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Is this pied I'm actually scared

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Daredevil99, Jun 28, 2017.

  1. Daredevil99

    Daredevil99 Fapstronaut

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    So a few years ago I used to pull a lot of girls before I started getting really hooked on porn. I found it easy to get an erection most times and found a girl a huge turn on. But the last year or half so I've not even attempted to date girls. This is due to not being very turned on when I meet them and having anxiety about not being able to get a full erection , my dicks literally smaller I'm 22 btw. I'm only on day 2 of nofap after countless set backs however I met a girl I like and I want to persue more with her but I'm very worried as I didn't get turned on at all when I met her. Shall I tell her about pied or wait to see if it comes back with her? Any advice helpfull sorry about long read.
     
  2. HappyDaysAreHereAgain

    HappyDaysAreHereAgain Fapstronaut

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    Try thinking of yourself as a 10.
    For the next 90 days, you see yourself as a ten,
    a ten year-old kid that that has absolutely no interest in sex.
    After 90 days re-evaluate your situation when you are capable of thinking straight. At the moment, you may not have your hands between your legs, but that seems to be where your head's keyed on. Unless you really enjoy being PIED for life, you can get serious about your abstinence and reboot.
     
  3. The Wrestler

    The Wrestler Fapstronaut

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    What makes for a successful relationship, to you?

    What is the role of sexual attraction in that relationship?

    Is it impossible to get to know someone if you are not sexually attracted to them?

    What stage are you in, with your relationship with this girl?

    What are you afraid of?

    Which frightens you more, not getting turned on with her or never getting to know her? Why is that?

    Based on the testimonials of people here, what is reasonable to expect in terms of recovery, should it be porn-induced erectile dysfunction?

    What would you want or what would you hope her response would be if you told her?

    What do you want in this relationship?

    What are you going to to do get that?
     
  4. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Sounds like you been fapping to porn a lot.
     
  5. Daredevil99

    Daredevil99 Fapstronaut

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    I have and it's messed me up
     
  6. GG2002

    GG2002 Fapstronaut

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    The good news is you can fix this. You are so young and you have a long life ahead of you. Let that fear you feel motivate you every time you are tempted to fap to porn. Quit now when you are young. Not only is it easier to change the younger you are but you will give yourself a full healthy sex life for the rest of your life! One day you will meet the one (and in between then you will have others) and you want to make sure when you do you can have an amazing sex life with her. Many men don't realize they need to stop until they get into a relationship and realize they can't function normally in bed. Then it's panic time and you try to stop but find it hard and you lose the girl. Many addicts think they only fap cause they are single and when they are no longer they will stop but they can't or the years of pmo have done so much damage it's a long recovery process and most women won't stay for that long. You my friend are wise beyond your years to realize you need to fix this now. I'm not trying to scare you more but indeed PIED is a relationship killer just read around on here. I'm female and my partners pied is killing our relationship. The confidence with women will come. That's not just a product of porn but of your age. You will build yourself up. Take the 90 days NoFap and get your own house in order and then get back out there. The worst she can say is no so talk to women and be okay with getting shot down. Why cause eventually you won't. One or two or even three will say yes. Like the lottery you gotta play to win! Think of it as practice. Some of the men I have found most attractive had that level of confidence and you know what most of them are below average or average guys. Women are people just like you and 99% of the time we are just as nervous meeting you and even more so when we are having sex with you for the first time. In our head "do I look fat? "Do I smell okay?" "Is he thinking about his ex?" We are all just as nervous some of us are just better at faking !

    One last point and this is about your penis shrinking. Is it really? If you honestly think it is then measure it everyday and record it. I'm willing to bet it's the same size. I have read this so many times on here. My fiancé was insistent that not PMOing was making his penis smaller but I saw it and it was not. So I offered to do just that I measured it everyday for three months. Guess what it had zero change. Whether he was PMOing or not it was exactly the same! I don't get why men are so obsessed with it! Btw most women don't want porn penis' and we think about the size of your penis significantly less than you do! I always say unless it's so small I can't feel it then it's good with me!
     
  7. Freitas.P

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    I can relate that so much... It's hard being horny and single.

    And I'm with the same struggle that you @Daredevil99. My last PIED was about one month ago but I still dating the girl. Kinda told her about the NoFap - in fact, I explained that I couldn't go hard because my constant PMO and that I'd stop it - but I've relapsed multiple times this month. Now, I wanna see her, wanna have sex with her but I don't have enough confidence.
     

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