I want to make this as short as possible so here goes. I lost my sex drive for five years Due to an illness I had and my husband hit the porn. He ended up cheating on me with my best friend. I was afraid to lose him so I agreed to a threesome. It happened a few times then I could not continue. He got upset. He then cheated on me again with her. I didn’t find that one out until years later when I caught him having a full blown affair with a women with not as good of looks as me, not as educated as me, and not financially stable. She was using him for money and he was using her for the porn sex she was willing to give to him. I found out my husband cheated on his ex wife 4 times after that as well, so after getting that info I told him I had cheated because I wanted him to realize how it felt. Yes I felt the need to go that drastic because nothing was getting through to him. My husband and I went to counseling we stayed together, we had a baby. But he still can’t love me the way he used to. He says it’s because I can’t love him the way he wants. What he wants is to continue to have threesomes and he wants to see me have sex with another man. He says a lot of the times that is what he has to imagine to get aroused. He prefers me dressed up with stockings, and little skirts and little tops in order for him to get aroused to have sex. I also see that he turn me around to have sex half the time as well. He says he recognizes that his request is f-uped but its how he feels loved. I don’t know how to approach this. He says admitting this made him feel degraded and that he knows he needs to do better. He realizes he is not the Godly man he used to be. He is my high school sweetheart. We broke up after high school and he got a girl pregnant so he married her, six years later they got divorced and he went looking for me. He also says to me he prefers me laying around the house in something a little sexy, not my robe. We spoke last night and I told him this is only going to create a bigger sense of falisy for our sex life by bringing someone into our bedroom again. Why is he looking to sex for love and healing. He made mention a while back that maybe he is into polyamory but I think that was just a cover up for what he is feeling.