty damned informed about what's out there.
Guys who say he should not do it are definitely not parents and don't see that a lot of us would be nothing but respectful and supportive. And it's not shameful. The shameful thing is hiding in secret and feeling shitty about yourself.

 

Streak, 404 days?

 

You are welcome.
So, have you told them now?