Is ogling a withdrawal symptom or not?

I don't know if ogling is a withdrawal symptom, though for me it's certainly part of the same obsessive behavior that keeps PMO going. One of the things I try to do is maintain "custody of my eyes" - if I see someone I'm attracted to, I try to keep from ogling, mostly successfully these days. It's more than just the "creeper" issue (though that's part of it); it's more that I don't want to feed the beast that keeps me in the cycle of sickness. I sometimes have to act like I'm a traffic cop and tell myself to keep my eyes moving, but this is one area where I've gotten some victory.

 

@Salt & Light
lol yeah its partially a withdrawal symptom, but It's also just something that all men do naturally no matter what. Man are designed to look at women from an evolutionary standpoint. He is not trying to hurt your feelings and it has nothing to do with you or the quality of your relationship. If a man was in the happiest relationship possible with the hottest most attractive women on the planet.. he would still look at other women from time to time. It is just built in us. It doesn't necessarily mean he is going to sleep with that women or wants to sleep with her. Its kind of like how women can feel very slight attraction towards some random men from time to time on an emotional level. It doesn't mean you are going to sleep with that man though. we are all just human beings and it is how we are wired.

 

I would suggest doing some research on this addiction, assuming he is an addict. Yourbrainonporn.com has some great stuff you can learn about on there and it will answer all questions you may have. Alternatively you can watch youtube videos if you can't be bothered reading.

Think about this addiction like an alcohol addiction, because it is similar. Except in this instance your triggers aren't just at a bar or the odd drink you see, triggers are everywhere and its about learning to manage them. Over time this gets easier and more manageable.

The P industry gives guys unrealistic expectations of how a girl should look and act. No girl can match a guys ultimate fantasy and no girl should. It is understandable that these unrealistic standards make girls feel unwanted and undervalued, though the more guys turn away from P and back into normal society then the less 'pull' P and other triggers will have on their lives.

Hope that made sense somewhat but i highly suggest checking out other websites as they explain things far better than any of us will

 

I know how you feel, sweetie. I can’t go anywhere with him anymore because I feel like garbage if I catch him looking at someone. You’re strong for being so willing to help him with his unfaithful behavior.

 

You can call it a withdrawal symptom in the sense that it happens (and it happened to me).

And I'm not calling it ogling, it's just looking, nothing more.

And:

So, no, it's not a withdrawal symptom, in the sense that it's how things are supposed to work naturally.