Is it possible that Homosexuality is caused by Porn/experiences/fetishes

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Srmeddy412, May 9, 2021.

  1. Srmeddy412

    Srmeddy412 Fapstronaut

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    I was just curious about something, so i recently started nofap few months back to quit my porn addiction and I've been reading loads of stories. One thing that really surprised me that alot of guys claiming that after years of watching porn they have having homosexual/sissy fetishes and in some posts I've read that guys have turned gays and women dont excite them anymore. Now i don't want to offend anyone by arguing that Homosexuality isn't natural or they're not born that way but i was just curious. just think about it, people develop these fetishes after years of porn but consider someone watching gay porn at very early age or their first sexual experience was same sex related. Does anyone has anything to say about this. Again its just for discussion purpose, by no means i want to offend anyone
     
  2. Wow. "Can of Worms". Good question, though.
    Let's see...I don't really consider myself gay, but not 100% straight, either.

    When I'm with a woman, I want it all, the physical intimacy and the emotional intimacy. I want to know what she's feeling and thinking, how our physical intimacy is shaping her emotions. And I want to share with her what I'm feeling emotionally and physically. I want us to blend together. I love waking up in the middle of the night and see her sleeping next to me. I love waking up in the morning only to find that she has wrapped herself around me. Women are perfect.

    When I'm with a man I'm only looking to be physical. And I know that makes me an asshole, but then the guys I've hooked up with have wanted the same thing. And, to be honest, I haven't hooked up with that many guys. I've never had intercourse with a guy, and I've never spent the night with a man. We just make-out, get each other off, and that's pretty much it. The only thing I do with guys that I enjoy just as much as with women is kissing. And, I mean no offense, but I'm not attracted to effeminate guys. The guys I've hooked up with don't really "act gay", sorry, again no offense, that's just the way it is. And some of them were like me; mostly straight but like to mess around with guys from time to time.

    So, where does porn fit into this, if at all? Not sure. My porn habits, both straight and gay, have never really ventured too far off from vanilla.
    So, did porn fuel my gay activities? I don't think so, I was into men before I frequented gay porn.
     
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  3. Srmeddy412

    Srmeddy412 Fapstronaut

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    Well my question was only related to porn, Guys turning homo and losing interest in girls. I do understand what you're saying, we all have that little bit of homo in us i think, no matter how straight we are. After all we're human beings and we're curious to try new things, i myself have been little horny towards guys in few occasions but in my case those guys were very beautiful and less manly, but i never had any experience. i guess thats different, maybe i don't know but what i am saying is that sissy kind of feeling, or watching gay porn frequently and imagining yourself as girl in porn, I think thats where most guys get messed up and maybe just maybe eventually turn into gays. Who knows,
     
  4. Oops, sorry! Guess I went off on a tangent.
    Never done that. I love being a man.
     
  5. Burrito_RIPper

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    I am the same way, I only wanted to be physical with a guy, never a relationship(or kissing), and have hooked up with many guys, from masculine to very feminine (preferably fem or trans). I can’t say I was ever interested in guys until I got into gay and trans porn which made me think I was probably gay, but I didn’t really lose interest in women, I think i just lost my confidence in being with a woman because of my escalation. I am currently in a relationship with a woman, and hopefully this reboot directs my life the way I want it too.
     
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  6. CarP

    CarP Fapstronaut

    considering that homosexuality is found in many mammals, I doubt it
     
  7. Stahl

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    Historically people didin’t think you were hard-wired into one sexuality. Instead sexuality was something moldeable and as such it could be molded in what they considered natural and good, or deviant and unatural.

    I haven’t studied this, so I don’t have an informed opinion, but as far as I know the ”Gay gene” is yet to be found
     
  8. ivanhoe

    ivanhoe Fapstronaut

    https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ybo...d-the-brain/are-sexual-tastes-immutable-2012/
    It’s time to distinguish ‘sexual orientation’ from reversible ‘sexual tastes’
    “The bulk of scientific evidence currently favors the view that the origins for most sexual desires are not cultural but innate.” —Leon F. Seltzer

    Such statements mislead people that all sexual inclinations are created equal and are immutable. This is simply not true.


    Yes, genitals quite often fire up without our commanding them. Yet researchers have shown that mammals can be conditioned (and sometimes reconditioned) to adjust their sexual response with surprising ease. Even humans have managed to increase or suppress penile erection or vaginal pulse in the lab when offered monetary reinforcement and/or instructional feedback.​
     
  9. iwontfail67

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    Porn can't turn someone gay but it can definitely brainwash someone into thinking gay things are the only thing that can provide them enough of a shock to breakthrough that desensitisation and reach orgasm. This happens to porn addicts who have progressively escalated to more and more extreme content. If you partner this with intrusive sexual thoughts or OCD about these gay scenarios (which is a very common issue amongst extreme porn addicts as alot of them experience various symptoms of depression/anxiety/low self esteem), then you're stuck in a very destructive combination that can almost convince you that your life's purpose is to seek out extreme pornographic scenarios, all for that shock feeling. And many people who have acted out these gay scenarios in real life are usually left with guilt, regret and disgust over what they just did, and the cycle reinforces itself. Thankfully, there are multiple ways to heal from this, and it starts with quitting porn for good, and disregarding any head noise tells you to forcefully concentrate on these intrusive gay scenarios.

    So to answer your question, porn cannot make you gay, but it can make you think that gay stuff is the only material that can get you off. Partner that with low self esteem or inexperience with real girls and it's a pretty fucked up journey. But it is healable and curable. But while in the thick of it, it can seem as real and as inevitable as possible, and will become aggressive and relentless whenever you are trying to quit.
     
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