Is it okay to fantasise?

Fantasizing is just as bad as p or m. It’s P in your head.

 

You can't have complete control of your thoughts, alright? It's ridiculous to even try to fight it completely. You're a human being who, assuming you're at least older than the ages of puberty, will have sexual thoughts.

If you're also extremely imaginative such as myself, that's another reason why I think it'd be asinine to fight it. BUT:

You do have to be able to control yourself to a certain extent. I say fantasizing is okay, but here are things you should avoid:

Fantasizing to porn

You only risk relapse doing this.

Fantasizing too much

If it's the reason why you're not being productive or you're getting up too late in the morning, stop it.

But no, I disagree with the above answer. Fantasizing is completely alright as long as you do not let it interfere with your streak and life.

 

Then as far as I'm concerned, you're doing a great job on fighting PMO. You can think somebody is attractive and if you want, imagine certain things about them, but never let it become a detriment.

 

fantasizing has no benefit
all it does is reinforce pmo

 

For me fantasizing always leads to relapse. As soon as you catch your self doing it try and think of something else, start making yourself busy.

 

why dont you think hm shes pretty maybe i should ask her out
or
i hope i have a wife with those traits
or
i like this that etc about her personality

 

There’s a clear line between thinking “wow she’s attractive” and fantasizing about sex with her. Stay on the former side.

 

yeah when you arent masturbating you have reason to try and have a girlfriend to love not sex yet just love and hugging etc

 

It's just mental porn.

 

While fantasizing is not grounds for relapse in my reboot I still avoid it as much as possible. The only difference between mental fantasy and P is one is in your head and the other is on a screen. You get the same dopamine hit from both of them.

 

NO, it can happen so when you find yourself doing it stop and think of something else fantasying is what lead me to relapse after a 42 day streak its also a waste of your valuable time , besides reality is a lot different from fantasy , fantasy is just a waste of time don't do it
stay strong

 

it's a waste of your time and thoughts.

 

Fantasies for the most part are a result of insecurities. It's a way of coping and avoiding reality. It's a way of procrastinating because reality doesn't match "how it's supposed to be." So we think how nice it would be if things we're like this and that, then we feel good, then we neglect reality, then we reinforce our insecurities and the habit of fantasizing, then we begin to rationalize that we can't have such things in reality so we continue fantasizing.

It's all harmless at first, but it spirals downwards. The ideal fantasy will be tempting compared to the painful, problematic, messy, awkward, and unideal reality.

If you want something, then develop your reality towards it rather than neglecting it.