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Is this a relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Dec 23, 2017.

  1. Hi everyone, so I had set my goals to no PMO for a month however my husband and I ended up having relations last night and MO ended up happening, I'd like to know if this is considered a relapse?
    I've seen 2 stances in these forums:
    1) Yes it is a relapse because regardless of whether or not it was with a partner I still MO'ed.
    2) No it is not a relapse because I did not succumb to pornography or a fantasy and MO is fine when it is with a real person.

    I'm just starting out so I just want some input and guidance from everyone who has been here for a while.
     
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  2. Lily White

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    Personally I think it depends on how you see it? What is your goal in quitting MO? Is your partner on board?
     
  3. I Am that I Am

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    I wouldn't count it as one but I also wouldn't want to keep an MO habit around even with a partner. That's just me. Some keep it around I am not saying you are forbidden.

    If we got technical anything from hardmode up O is seen as a reset. At least I think that is how it goes. I haven't paid attention to anything other than extreme saviour mode for sometime.
     
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  4. I Am that I Am

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    So in other words don't reset as your goal was no PMO and no P was involved. Sorry for multiple replies I want to share something assuming you are straight.
     
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  5. Honestly I feel like I messed up so I'm gonna let this be a warning but if I do it again then I will reset.
    Maybe when I'm further along I'll be more accepting of it? I just know I've been struggling with M for a long time so I do need to take some time off of it.
     
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  6. I see what you mean.
    I wouldn't want to keep my MO habit but I wasn't even sure about how this worked so I'll let this be a stumble, if I do it again I'll reset.
     
  7. I Am that I Am

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    Healing Love through the Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy

    Oh and perhaps take a read through this sometime if you have not and maybe find a way to convince hubby to as well if you find a shred of insight in it yourself.


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    For females only with an extreme tolerance to music:

    The secret rule for the quickest and fullest reboot? No O's. If it sounds daunting fear not and perhaps read a book called Cupid's Poisoned Arrow if you ever get the chance :emoji_cupid::emoji_radioactive::emoji_yin_yang:

     
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  8. Thank you! I'll definitely look into it!
     
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  9. I Am that I Am

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    Sorry old site turned to spam site removed link wish you healing and peace I must go.
     
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  10. I Am that I Am

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    Dammit I edited it sorry for going into hyperlink fever here all fixed.
     
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