No, instincts are not driving the rational mind. They influence our decisions, yes, but thats not the same as driving. If instincts were driving our rational mind we would be acting irrational. Our instincts are subordinate to our rational mind, this is how we have the ability to choose! This ability is literally why we have laws, rules, and the duty to take responsibility for our actions. It's what makes us stop "rationalizing" aka making excuses for our bad behaviors/actions. No one is saying it's immoral to have instincts and impulses. If they're saying aything it's that it's immoral for you to excuses yourself from controlling them when you have the ability to do so. I do understand that, for f-sake, I've been telling you I understand that. What I'm asking for are EXAMPLES of actions you deem as proof that someone is demonstrating you're their favorite flavor! What don't you comprehend about this request? You: People in a relationship have to demonstrate to each other that they're the best flavor. Me: How? You: By actions, of course! Don't you know the meaning of demonstrate? Me: I know the meaning. What acts demonstrate to another spouse that they're the best flavor? You: Words not actions, that's what. Me: So you don't have examples of actions? You: Actions!!! Actions demonstrate!!! Actions!!! Me: Well, I think we've reached as far as we're going to go with this. Thanks and have a great day.