Is mastubation good?

Mr.GoodVibes

Mr.GoodVibes

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So the whole point of this website and comunnity is to help people get in control of addiction and regain sexual health. Well, with that being said, I wonder if mastubation is actually good.
If I do it a lot, I feel bad, yall know what it's like. But if I abstain for 2 weeks+, and then have a "cheat" day where I go ask out. I feel a lot better. I'm not having sex and won't. So this is the only outlet I have. Do you think, as long as I'm not addicted and don't use porn, to mo every couple weeks? Or am I missing the point?
 
you do not want to be intimate with a lover?is it religious means or personal means?, P and M isnt too well for us ,it takes us to bad places
 
Well yes, in the religious side I can't justify it. But I'm not married, have a gf. But I won't have sex until marriage, and the need for relief makes me get a boner ask throughout the day, makes me SO horny every time I see a mildly attractive woman. I can't handle it. Any suggestions? Because after like 2-4 weeks of no MO, I get a little agitated, and then if I release after that time, I feel WAY better. I mean physically and mentally, I do feel guilty about it but it really improves my mood to get that release after a while. Not sure what to do.
 
Mr.GoodVibes said:
Well yes, in the religious side I can't justify it. But I'm not married, have a gf. But I won't have sex until marriage, and the need for relief makes me get a boner ask throughout the day, makes me SO horny every time I see a mildly attractive woman. I can't handle it. Any suggestions? Because after like 2-4 weeks of no MO, I get a little agitated, and then if I release after that time, I feel WAY better. I mean physically and mentally, I do feel guilty about it but it really improves my mood to get that release after a while. Not sure what to do.
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control ur sight and lower your gaze this is where every desire begin.
 
Well that depends on what you define as good.
The problem with most of us is unfolded in two ways:
  1. Orgasms can cause us to feel empty, and/or having a lack of energy.
  2. Masturbation is mostly done in an unhealthy way, because we are conditioned by pornography and fantasies, and through the years most of us have developed a feeling of shame and guilt around masturbating.
So to me it’s not the act of masturbation itself. I know plenty of people who masturbate and still have a healthy (sex) life. It’s about how a person masturbates.

Currently I’m reading No More mr. Nice Guy. The author talks about healthy masturbation, which means masturbating without using pornography, fantasies or having a goal (for example orgasm). Just purely focussing on your own body. This is very weird for most of us, because we are not trained to focus on ourselves. I really like the concept, because it focusses on me pleasing myself without external factors. Just me. Which leads to better sex. If you like to know more about this, I recommend looking for the No More mr. Nice Guy book, and visit the authors website: www.drglover.com
 
Mr.GoodVibes said:
Well yes, in the religious side I can't justify it. But I'm not married, have a gf. But I won't have sex until marriage, and the need for relief makes me get a boner ask throughout the day, makes me SO horny every time I see a mildly attractive woman. I can't handle it. Any suggestions? Because after like 2-4 weeks of no MO, I get a little agitated, and then if I release after that time, I feel WAY better. I mean physically and mentally, I do feel guilty about it but it really improves my mood to get that release after a while. Not sure what to do.
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you don’t need an outlet you need self control
 
Mr.GoodVibes said:
So the whole point of this website and comunnity is to help people get in control of addiction and regain sexual health. Well, with that being said, I wonder if mastubation is actually good.
If I do it a lot, I feel bad, yall know what it's like. But if I abstain for 2 weeks+, and then have a "cheat" day where I go ask out. I feel a lot better. I'm not having sex and won't. So this is the only outlet I have. Do you think, as long as I'm not addicted and don't use porn, to mo every couple weeks? Or am I missing the point?
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At the end of the day we are all different man, some people opt out off stoping masterbaiting all together because it can lead to a porn binge. Some people have been able to stop watching porn but be able to masterbait here and there. It really depends on how you want to do it.

Let's say you were spanking your monkey 4 times a day without porn, then you may still have an issue. Good luck mang.
 
Mr.GoodVibes said:
Well yes, in the religious side I can't justify it. But I'm not married, have a gf. But I won't have sex until marriage, and the need for relief makes me get a boner ask throughout the day, makes me SO horny every time I see a mildly attractive woman. I can't handle it. Any suggestions? Because after like 2-4 weeks of no MO, I get a little agitated, and then if I release after that time, I feel WAY better. I mean physically and mentally, I do feel guilty about it but it really improves my mood to get that release after a while. Not sure what to do.
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I Used guilty after released many times when I was little because I was told that Masturbation is a sin. I grew up and realized that masturbation is just natural. It part of your own body and no one’s. Learn to love yourself and enjoy it as long as not stress and anxiety. Don’t watch porn while fap. It’s very bad. Just think about your girlfriend or curious about your own body. I hope this help you. :)
 
Whitemyger34 said:
I Used guilty after released many times when I was little because I was told that Masturbation is a sin. I grew up and realized that masturbation is just natural. It part of your own body and no one’s. Learn to love yourself and enjoy it as long as not stress and anxiety. Don’t watch porn while fap. It’s very bad. Just think about your girlfriend or curious about your own body. I hope this help you. :)
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Now that i am cured of my both addictions (p and m) I can tell you that fapping is very unnatural for me, how stupid do you look having sex with your hand, u call it "fapping" but the true name of it is "having sex with your hand", you can be proud of you really. Also i know that it is taking my energy away (low motivation etc). So i use my reason, i know that 2 minutes of pleasure arent worth compared to weeks of regrets and loss of energy. So i do some sport and i have no more anxiety nor stress.

