is it having a girlfriend helps you to quit PMO?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by kilometrico, May 1, 2018.

  1. PedroCalrissian

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    Scientifically, yes it is. As long as it's a new relationships because new ones make your body release chemicals that promote brain plasticity & a period of unlearning. This basically means it will be easier for your brain to learn new habits and lose some old ones including nofap. I read this in "the brain that changes itself".
     
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  2. GG2002

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    Actually that’s not what happens it has nothing to do with love and of course it makes no sense to pmo when you have a girlfriend but it’s called addiction and it overpowers love. Ask the addicts who are married. If you can stop with no issue then maybe you are not addicted?
     
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  3. GG2002

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    Omg this is so not true!
     
  4. Nate1879

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    What is the SO thread?
     
  5. GG2002

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    It’s people in relationships with pmo addicts. It’s available to anyone not closed. Check it out.
     
  6. Angelos

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    Please clarify what addiction is? They look at porn whilst they have a smoking hot woman next to them? o_O
     
  7. Nate1879

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    Where can I find this forum? Don't see it on this site.
     
  8. GG2002

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    Go under rebooting in a relationship and there will be a sub topic partner support.
     
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  9. GG2002

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    Yes. They have ED in bed with real women as well.
     
  10. MSpol

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    I've been meeting with girl once/twice a week and I'm feeling better, as in a true love and even I don't need sex with her. She makes me happier, I just live normal, I don't think that it is good idea to tell own bad habits at starts. PMO is past for me, that's why I'm not here every day. Writing this message even I don't know which day from PO is now. I will see after public this post. I think It's about 30days. But who cares.
     
  11. GG2002

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    Sure it’s great for you but totally unfair to her. But it does not seem to me you are considering at all how your behavior will effect her just your own happiness and be real here dude 30 days is not something in the past!!!!
     
  12. I would encourage you to not get so far ahead of yourself. I know of people who think they're over PMO, leave the forum but eventually, they come back because they hadn't gotten over it. There have been times when I thought it was no longer a problem but I was wrong. I reckon if you can go a year without PMO then you can start to think you just might be free of it. Well done for making it to 30 days but that's only a month.
     
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  13. nathan1793

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    In my eyes its helped me a lot I have completely quit PM and I can focus on her as well as me. I have explained it to her and why I went into a small flatline and she has been hella supportive after a week of no PM I can now have full sex with her and I'm back attracted to real women not porn. In my eyes it's pretty much supercharged my recovery. One thing to bear in mind is not everybody is so open minded and supportive though some women may find it bad that they can throw themselves at you and it won't even make you twitch down there
     
  14. GG2002

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    In your case you are being honest with your partner and that in my opinion makes a huge difference. She is going into your relationship knowing your pmo addiction and if you continue to be honest with her I think you have got a great chance with a successful relationship and recovery. You are correct that being with a man that has pied is tough for the majority of women it kills our self esteem. But the dishonesty is worse. I think that most women can be understanding when you give them a chance but when men deprive them of that chance by lying it becomes a problem. It’s better to find out who is understanding and who is not early on in my opinion.
     
  15. Absolutly this!
    A girlfriend experience can make the PM* easier to warm you up when dark times come. But as the introduce guide says: it can be a drawback, because there's the chasing effect, it occurs after a short time you had sex, where your body needs to have another orgasm. At the beginning, i got problems on going further this stage, because i didn't know what's going on and had non regular sex.

    My conclusion is: PM* is better imo, but be aware that strong urges will come, my friend.
     
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  17. bennn

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    Not necessarily from my experience. I was still heavily addicted during my last girlfriend. I never told her, and actually I found that we had less sex and drifted apart as I continued to use PM on my own. It's possible it contributed to the relationship not lasting.

    But, I am doing really well with my abstention and am with another girl now. A very, very recent development, so I am interested to see how I act as time goes on, but I am much more diligent to maintain PM abstenation now and feel stronger for it.
     
  18. MSpol

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    I told her... but after sex, when we were talking about PMO and others. We did it 2 times one night and I felt that I can do it one more time. She didn't go away and she is happy(I hope). I'm thinking about her really serious, maybe this support me. After 35/36 days I'm able to do it. I don't think about PM right now. I'm thinking about her as a real person. But I don't think that I'm really clean, still I have in my head extract from porn movies. I think it takes a few years to be really clean.

    So, for me it really helps to be in realtionship.
     
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  19. kilometrico

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    5 min and ejaculate..
    demson that was so fast
     
  20. kilometrico

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    hey did you share youre secret with your gf?
     

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