Is this normal ?? A gen Z subjected to extreme pornographic use for years..

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Kalishnikov_lol

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So , i've read several posts here , been here for quite some time , im 22 , started PMO at 13 YO ...i actually quit P a few months ago , but not MO , just reduced the frequency ....my symptoms are bizarre , and have not necessarily improved after quitting P , i guess i'll have to go cold turkey...what i'd like for ya'll is to tell me if some or all of you experience similar symptoms , i just wanna go deep into this , find out how deep i am in this puddle...


So , my LIBIDO just died a few years ago , hasnt been back yet , MORNING WOODS were a no but have reappeared albeit weak in strength , now im straight , but i dont feel lust , love or even sexual attraction towards women , you know theres a tingling , an excitement in you when youre near women , but i havent exprrienced that in years , stopping me from getting into any romantic relationships , although i have found myself close to women many times , i just feel the sexual tension , maybe i'll feel something when i see a naked women , or with some foreplay , but its still unnatural ....i can stare at a woman,s breasts , her behind , or any part of her but i dont feel a thing , maybe coz i watched them naked on screens my entire life...
So i'd really like some responses , questions if you wanna ask any...is this normal , or im just a monk or demon who doesnt feel any attraction to any human whatsoever....
 
Hello Kalishnikov_lol,

I personally can relate to your struggle in some ways and not in others. I am 40 years old married father of 2, one of which is my biological child. So obviously I had function even through the use of porn, but one thing I have found just recently that the more I used it the more I struggled. Now at 40, I struggle to stay erect consistently, but ever since I quit looking at porn, I have begun to improve. Unlike you I am the opposite I have so much lust when I see other women, I can't control my thoughts often.

But the reason for this is still the same, excessive porn uses causes your brain to rewire. In your case it rewired to numb out all sexual emotion towards the real-life women. Based on the research that I found they all point to the fact that if you just continue to stay away from porn then it can start to rewire your brain back to a healthy way. The trick is also to eliminate not just porn, but to eliminate masturbation and the idea of any self-soothing tendencies. There are so many articles about this topic you can find just doing a simple Google search. I also suggest finding a podcast or support group to help you through your specific situation. That is what is helping me.
 
Kalishnikov_lol said:
So , i've read several posts here , been here for quite some time , im 22 , started PMO at 13 YO ...i actually quit P a few months ago , but not MO , just reduced the frequency ....my symptoms are bizarre , and have not necessarily improved after quitting P , i guess i'll have to go cold turkey...what i'd like for ya'll is to tell me if some or all of you experience similar symptoms , i just wanna go deep into this , find out how deep i am in this puddle...


So , my LIBIDO just died a few years ago , hasnt been back yet , MORNING WOODS were a no but have reappeared albeit weak in strength , now im straight , but i dont feel lust , love or even sexual attraction towards women , you know theres a tingling , an excitement in you when youre near women , but i havent exprrienced that in years , stopping me from getting into any romantic relationships , although i have found myself close to women many times , i just feel the sexual tension , maybe i'll feel something when i see a naked women , or with some foreplay , but its still unnatural ....i can stare at a woman,s breasts , her behind , or any part of her but i dont feel a thing , maybe coz i watched them naked on screens my entire life...
So i'd really like some responses , questions if you wanna ask any...is this normal , or im just a monk or demon who doesnt feel any attraction to any human whatsoever....
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My one was P&M and psychological. You could be traumatised from this P&M stuff. My father was abusive but he got worse and this effected me, I split up with a girl he thought was good for me and blamed me. He turned all the siblings against me. Long story short, I cut him and my siblings out of my life. I blocked them on whatsapp for 1 year. They reached out and my dad is behaving much better. I don't walk on eggshells anymore. I wouldn't be surprised part of it is psychological
 
Kalishnikov_lol said:
So , i've read several posts here , been here for quite some time , im 22 , started PMO at 13 YO ...i actually quit P a few months ago , but not MO , just reduced the frequency ....my symptoms are bizarre , and have not necessarily improved after quitting P , i guess i'll have to go cold turkey...what i'd like for ya'll is to tell me if some or all of you experience similar symptoms , i just wanna go deep into this , find out how deep i am in this puddle...


So , my LIBIDO just died a few years ago , hasnt been back yet , MORNING WOODS were a no but have reappeared albeit weak in strength , now im straight , but i dont feel lust , love or even sexual attraction towards women , you know theres a tingling , an excitement in you when youre near women , but i havent exprrienced that in years , stopping me from getting into any romantic relationships , although i have found myself close to women many times , i just feel the sexual tension , maybe i'll feel something when i see a naked women , or with some foreplay , but its still unnatural ....i can stare at a woman,s breasts , her behind , or any part of her but i dont feel a thing , maybe coz i watched them naked on screens my entire life...
So i'd really like some responses , questions if you wanna ask any...is this normal , or im just a monk or demon who doesnt feel any attraction to any human whatsoever....
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I think you should quit M as well. I'm not sure why everyone says it's good for you to M lol. I understand, if we are not living in the world of the internet. The internet is here to stay. Stopping M will help with stopping P. Hey up to you

Part of healing is being in a loving relationship. Light kissing and cuddles will help. Letting her know you are on nofap helps too.
 
22 is awfully young to be going through sexual dysfunction. You could try a 90 day reboot. It couldn't hurt. But if that doesn't work, you may want to talk to a doctor.
 
Kalishnikov_lol said:
So , i've read several posts here , been here for quite some time , im 22 , started PMO at 13 YO ...i actually quit P a few months ago , but not MO , just reduced the frequency ....my symptoms are bizarre , and have not necessarily improved after quitting P , i guess i'll have to go cold turkey...what i'd like for ya'll is to tell me if some or all of you experience similar symptoms , i just wanna go deep into this , find out how deep i am in this puddle...


So , my LIBIDO just died a few years ago , hasnt been back yet , MORNING WOODS were a no but have reappeared albeit weak in strength , now im straight , but i dont feel lust , love or even sexual attraction towards women , you know theres a tingling , an excitement in you when youre near women , but i havent exprrienced that in years , stopping me from getting into any romantic relationships , although i have found myself close to women many times , i just feel the sexual tension , maybe i'll feel something when i see a naked women , or with some foreplay , but its still unnatural ....i can stare at a woman,s breasts , her behind , or any part of her but i dont feel a thing , maybe coz i watched them naked on screens my entire life...
So i'd really like some responses , questions if you wanna ask any...is this normal , or im just a monk or demon who doesnt feel any attraction to any human whatsoever....
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Can take up to 8 months or more to regain libido after quitting porn. I made it around 4 months once, and experienced a flatline (no libido) for a good amount of time.

Look up Gabe Deem, he knows more than almost anyone about porn addiction. He's scientifically literate and has read every study relating to porn addiction, and he ran a forum where he's dealt with porn addicts for 10 years. He's the best source for answers to these questions.
 
My man, it sounds like your dopamine receptors are damaged from years of watching this crap. Stop watching it and replace it with healthy habits. This is what I'm trying to do. Hit the gym, eat well, spend time in the sun. All sounds preachy but it works. When you do try to get with a woman, take it slow, sex isnt just about the orgasm but the journey, the intimacy of it.
 
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