Is my wife porn? ***TRIGGER WARNING***

Yes.

Oh you had to give us a most graphic account of all your sexual fantasies you've acted on and then say you're a person in Christ (which means what exactly?) IMO, if you want to sincerely change then Christ is ready to help you. Until then, Satan has you right where he wants you.

Really? So what is she saying is the reason for wanting a divorce?

If you feel it's a sin, it's a sin. Your conscience still being able to recognize that you're offending your God is the most positive thing I get out of your post. Go your way and sin no more I say.

 

This post should be bumped regularly to serve as an example for everyone whose porn-induced fetishes have progressed to cuckoldry to see why they should never ever act on them beyond the realm of fantasy.
All the talk in cuckold websites on how to drag your wife into the lifestyle of an addict is like a bunch of junkies exchanging ideas on what's the best speedball mix to do together with your wife to get closer to her than ever.

The vast, vast majority of women find cuckoldry as repulsive as poop fetish and you need years of conditioning and a spouse who loves a man unconditionally to give in to his whims.

Unless you're not in a relationship or aren't serious about it, never ever involve a third person in your sex life; there's no happy ending to that. It's even worse than getting something on the side. Self-respect goes a long way.

Throw it all away before you seek professional help. Your feeling of loss will give way to the feeling of freedom.

 

Alcoholics are addicted to alcohol and put it in their bodies in many forms: beer, wine, liquor, nyquil . Some use only one kind, some a few, some use many carriers of ethyl alcohol all at once! Who gives a shit what the beverage is, the alkie and everyone else knows it's about the chemical the drug. A lot of people swear up and down it's not and have lots of very interesting ideas about why they love drink X. But a lot of them move on to a harder drink over the years. I had this with one drink that I swore was my true love in terms of having fun with friends and taste oh it was a true aesthetic experience and then I tried to stop and I was obsessed. I thought i could get alcohol free drink X, and realized I didn't want to. The point of all this is that just like beer wine and liquor have something in common, all forms types contents and media of pornography have something in common with many different forms of sex and all forms of fantasy. This might could save us from hundreds of rabbit holes of "this is different, no this one doesn't feel the same it seems fine." Just like someone who's flipped over two cars drinking X who says "well I'll switch to Y" that still has alcohol

 

Hey guys can you please put me out of my misery and tell me what cuckold is? I don’t want to google it.

 

sure. its when you watch your spouse fuck another person.

its pretty degrading, but some people are into it.

 

wow!! Quite a unique post .

I’d be lying if I said I have not watched cuckold porn and fantasised my girlfriend at the time doing it with my friend or someone I personally don’t know. From there you can pretty much predict how worst things can go if you don’t do something about it.

All this has occurred for you unfortunately because all those years, you watched porn which made brainwashed you a lot im thinkin.

go to a Rehab maybe?

sorry for your divorce

 

If your relationship with your wife is over, then you need to delete those videos/pics. You need to move on with your life and looking at that stuff isn't going to help.
If you absolutely must indulge in these kind of fetishes with another woman, it's best to find someone that is into it already - fetish dating sites or clubs.

 

And that's why I knew I didn't want to google it. Thanks.

 

Brother, I’m sorry to hear that. I think it’s good you turned to the church. I turned to God many years ago when I hit rock bottom and He directed my path to a church. By rock bottom I’m talking deep depression, hearing voices, loneliness, sadness, and isolation. How’s it (the church) all working out for you? And how’s your relationship with God and/or Jesus coming along?

Anger issues ... were you using your anger to make her do something, stop her from doing something or to punish her for doing or not doing something?

And what ‘help’ are you looking for by coming here to NoFap, may I ask?

 

Maybe it’s the way you describe your situation. We don’t see much remorse in a lifestyle that is really bad for your and your wife. Also completely immoral.

The fact that the post is really explicit doesn’t help neither. what you describe could be someone else fantasy, so it could make him relapse.

Anyway, the most important imo is that you decided to turn to Christ.

To answer at your question, I think it’s still some kind of porn, especially if you masturbate on it.

 

im not shocked btw, not because i'm on the same shoes as yours (god please protect me and my family)

but because once i got a chat from other ppl sayin that he want me to do... you know what....with his wife...but i turned it down ofc

and i said to myself gosh the porn effect is so disturbing, it's even make human like animal

the simple answer yes its a porn

the motivational answer are :
1. find god man, are u sure its not a sin in christ ? are u christ by a religion or only christ for status?
2. u turned into a demon, a slave of porn,
3. u destroy her life, are u have a little bit shame on you?
4. its not a normal people do, its disgusting and immoral
5. please be human not a demon, u can fix it, its not too late, back to human please

 

Back to topic.

No, I do not consider just pictures of your mistress or wife or gf a porn.
Reason: porn is thus unreal fantasy way above what you can do and which misleads you.

Why so many people are angry here: They do not have enough sex and simply want to trap everyone in hard mode (aka involuntary celibacy)

 

sir no one want to trap some one into hard mode fu*k that, dont be a hypocrite jerk here sir

but this shit right here is an example what porn can lead someone into, are u sure to read it with consciousness and your hand off your dick?

 

I am stunned at the judgement expressed here by some people.

Shame on you. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. And the second. And the third.

His wife is an adult.

Their sex was consensual.

Her sex drive was non-existent prior to their adventures together. Now, she still engages in this type of sex - because she wants to do it.

Who are we to judge?

 

then why TF is he asking in this forum in the first place !!!!

nah sorry im not the type of people who see bad thing and just okay with it,, i say what i want to say

and i said that is immoral and caused by porn

why are u so salty about us who tell him the truth?

 

You’ve done wrong.

Now, you condemn a man for doing wrong.

He wants help not judgement.

Judge not lest you be judged.

 

read my answer on him man

read the holly book, and see who is right and who is wrong about that issue

 

It isn’t about right and wrong.

it’s about help versus condemnation - understanding versus moral judgement.

Someone else could come here and judge you and me both for doing a “bad thing” and for being “immoral" and a "jerk." This site is secular and isn’t supposed to engage in moral judgement.

We are supposed to be brothers suffering from similar afflictions that have destroyed our health.

None of us wants to be torn apart here. We need to be able to trust one another as fellow sufferers. That’s why we come here - to speak to other people who are like us and so won’t judge us or even our behavior.

if you wish to advise this man that in your opinion his behavior is not healthy for him, then do so.

But, if you persist in calling him immoral, you are violating his trust.