Is it too late for me?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by onix, Sep 17, 2020.

  1. onix

    onix Fapstronaut

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    I've been pmoing for 20 years.

    I feel like its too late and to far gone.
     
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  2. alphakadabro

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    Everybody heals given enough time. So start now. I've given lots of advice in my posts so feel free to browse my profile's Recent Activity. Or write a description of your situation so we can give detailed advice.
     
  3. Ansaha

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    Nah, not too late man, I PMO'd nearly 25 years. It's been a long process tho, but with time and with the right mindset you should be fine. You just have to realize that the way you used to live with PMO is not an option anymore, no matter how much you crave for it, it just isn't worth it. Fortunately as time goes by you will end up realizing that your new life without PMO will be far more rewarding than your old lifestyle. Keep it up and trust the process! Don't believe your own doubts, you have to remember that your own mind is the most powerful tool you have - learn to use it instead of it using you!
     
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  4. The brain is incredibly adaptive, don't underestimate it's power! Sure that length of time is going to take a while to reverse and will require persistence and discipline but it is absolutely possible. Don't accept defeat before you have even started as that makes it impossible to win, focus and visualise your life without PMO and find the motivation to succeed.
     
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  5. lol no... is it too late to NOT watch porn? how does that work?


    stop making excuses and start being the person you want to be
     
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  6. You can still do it. Nothing is impossible. Trust me. You can do anything in life.
     
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  7. onix

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    It's due to mostly low self esteem. I was bullied in my school days. Every boss I ever had makes me feel like I'm not good enough to progress. I've given up with friends because they were all fake (been about 6 years, haven't even celebrated my birthday in about 13 years) and I don't think girls find me attractive because they somehow either have a bf or their not interested so I've basically given up on that aswell. Loneliness and depression cuase me to pmo aswell.
     
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  8. naw dude. I joined the weekly accountability group on this site. Best $40 a month i ever spent. There is a lot of people in their 60s or older who has struggled with PMO all their life and now want to live cleanly. No one is gone unless they give up and settle, everyone has a chance to change and strive for something better
     
  9. learning

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    I wonder if you might benefit from getting on some psych-meds such as antidepressants? You might feel more like tackling the PMO addiction if your psychological state is healthier.

    I have similar problems and have been surprised to discover that how I perceive my life, my self-worth, etc. is mostly a function of brain chemistry. Until recently I had assumed that my perceptions are accurate and rational, but they actually change dramatically when my brain chemistry changes. I don't have my problems solved yet, but I know now that they are mostly chemical problems.
     
  10. onix

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    I don't believe in antidepressants, to me its just sweeping dust under a rug. I prefer natural ways like meditation but I've been unable to do this for a couple weeks now due the the construction right next door to where I live.
     
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  11. alphakadabro

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    If you want to meditate nothing can stop you. Treat the construction as ambient background music or wear earplugs to soften the noise.
     
  12. onix

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    You have no idea how bad the construction is, its literally right by my wall. They said it could last for 12 weeks. I think they're the reason why I am in a slump. I wake up to loud noises go to work come home to loud noises. I've spoken to my boss to see if he can give me hours away from it all but so far the only thing I want smashed in is my head.

    Its not just the meditation. I haven't been to the gym my diet has gotten so bad I'm eating nothing but crap and my pmo habit has worsened. I'm not blaming it all on the construction workers but it is hard to concentrate and keep motivated.
     
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  13. There's one chinese proverb that i remember saying: "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now"
     
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  14. phwrancesco

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    If you didn't develop any relation during this 20 years, maybe it is. Starting from 0 at age 35-40 is nearly impossible.
     

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