Is masturbating not to porn but just to real people bad

Hello! And welcome!
I hope some of the stories and counsels that you will find there will help you get control over your brain.
I will not directly answer your question or vote white or black, not bad or horrible.
This is an each man (or each woman) problem. If your conscience lead you to disapproval of your behavior, and make you feel uncomfortable with yourself and others then I guess you might try to get control of yourself body and mind. Feeling in control of your self, finding a balance can make us feel good and positive.
I hope you will find materials that will help you in this matter.
Go on!

 

One thing that is real hard to do at your age (and I know what I'm talking about as I was already addicted to open and masturbation at your age) but can be very helpful and constructive is to talk to your parents about your feelings and questioning. They can be very comprehensive. Either you might read and ear all kinds of points of view on the matter...

 

Porn is what you make it. For more than a decade I rarely looked at 'porn', but I had a serious addiction to masturbation using fantasies in my head. My later escalation to a porn addiction was an offshoot of my earlier, much more deep-seated addiction to lust and physical pleasure.

If you lust after girls (or anything, for that matter), with or without masturbation, you are still looking at porn, in your own mind. It is still addictive- it is still problematic, and it will not satisfy you.

Fantasizing is not healing, and masturbation is not a force for good in your life. Try to find ways to abandon those practices. This community can help you with that endeavor.

 

It isn’t a real person. It is your thoughts and images in your own head about a person. So it is really part of you. Thus you have split yourself.

 

Interesting.

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Hey welcome to the community.
I thinks it's not inherently bad, but it could be. I mean (and this might cause controversy) I don't think masturbation is bad for everyone. The thing is that we have been addicted to it and associating it with porn for so long, that there are bridges of sorts in our brains that connect the the two. And porn IS bad for you. So I would stop masturbating too, until your brain rewires. Maybe those concepts are new for you, but there's a lot of information here about all that. Hope I helped, best of luck!

 

i know that you are talking for a noble cause, but unfortunately some people want to keep masturbating even though it's essentially useless.

 

Well talking from experience fantasising about girls I knew really fucked up my personal relationship with them. It may sound weird but that's how thing 's happened with me. Like I had few good friends back in school but I think my actions lead to what happened. So yeah...it's best not to fantasise at all.

 

What you are doing is just watching re-runs of porn from memory, substituting the faces of porn actresses with people you know. So it's still pretty bad.
And eventually you will go back to watching porn when fantasizing gets too boring...

Fantasizing is not a good way to use the mind, unless you use it for something productive, like being a writer or poet, or figuring out a way to build a bridge or something

 

I would say this is how it all started to begin with. The root of why we watch porn, so yea. But on the other hand if your going to relapse you might as well do it in your own imagination than to porn. Not the worst thing, but best trying to just recondition to want a relationship and intimacy rather than solo sex.

 

If you are going to relapse, you might as well don't. Full stop.
If you know what you are doing, then it is in your power to stop.
All else is justification and giving in to the addiction.

 

I think its a difference if its a real person you know pretty well or just a fantasy on your mind. imo