PS:No offense but there are some pleasure that you discover once you leave the addiction (alcool, smoking, fapping etc etc), you cant even imagine them, u think that it wont be better than the pleasure that you are having right now but it is a mistake : its not because you dont know it that it doesnt exist, humans are too proud to admit it. The only thing you can do is to trust the other who left it. Trust me when you will leave it you will enjoy your whole life instead of a moment of it.
 
I don't know anything... All I have is my own humble experience... And I don't think it is a good thing. (In my opinion of course)
 
There is a learning curve to this whole process. Progress comes in stages and it comes gradually.

Some start by doing PMO multiple times per day to disturbing porn. This is rock bottom.

Then after much difficulty and introspection, they graduate to once a day with more normal porn.

Then they try to go a few days in between PMO.

Then they try masturbating sometimes without using porn.

Eventually they give up porn and develop the power to go a week or two without MO. To achieve even this is very good compared to the rock bottom.

Beyond this begins the realm of sexual transmutation, where the man decides he isn't going to masturbate at all. Maybe he isn't perfect and he slips up once in a while, but he goes for long streaks of 90, 120, 360+ days without masturbating or watching porn. This is also the time when many men, if they didn't have a girlfriend before now, go out and form that relationship.

It becomes his commitment for how he wants to live life. He decides to put his sexual energy to use towards productive activities in his life, instead of wasting it on masturbation. He uses his horniness as fuel to get out there and do the things he's afraid of doing in his life. And he is rewarded multiple times over for his abstinence by the achievements he brings into his life thanks to his newly directed sexual energy.

Beyond even this is a state of monkhood and enlightenment which I haven't personally explored, so I won't speak about it.

So, yes, I believe a man's life is better when he doesn't masturbate. But really you should be thinking about where you are in your own journey, and what is the next step to take to make your life more fulfilling to you.

Each of us has the task before him to grow and to strive to do better with his own life. It is not our job to compare ourselves to other people, but to put an honest and sincere effort towards the enrichment of yourself, step by step, little by little.
 
Yep u do said:
Now that i am cured of my both addictions (p and m) I can tell you that fapping is very unnatural for me, how stupid do you look having sex with your hand, u call it "fapping" but the true name of it is "having sex with your hand", you can be proud of you really. Also i know that it is taking my energy away (low motivation etc). So i use my reason, i know that 2 minutes of pleasure arent worth compared to weeks of regrets and loss of energy. So i do some sport and i have no more anxiety nor stress.

PS:No offense but there are some pleasure that you discover once you leave the addiction (alcool, smoking, fapping etc etc), you cant even imagine them, u think that it wont be better than the pleasure that you are having right now but it is a mistake : its not because you dont know it that it doesnt exist, humans are too proud to admit it. The only thing you can do is to trust the other who left it. Trust me when you will leave it you will enjoy your whole life instead of a moment of it.
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I didn’t tell anyone go to fap with their hand or whatever but wanted to share my own experience and how overwhelming my anxiety. I wanted to tell anyone Masturbration is not sin because some people thought it was sin. They felt bad and lead to worse anxiety after released because of that. I didn’t tell you fap often but just be careful and limit. Depend on what situations. If that bad for you, then stop because you can’t control yourself and too addicted to it. So go to do something instead of fap. Some people can control themselves and and resist it easy. Everyone are different. And everyone have different choices to do or not.

PST: Sorry, this English isn’t my first language. Please be nice to me.
 
Whitemyger34 said:
I didn’t tell anyone go to fap with their hand or whatever but wanted to share my own experience and how overwhelming my anxiety. I wanted to tell anyone Masturbration is not sin because some people thought it was sin. They felt bad and lead to worse anxiety after released because of that. I didn’t tell you fap often but just be careful and limit. Depend on what situations. If that bad for you, then stop because you can’t control yourself and too addicted to it. So go to do something instead of fap. Some people can control themselves and and resist it easy. Everyone are different. And everyone have different choices to do or not.

PST: Sorry, this English isn’t my first language. Please be nice to me.
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As long as i can understand you there is no problem :)
Its your right to have your own opinion and I am giving mine too. Just one question, no proudness or shame, what is your best streak? Because there are things that you cant talk about if you havent experienced it, even if u read what some people felt, it is something different.
Thats why i say that there are other ways to get rid of anxiety, better than fapping and healthier.
About the religious aspect i would say that fapping is a sin in most of religions but i am not sure. Have you noticed that even non-religious people feel guilty after they fapped? Its is something unnatural really. Fapping weakens your body and your motivation, it destroys your life and your future marital life.
Really for me nothing justify us to do this stupid act, even anxiety or stress. I think that if there was no P in society people wdnt even think to do it.
 
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