Is the problem me or her???

So I've been talking to this girl for over 8 months now. It's grown from a friendship to something more romantic. The issue I'm currently having is sometimes I feel like she's in total love with me, everything is great, she expresses how she only wants a future with me. Then (literately) a day after she's distant, doesn't seeks my attention as much, and just seems distant. I have a preoccupied anxiety attachment style, which means I overthink everything in my relationships... This has hurt many of my past relationships, yet I've managed to gain control over this. I've spoken to friends and family about my current relationship and they all tell me it's time to let go. Yet I've managed to hold on and make a lot of progress during this year alone, especially on valentines day where we had an amazing romance filled day. Am I letting my anxiety get to me, am I overthinking this.... Or do you think it's time to find someone who wants to take things more seriously since she feels she just doesn't want a relationship as of right now, (We are both relatively new to dating)

 

Very true, I guess I've gotten stuck in this loop that seems to happen every month in which everything seems romantic at first then everything takes a twist and she no longer seeks my attention. I'm hurting myself at this point. I've expressed to her I'm willing to make things work if she puts in consistent effort. But at this point I'm starting to believe I've replaced my PMO addiction with an addiction to feeling in love with someone. A person who doesn't show consistency in terms of love is going to cause issues in a long term relationship.

 

Completely agree. Thanks for your response. We are both new to love and love can be very confusing and rapidly changing.